I'm a gay guy and I'm afaraid that my dorm partner will hate me or something. What should I do?
2006-09-30 06:47:15 · 8 answers · asked by The Imaginer 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
Sometime before college starts, your college will probably send you a form (or have you fill it out during orientation) that asks about your personality, study habits, likes and dislikes, etc. If it does not ask about your sexual orientation, make sure you make a note of it somewhere on the form.
If there is no form, call the housing office and tell them that you are concerned about getting a homophobic roommate.
If you still get a jerk for a roommate, you can always request a transfer.
Do you have any friends that are going to the same college? If you think they'd make good roommates, you can request to be their roommate.
2006-09-30 06:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah Colleen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always hard to get along with roommates in college unless you are up-front from the very beginning and come to understandings about what is going to go on in the room. I would say to tell your roommate right away that you are gay, and if he has a problem with it, there will be plenty of time to get another room assignment before the semester gets started. Other things to settle right away are cleaning responsibilities, how late guests are going to be in the room, whether studying will be done in the room and when, overnight guest/girlfriend/boyfriend policy, etc. Good luck! It would not have bothered me in the least to have had a lesbian roommate as long as she were neat and respectful toward me as a roomie!
2006-09-30 06:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by nido_tr3s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a couple things you could do. You could request to be placed with someone you already know who already knows you're gay and doesn't care. Or you could not tell your roommate right away. Feel him out on the subject. See what he says when he sees gay men on TV or what his political stance on the matter is. After you have become friends you can tell him honestly. Promise him that you're not attracted to him (or if you are you might need to request a new roommate) and that you're not going to bring your boyfriends home with you and he'll probably be okay with it. If not you get a new roommate.
Good luck!
2006-09-30 06:56:59 · answer #3 · answered by brainy_ostrich 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, you may wish to talk to the college housing office, they may be able to room you with another gay student or one who is open to rooming with a gay kid. Dorms are bad enough without your roommate freaking out on you or vice versa. Also check and see how they resolve disputes - which are still possible if you're the same gender and orientation.
Whatever happens, talk to your roommate and agree on clear rules about overnight guests, level of undress, etc.
2006-09-30 06:57:35 · answer #4 · answered by xamayca.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they assign roommates, tell the person your orientation so they can give you an appropriate roommate (unless you are going to attend Oral Roberts U).
2006-09-30 06:55:36 · answer #5 · answered by Pseudo Obscure 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and see if your college has a diversity board chairperson or a housing coordinator and send them an e-mail with your concerns.
2006-09-30 06:55:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many school have housing directors... they may have a way of accomidating your fears.
but first give your room mate a chance...who knows how they will react...don't prejudge
2006-09-30 06:56:18 · answer #7 · answered by The Cheminator 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and I would recommend being up front with him. I'm sure it will work out okay. Good luck.
2006-09-30 06:55:02 · answer #8 · answered by wizo1fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋