Is it wrong for someone to be attracted to the same person as her friend? What do you do in this situation?
2006-09-30 08:17:52 · 27 answers · asked by italia_azure 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's OK to be attracted internally but make no moves even were they to break up if she is a friend.
2006-09-30 08:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by DrB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to feel attracted to the same person as your friend. You can't control that. However, if he likes her and not you, you have to be prepared for that and bow out gracefully. I once had a crush on the same guy as my sister. He wound up liking her and today they're married and just had a baby. Actually, he and I would have been horrible together, so everything worked out just as it should have. But if the guy you like winds up liking you instead of your friend, you might have a problem on your hands. She might feel hurt. If she's a good friend, though, she'll eventually get over it.
2006-09-30 15:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by RedGoddess14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot help whom you are attracted to. It is not at all wrong to like a guy that your friend likes. What would be wrong would be not letting your friend know how you feel because you know that you would not like it if you liked a guy and a friend went secretly behind your back to date him. Remember, you are friends with this person for a reason, and relationships always come and go.
2006-09-30 15:21:36 · answer #3 · answered by cinarella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Is your friend actually going for this person, because if so, you might wanna back off and lay down some rules for next time this happens. But if they are just sittin' around doing nothin, you should move on in and spit some game. Don't let your friend hold you back because they're taking their time to act on the situation. Get at it!!! Good luck by the way.
2006-09-30 15:23:12 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong. What you can do in this type of situation is wait and see which one of you the guy makes a move on and just be happy for the other one. OR just keep him as a crush or become friends with him. For God's sake don't compete for this guy it will possibly ruin your friendship.
2006-09-30 15:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well it isnt wrong to be attracted to the same person your friend is because its perfectly normal and it just shows how much you and your friend are alike,BUt here is the thing sometimes when these things happen sometimes the friendship is ruined sometimes because one feels bad because of the other ones attention fron the guy or girl.If your friend goes out with the guy then you are Going to have to deal with it even though it Hurts,I say this all the time But if you and him are ment to be then it will work out so dont stress out.Another thing is if he asks you out ofcourse you are going to say yes but what about your friend well thats super hard to deal with but make sure you talk to your friend about your feelings with him and make sure its ok with her first ,its hard to tell your friend at first but if she is a good friend she will eventually see how much you and him need to be together.TrUsT Me i have been in this situation b4.Just remember if she Is your friend you should Be able to tell her anything.
2006-09-30 15:29:33 · answer #6 · answered by lilly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people are attracted to the same persons. We just have to think about wether they like us or not and if they dont then dont worry about it because theres someone attracted to you and you dont even know it.
2006-09-30 15:21:13 · answer #7 · answered by Speaking Truth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No , it is not wrong .. To be attracted to a pretty person , male or female is normal in human nature.. But what is not normal that such love and attraction turns to sexual relation between two females....There is no top sexual enjoyment than between a man and a women, when hers and his unite as one.
2006-09-30 15:27:10 · answer #8 · answered by Nilehawk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this can be a toughy, and can destroy a frienship if your not careful. I would suggest just being upfront w/ your homegirl, and saying something like: Hey girl, so you like so & so? If she likes him, but doesn't have ANY intention on making any moves on him let her know you like him as well, and your gonna holla at him. But if she wants to get w/him, maybe there's something better out there, and you should take the ''L'' this time and let her have, or at least see what's up w/him. He may turn out to be a 100% LOSER! Maybe!!! Or maybe he'll be the right kind of man for her, not you. Feel me?!
2006-09-30 15:22:52 · answer #9 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has your friend been talking to you alot about the other person, saying how great they are? That's usually what happens. One person fancies someone and then they go on and on and on... ;) about it to their friend and their friend gets it and soon they like them too! (almost like a disease infectious!) Look harder, I think you'll find the person has flaws the same as everyone else.
Also when she says he looks great, think well actually he's not as cute as ____ (insert a better looking boy here) and when she says he's cool, try and think well actually he's not as cool as ____ (insert a cooler boy here) this way you will see he's not that great, without upsetting your friend and you can still support her liking him!
Good Luck : )
2006-09-30 15:23:04 · answer #10 · answered by annita p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋