we broke up 6 months ago and she started dating this guy right after . . im talking like a week after . . but anyways i tried to get her back the first 2 months then i went NC since the middle of june. . .she has called or texted or left me a voicemail like 10-15 times since then and i havent answered or contacted her back. . .she just recently got into an official relationship with this guys and i noticed she tried to get ahold of me the day they started going out . . . she calls about once every 1,2,3 weeks and she called me drunk last weekend 3 times , 2 texts and 1 voicemail in 1 night and she said she doesnt understand why we cant be friends. . .even though ive told her atleast 20 times that i cant. . . after we broke up she insisted we were going to get back together sometime . . . and she also is the type of person that cant stand to be alone and always has to have somebody. . . if she is completely happy and everything then why does she try to call me all of the time?
2006-09-30 06:41:28 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also we were together 2 1/2 years . . . when she started dating him she even admitted it was just because he was there and that she cant stand to be alone . . i just dont understand why is she calling me all of the time like this just to be friends when she knows we cant because ive told her 100 times. . does she want something else? also what i really want to know is its been 4 months since ive talked to her and she keeps calling . . . .if she just wanted to be friends wouldnt she get the clue by now that i cant b/c the way things ended
2006-09-30 06:42:43 · update #1
Do you want to be with her?
Sounds like to me that its what she wants
if she said yall will get back together eventually, and her calling the day they got together,she just wants you to fight for her and be jealous and try to get her back. Anybody that has to have somebody isnt always just going to put themselfs out there and say "yes i want to be with you"
Since you tried to be together with her after you broke up then shes probably just saying she just wants to be friends but really just wants you to make the move to get back together. Shes just too afraid to actually go ahead and leave this guy incase you dont want to anymore and theres just a big fear of rejection.
And did she break up with you? Someone not the sure of themselves will probably start thinking they made the wrong choice after a while, even if it was the right one. Even if youre with the wrong person for years, being with the right one, wont feel like what theyre use to, so it will feel wrong
2006-09-30 06:56:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has a psychological problem of insecurity. She is only secure when she is in a solid relationship and she feels insecure when she is "alone" like a ship without a rudder. She is a dependent woman and needs a relationship to give her a foundation which is really a way of knowing that she is attractive as a person and is wanted by someone else in a relationship. She is very insecure and she needs a solid relationship as a foundation in her life. Because she if floundering now and is not in a really solid relationship, she keeps calling you hoping that you will fulfill what she needs... a grounded relationship.
You have to be up front and tell her that you are no longer going to continue the friendship. I do not know where couples learned that it is great to be friends after they have broken up??? To end a relationship... means just that... YOU END IT!!! You put time and distance between you both and do not have connections of any kind for at least a year. Then if you happen to meet after that time, and you want to be friendly and associate as friends it can be done much more healthily. YOu need to tell her in NO UNCERTAIN TERMS... the relationship is OVER. DO NOT CALL or make any contact. But then you must also not call her or make any contact with her either... decide what you want to do and then have the courtesy and courage to do what is right and END the relationship completely. Good Luck!
2006-09-30 06:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by Callie Kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as much as a discomfort in the butt because it somewhat is... i might substitute your cellular telephone #... She figures if she retains calling you that it will preclude you from transferring on...She might think of that if she calls you all of the time if might scare off different means females your attempting to get with.. she would not want you to forget approximately approximately her and because your not conversing to her it is using her loopy.. i don't think of it somewhat is a sturdy thought to be acquaintances with an ex..
2016-12-15 17:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes just friends with him and nothing more!
2006-09-30 06:52:08 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can still b friends
2006-09-30 06:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋