I fell in love with a girl last year. I was still in a live-in relationship, she was getting ready to go to college. We were really in love, but I was an idiot and hesitated to leave my g/f, people found out, I ended up causing this girl alot of grief and heartache with my indecision and dishonesty. She knew that I was still in a relationship ahead of time, just to be clear. So we kind of fell out; but not completely;she went to college. We continued to see each other, when we could, when she was home, etc. We talk on the phone regulary, and chat for hours online pretty often. She has had a boyfriend for about eight months now. She told me she wants to be faithful to him, so we have not had a physical relationship, I have done well respecting the boundaries she has set. I guess my question is, what is this girl doing? I hurt her pretty bad, why does she continue to see me, and confide in me about problems and concerns? I just ate lunch with her last week, it's bugging me. Thx Ladies.
2006-09-30 06:33:37 · 8 answers · asked by Kazart312 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like time lapsed & your indesicion has put you into the friend zone. Be happy she still wants ANYTHING to do with you after being hurt by you. If she straight up said she wants to be loyal to her new beau, then that's what she wants. If she wanted more from you, she'd say it. Either take your seat in the friend spot, or discontinue all ties with her.
2006-09-30 06:41:14 · answer #1 · answered by tigerlily27 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you hurt her. Yet she knew about the other woman, so she cant blame it all on you. Obviously in the time your were together, she learned to trust you and feels comfortble with you. You are probually her friend now a safe haven. Someone who knows her, so she doesnt have to bear all to someone knew.
She has found someone new and wants to share her life with him now. She wants to be faithful to him so she is telling you this so you wont try to go back to the place you were in. She is in a place where she can care about you as a friend and share things with you. She obviously cares alot about you. Remember a girl you hurt wants to be your friend. Thats rare.
Sounds like you have made yourself a very good friend out of what could have been a bad situation. Your lucky. Embrace it...Who knows one day the two of you may find yourselves alone, yet you still have a meaningful friendship. This could bring you back together for a happily ever after.
2006-09-30 13:45:21 · answer #2 · answered by rebecwi3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she mostly wants to be friends, but she may be thinking (in the back of her mind) that you might be worth another try sometime in the vague future. That doesn't mean that she will ever act on it--in fact, the physical relationship is most probably over. My advice is to think of her only as a friend and go out and find a new girlfriend.
2006-09-30 13:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by preciselyright 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she REALLY likes you too - but since she stays in her relationship - I think shes probably insecure with you,or trying to prove to you that she can be faithful, or just likes keeping you on a string- on the side. Cut her off - and see what she does. If she still wants the partime relationship - but isn't willing to commit fully - she is just playing with you and keeping you on the side- MOVE ON. If she is really sincere - she will drop all relationships and try one with you to see what you really have. Time to see what this is really about - or MOVE ON - life is short. Just my opinion Good LUCK!!
2006-09-30 13:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by Jackie P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She just wants to be your friend. Women often like to have male friends so we can see things from their point of view.
2006-09-30 13:36:23 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she either value you as a really good friend or she is using you to fill in time when her boyfriend is not around.
2006-09-30 13:40:26 · answer #6 · answered by clueless 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey
women like to talk to men about alot of their problems even if it is someone that they dated in the past.she just needs someone to let her get stuff off her mind that's all.
2006-09-30 13:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by *shorty* giggles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's playing with fire.
2006-09-30 13:35:58 · answer #8 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋