Mom looks to him for help financially especially pawning his electronics for money . Is it right?
2006-09-30 06:52:21 · 17 answers · asked by harlingenguy_2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
NO IS NOT RIGHT!!! I HAVE A MOTHER WHO WAS THIS WAY FOR AS LONG AS I WAS AT HOME AND SHE STILL ATTEMPTS TO BE THIS WAY TODAY. NOT ONLY DOES IT CAUSE IRREPARABLE DAMAGE TO YOUR BROTHER--GUILT, DEPRESSION, ANXIETY, FEELINGS OF WORTHLESSNESS, AND FEELINGS OF THIS HAS BECOME HIS OBLIGATION AND RESPONSIBILITY TO HIS MOM.
If your brother has a job I feel he should help with his needs--clothes, shoes, activities, etc. but, he is not responsible for raising your mother. As long as your brother is in your mother's house she will continue to be this way. Your brother after leaving will have personal problems related to what has happened, especially with obligations and responsibilities. Sounds like your brother has a GOOD heart and your mother and many other people in the world will try and use his good heart until he has no feelings left. I really wish I could not identify with this question. I wish your brother luck, love, and happiness.
2006-09-30 07:04:20 · answer #1 · answered by MEDUSA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a question that can only be told like this
if hes not doing anything then yeah he needs to pay something but if hes paying everything no i dont think he should but i dont know the whole picture. It sucks because he is 17 but if hes not in school hes gotta do something, i feel bad that it comes to him pawning his shyt cuz i luv mine but if i want to live i have to do something. Now do you think your older bro is a burden on your moms>? just a question. a rhetorical one. all i can say is my mom made me start paying rent when i was 16 because i wasnt in school anymore so now that im older i respect her for it because i learned young to manage and respect money, Now if your brother is in school and makeing good grades i dont see anything wrong with him living rent free if she can afford it but if she cant its either yall help her ( im sure you could rake leaves or sum and buy your own winter tennis shoes ) or you can go to a foster home, and beleive me thats not something you wanna do cuz you never know where youll be, by the way where is your father> like i said if your mom is working her *** off and ends arent being met think of all the sacrifices im sure shes made, and if she is a sorry *** momma ( cuz there are some out there ) you know you need to do good n school so you can get a good job and get the hell on .
2006-09-30 14:12:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, it's not right to take things away from your own children. Especially if they've earned it themselves. Parents should be the grown ups to provide needs, not load off of their children. Unless of course the whole family is struggling to get basic needs.
2006-09-30 14:02:35 · answer #3 · answered by kz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well is it not
sometimes all family member have to
contribute a Little for the family even sacrifice
if u feel sorry then u as a older brother should do something about it
2006-09-30 14:02:08 · answer #4 · answered by astrid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be so difficult for me to have to ask my children for help, and if I did, it would mean that I am really in a very bad way financially.
2006-09-30 13:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by Emma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Is he still in school? If he isn't, I wouldn't have any problem if she were looking for money/electronics in lieu of rent + food.
2006-09-30 13:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on how desperate your mom is, but I don't think he should have to carry her burdens.
2006-09-30 13:54:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he is doing this with the pure intention to help and take care of her, then he is doing nothing wrong. is she unable to work for herself?if so then he is doing exactly what he is supposed to. if she can care for herself but chooses not to,it is her wrong not his.
2006-09-30 14:01:33 · answer #8 · answered by Thumbs down me now 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's not really fair at all, a mother should be supporting her kids.
2006-09-30 13:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely not! It's unethical, immoral, selfish, irresponsible, stupid, and just plain mean!
2006-09-30 13:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋