i had it with my family?

Question

im soo pissed at my lil brother, my mom , and my grandma im sick of living with them, i want to have my own family with a wife and kids, my mom, brother, and grandma always piss me off and blame me for everything tell me why DO I HAVE SO MUCH ISSUES WITH MY FAMILY? i sometimes wish them dead but thats just too far i need anger help cuz everytime i get mad at my lil brother hes 10 i hit him physically, i cuss and say mean things to my family i had it with myself or them tell me WHATS MY ISSUE?

Answer 1

First you need to identify the problem..Is it your family or you where the issue lies?

Maybe you need to take a vacation and catch up on some "me" time. You need to be alone.

At the same time you need to take some anger management classes. There is no excuse to abuse your brother. That could be a trait thats passed along "the hitting".

I hope you get better.

Answer 2

Try to calm down a little, I know it's hard on teenagers (I assume you are) these days ..More pressure than when I was a teen..You do need some kind of help with your temper before you do something you WILL regret..There are several places to get help and you have reconized that you are angry and say and do thing you don't want to do, you've already taken the first step by admitting it..Now you need to go and get the help you need like councilling or to a anger manament class..If you don't get control now the older you get the worse it could become..I don't know your Issues with your family and the enviroment you live in , but hitting your little brother is so wrong and one day you may really hurt him or someone else..Please go find help..talk to your mom and tell her you have a problem with anger(which I assume she already knows) and you need to find some help to manage it..

Answer 3

You do need to deal with your anger long before you ever decide to have a family-wife and children of your own! STOP hitting you little brother! Hope you ask for help soon! Cut out your cussing to it won't ever make your life any better!!!! A wife would not want to hear you cuss all the time!!!

Answer 4

1. are you to blame for the stuff they blame you for?
2. do you think if you have wife and kids that it'll be different?
Sometimes i go through the same thing, but i just walk away. Hitting does not solve anything. Believe me, i know what it is like to be blamed for everything. SOmetimes you just have to ignore them if you cannot get your point over. Stop hitting your little brother, cause he's going to hate you and when he grows up he'll think that it is okay to go around hitting people. Set a good example for him. Find other ways of dealing with your anger.

Answer 5

Please seek professional guidance. Talk to a psychologist, an older mentor that you respect, anyone that has a slant on who you are and can help you. I am not sure of your age, but obviously you still live at home if three different generations of relatives find you difficult to live with and you them.
(If enough people tell you, you have bad breath, then your breath probably stinks when you were unaware of it).
Having behavioral problems with three different generations of relatives means (usually) that the problem lies with you.
Unless there is separation, I dread it will only worsen unless you experience something emotionally traumatic that changes you, which usually means its too late to do anything about your situtation and you are on the way to jail for NOT seeking guidance when you had the chance. The fact that you are exposing this personal dilemma means that you at least recognize there is a problem and you seek resolve.
Good for you!
If you can develop the admirable trait of letting things slide off your back "like water off of a duck", then the troubling characteristic of yours to physically harm your 10-year old brother will cease. Please do not hit. It means you'll hit your wife. It means you'll lash out physically instead of intellectually resolving issues.
Here's a good suggestion;
Get a good physical workout! Lift heavy weights! (Easy at first!)
You'll see the difference from just a few workouts!
The release you seek can be obtained (somewhat) through physical duress you put on your physical self...
Please..., just seek answers from professionals.
Good luck!
PS - Your family loves you man! They want to see you do great!

Answer 6

You didn't say how old you are but I am guessing that you really are way too young to have your own wife & kids. Besides if you can't get along with the family that you've had for your entire life, what makes you think that you could get along with another one?
The fact that you are physically abusing your little brother means that you should take your issues very seriously.
See a councellor at your school. If you don't have a school councellor talk to your favorite teacher or another adult that you really trust. I'm serious, do it.

Answer 7

I think you should get anger managment help and maybe some counciling, there has to be something deep that is making you angry.Where is your father in all of this?....And hitting your brother is not right, 2 months ago I lost my Younger brother, he was in a car accident, and i would give anything in this world to have him back no matter how mad I've ever been towards him.

Answer 8

wow...this is a real tough problem.

i think you should definitly get the family together && just talk about whats bothering you in a mature way..no yelling or hitting allowed! talk about why everyone is makingeach other mad, and try to find a compromise. maybe a little more alone time would be better, so everyone can cool down a bit. also when you get the problems straightened out... a little family vacation wont hurt!!

believe ,me, your not the only one with this problem, family is reallly really hard to get along with sometimes...but the truth is that in the end, essentially they are all you got!! good luck!!!

Answer 9

I think you need to be on your own for some time until you calm down.
You can't be around hitting your siblings and telling bad things to your family. That's not nice. I think that makes matters worse but I'm sure you don't mean it. You're just pissed.
Go away for sometime and I'm sure you'll miss them while they're not with you and you'll appreciate them more and they will happen to them too.

Answer 10

well, you seem to take responsibility for some of what happens at home because you said that 'i had it with myself', which indicates that you take some responsiblity, and that you don't blame it all on your family. ask yourself what makes you so angry? do you have fear about something? did something happen to you when you were young? look at your answers to these questions, maybe you need to talk to someone about it. anger comes from other feelings such as fear....fear of rejection, fear of loss of relationship, fear of the unknown. next time when you think you might hit your brother, or start to cuss your mom or grandma, stop yourself, turn around and hammer the couch.