at ppls houses and have no guilt about it?!!? I know ppl that just dumped their kid/kids at their parents house and leave them for DAYS... some times up to TWO WEEKS at a time!!!!! That can;t be normal!!! Why can't ppl just take responsibility for their children??
What do you think?? Do you do that??
2006-09-30 08:34:21 · 17 answers · asked by ♥cutemamma♥ 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
BTW.. i am a mother of two kids!
2006-09-30 08:35:29 · update #1
mommyof2.. i agree with you.. parenting is never easy but there is no excuse to just dump your kids off!!
2006-09-30 08:50:10 · update #2
Lindsey.. i don;t.. i chose not too.. i could just dump my kids off too if I wanted to.. i don;t.. i don't like to.. I just cant stand being away from then.. Period. I have two kids (3 1/2 and 2) and i have never spend a night away from my 2 year old.. i have spend three nigh away from my 3 year old but two of those i was in HOSPITAL having my baby.. th other one i let her spend the nigh at ther gradma's and will not do it again for a LLOONNGG time.. i just miss them too much
2006-09-30 08:54:46 · update #3
I know parents like that and i don't appreciate it. I know it is hard sometimes but the ppl they are dumping their kids off to aren't the ones who had the child. Its not fair the child/children. My brother's wife is always trying to dump their twin girls off on me or my grandmother, everytime she has to go to the grocerie store, dr. appointments for her other kids and anything else you can think of. i understand that it is hard for her and my brother cause they have 5 kids but the 2 older boys are from her first marriage but they have 3 girls the oldest one is fixing to be 3 and the twins are fixing to be 2, but you know they are the ones who decided to have more kids so they need to learn how to take all the kids with them. I never leave my 2 kids with anyone unless i have a parent meeting at my oldest daughters school cause she goes to Head Start and the siblings are not allowed in the building, but the only times they are with someone else is when their grandparents want them to stay the night or take them somewhere but any other time they are with me whereever i go. I just disapprove of anyone who does that to their child/children. Its wrong
2006-09-30 08:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by mommyof2daughtersandlovinit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK I can understand overnight because there are times when I feel like I need a break but I am with you for those who leave their kids for days at a time. I remember once I left my daughter for the weekend and I felt like I was going through withdrawal. I really can't answer this question. Sorry. Some parents are just irresponsible. I even know some people who find their kids irritating and rather not be around them. I guess it all depends on the parent.
2006-09-30 08:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by whos_tat_grl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on the circumstance. My husband and I went on a well deserved 5 day vacation last September (my daughter was 13 months at the time). My parents said they would be happy to watch the baby and we went. Sometimes we just want to go to a dinner and movie together and bring her over to my parents overnight. I really dont feel the least bit guilty about it. I think it is important to be able to get away as a couple sometimes, and if my parents dont mind watching her then I see no harm done.
2006-09-30 08:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by sooz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are saying. BUT--ever since my son was born my parents have wanted my son to come up and stay with them for a week. Without me there. I have never done it, but I might later on down the road.
A lot of grandparents (who live far away like my parents do) want to spend DAYS at a time with their grandchildren because they don't know when they will see them again.
When I was little my parents would leave us with my Grandma for about a week. My grandma loved it, my sister and I loved it, and my parents loved it. We lived in England and they didn't have babysitters. (We are American--I grew up overseas only seeing my grandparents maybe twenty times throughout my childhood--my dad was military) How would you feel if you couldn't even get away from your kids for a few hours? I bet you wouldn't feel guilty.
I don't consider it "dumping" your kids off. I consider it, in my situation a win win win situation. My son would get to spend time with his grandparents. I would get to spend time ALONE. MY parents would get to know their grandson.
It's okay if you don't what I'm trying to say is some people don't have the option. I don't have the option of a babysiter. I don't have an option of talking with my parents face to face everyday. I don't have the option of inviting them over to see their grandson and nephew.
Sometimes you do things for other people--not for yourself.
2006-09-30 08:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by .vato. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is VERY irresponsible !!
People should take care of their own children, and not leave them with other families.
But it doesn't hurt for children to spend a week in the summertime with their grandparents, if that's what you mean. Some of my fondest childhood memories were the times I spent with my Grandma and Grandpa out on the farm, when my parents weren't there.
They SHOULD get that close to their grandparents, because the elderly have LOTS to share with little ones.
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2006-09-30 08:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My sister is very guilty of this! My little girl will be 3 in October and we've been to dinner without her twice for about 2 hours each. I would love more time alone with my husband to go places and do things but I'm the parent and don't want to burden my parents anymore than my sister already has.
2006-09-30 09:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by Alison 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is strange. I can barely stand to be away from my daughter for a few hours. Even with my own parents, I let them know a few days in advance if I need them to babysit for a few hours so my husband and I can go out.
2006-09-30 08:39:57 · answer #7 · answered by Precious 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I no what u mean.. my sister just calls and dumps her kids out at my house and they will b with me for like a week.. it gets old but i put up with it because if they are with me then i no they aren't at some druggies house.. she would just dump them with who would take them if i didn't take them.. so i just take care of her kids and to tell u the truth they like me better than they do her..so in some ways it may be better.. me i cant stand to be with out my kids for more than a day.. i am not like way overprotective but i do like to take care of my own kids.. i also do let like my older sister or mom take them for the weekend if they ask for them..
good luck
2006-09-30 08:48:00 · answer #8 · answered by lilmissthang025 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because people think its their choice and freedom to just go around and have kids. NOOOOOOO by law if you are not taking care of the child the state will take them away,,bottom line is noone today has a clue why they have children.Pro choice ;bull; its not your body its the babies body when he or she starts to grow in the womb. That baby has a right to live.
2006-09-30 08:44:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to drop them off just for the hell of it I think it's not right. But sometimes under the circumstances you have to. My husbands nana always wants me drop off my son and even though I don't mind it just feels weird. My son loves her and has fun there. I do take her offer when I go to doctor visits and when I need to pamper myself. I can't be away from my son for more than four hours....
2006-09-30 08:49:42 · answer #10 · answered by arielle 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋