My daughter raised the most money for her cheerleading league last year and the year before for homecoming. She was crowned homecoming queen and got a lot of cute stuff. we work hard to raise the money, but this year I hear there is another mom that want's to just give money out of her pocket to make sure that we dont win again. What's the big deal if we're working hard for it right? we don't flaunt, she found on the website who won. Parent's in the spirit of competition would you want to do the same as this "new mom" to the team? Or would you be more passive? I'm not upset with the lady, the title is fair game and there is no way for her to find out how much we dontated, it just makes me want to work twice as hard to get the title for my daughter again. Now we both look like we're not good sports. what would you do?
2006-09-30 07:00:07 · 7 answers · asked by azile_wehttam 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Let me clarify that this is not for any cause at all, just to see who is queen. I did mention that I realize I was being a bad sport with my thoughts didn't I
2006-09-30 07:19:31 · update #1
her actions are ridiculous! i can't believe that a grown adult would act that way. don't say anything to her, it won't do any good. just try even harder to raise as much money as you can. in the mean time you are teaching your children the value of hard work. you can't beat that.
2006-09-30 07:02:58 · answer #1 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would let my daughter work hard to raise the money and if she wins then great..if not then teach her how to deal with the disappointment of not winning the title.
You and the mom donating her own money are the same. You are both buying awards for your daughter. You had to work harder than the other mother and that upsets you. You have made up an imaginary line that you won't cross to justify your actions.
No doubt there is a girl that raised the money on her own with out her mother's help. That girl did not win last year. How do think she felt? Probably the same way you will feel this year.
IT IS YOUR DAUGHTERS AWARD NOT YOURS
2006-09-30 21:59:17 · answer #2 · answered by c505ber 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Last year your daughter won the title honorable with hard work and your help.... Last years title will have great meaning and great memories in the long run... Work hard this year with your ddaughter just like last year but do not buy her an empty title no matter what the other mother does... The bought title will have no meaning to your daughter in the long run, and will actually tarnish the title she won honorably...
You can not control what the other mother and daughter do, just tell your daughter you and she will compete honorably and her title will have meaning and good memories... If the other girl wins, even if the title is bought by her mother, you and your dughter should congratulate her... You will both know in the long run her title will be meaningless and tarnished while your daughter title is honorable...
A good lesson to teach your daughter by example... What's earned honorably is far better than what is bought dishonorably...
2006-09-30 15:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just for the fact that she is being so childish make sure u wipe her kids out out of the homecoming!
2006-09-30 22:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by ghettobootybundy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It obviously matters to you, so why not her? if you were just in it to raise money for a good cause then it should matter who wins. in my mind, you're a poor sport. you should convience all the moms to put up their own money, before you know it you'll have plenty of money for whatever they're trying to buy.
p.s. grow up.
2006-09-30 14:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
keep doing what your doing you daughter is learning alot about dedication and hard work. this other girl will grow up thinking everything is to be just handed to her because of who she is
2006-09-30 14:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealousy that is what it is just play it fair and simple and see if it works to win honesty is the best
2006-09-30 14:34:46 · answer #7 · answered by trouble 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋