Should a 19 yearold be able to date a 30 year old if they both have interest in eachother?

Question

This girl has been flirting for the past 6 years and Im not sure what should be done. My friends say Im too old . Any comments.

Answer 1

Although a 19 year old is able to date a 30 year old, doing so will present difficult challenges for both parties.

Your friends know you best and if you've chosen friendships wisely the advice should be considered. Your friend's advice is usually sound because your best interest is in their mind. Good/wise friends are a plus because of their positive influence in our lives. Valuable friendships will build value in, provide sound advice, offer warnings and lift one another.

Ultimately the decision lies with you.

Women who are overly flirtatious raise a red-flag of questions. Is she looking for a way out of Mom & Dad's clutches? Has she recently suffered a break up? How many have been added to her roster? (Physical union roster) Is she on a solid emotional foundation? Has she seen dollar signs? Does she like you because of your interest? Your spiritual values? Do you find that she adds value to your day in communications?

Though people have reached a legal age and have the title of "adult", the age difference between 5 yr old and a 16 year old doesn't change when we are 19 and 30. The difference in wisdon and maturity level remains.

Look back and remember being 19 and talking with someone 30.

Challenging, but not impossible. Harder than most but can be done. This relationship will take work, commitment, high morals and is not for the lazy farmer. Much responsibility in on the 30 year old, the 19 year old's future path will be affected.

I'd say, when in doubt don't. Choose wisely. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Well, once she's over 18, nobody can stop you.

Of course, you're likely to get some funny looks for a while, and you're likely to have the in-laws from hell for a LONG time, but an 11 year age difference is not impossible.

I'm a little confused about why you didn't put a stop to this six years ago when she was... 13... and you were... 24... but that's none of my business.

On a relationship level, there are some concerns as to whether the difference in experience and maturity levels might lead to problems. Having a balanced adult-adult relationship, rather than something akin to a disturbing father-daughter-incest relationship may be difficult, and she may begin to feel "taken advantage of" at some point. Careful discussion about the age difference may put her off of the whole thing, which may or may not be for the best, But then again, it's always fun to have a trophy wife...

Answer 3

IT does not matter but the real question to me is why would a 30 year old want to date a 19 year old - emotionally they should be at different levels. So the question to me is why the 30 year old has not matured past someone 10 years their junior.

So, my answer - yes it is fine but it is not an issue of can they - the question is why would they. Granted the 19 year old may be very mature, but I have yet to meet someone fresh out of high school or a high school senior who is emotionally mature - if anyone knows of exceptions and can cite them using facts - I will be happy to concede the point.

Answer 4

Let me share with you... I was 22 he was 52. He looked much younger and was fitter than a fiddle. And of course he lied to me until the date of the birth of our son. Then of course he wasn't anywhere to be found. LOL Who really cares though. If you both are adults and can really learn to enjoy each others life and not feel intimidated by it than go for it. Your friends are just jealous. She is 19, if it were that she was only 17 well then yes that would be a problem. But give it a whirl, go out on a date and give it a run. You certainly can tell most things on the first date. Have fun, and remember you only live once.

Answer 5

Only if the 19 year old is living on her own. Not with mommy and daddy. If she's still living with her parents, she's not ready for a 30 year old man. A 30 year old man who wants to be with a 19 year old girl has some growing up to do himself. She may look grown at 19, but the emotional and mental maturity is probably not there. My guess is you're looking for booty, not a relationship. Whatever.

Answer 6

ok.
if she's been flirting with you since she was 13, there's somthing a little off there.
however, if it was just a 19 year old you met, and you wanted to date, and she wanted to date you then, i say go for it.
But given the whole since she was 13 thing, stay away. Just stay away.
...maybe you meant to type 6 months??

Answer 7

I have two friends in this kind of situation.

One guy is 32, his gf is 18.
Another guy us 43, and his gf is 22.

Both of them happier than the average same-age couple hehe. I guess the difference in age means both of them are not coliding with things at the time of life. Different interests and things to talk about and enjoy.

Its all good.

Take your time and enjoy.

Best of luck with your relationship if you go ahead with it.

Answer 8

She is of legal age. However do you REALLY think you and her would have that much in common?

If in the back of your mind. You want to go after her because she is young and probably hot. I would wish you to concern other options. What if this turned into a long term relationship?

Answer 9

you know what do you fill it is wrong? most 19 yr olds are able to make up there minds about this how ever if you fill it is wrong it will not work out because you will be worried always what others think go with your heart!

Answer 10

it doesn't matter mate, girls these days even though they 18 or 19 , they are like 28 years old .. in physically appearance