I broke up with my gfriend about 6 months ago. I was recovering from an illness & I stopped wanting to do anything, leave the house or even have sex with her. I panicked and told her i needed 6 months to pull myself together and I’d come back for her. We were extremely close as we'd both been through similar problems in the past. We did see each other every now and again but I was cold to her. I did get myself back together and I sent her a couple of txts. I got replies but they weren't as forward as i was expecting. I then bumped into her with her new bloke. We had a huge row and she was txting me and asking if we had a chance. I was angry and said no. After I calmed down i started begging her back to which i got the answers “you hurt me to much and I need a safe man in my life, maybe in the future”. “I do love you but I have a wall up”. I have been a little over the top for a month now and we’ve gone backwards and she seems strong. What do I do? I am trying to leave her alone now
2006-09-30 05:46:14 · 7 answers · asked by neil1427a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you both have a lot of strong feelings towards each other. It seems like when one of you is ready, the other isn't. However, don't feel bad that she's strong - she's had to cope with a lot. Give her some credit and remember that if you blow your top, you're driving her away slowly and surely.
You asked for space before and now give her some space. Sounds tough, but TRY to be the friend for a short while and then see if you get along. When you're friends and confiding in one another, it makes more sense to build a relationship on that.
Don't give up, but don't give her a headache! Be her friend and be patient!
2006-09-30 05:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by diamante_sheeny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the effort to get someone back ends up being all worthless.
Your doing the right thing by leaving her alone and maybe its best to always keep it that way. She's made it obvious that you've hurt her feelings and i guess it is understandable that you had been angry at her because of seeing her with another guy.
Yes this can work out, but will it be how it was before? Don't you think it will be a little uncomfortable? Maybe i'm wrong but in most cases this is what usually ends up happening and then you have to struggle with more pain than you started off with.
For your sake and hers i think its best to leave things be, and i know this isnt what you want to here and i'm sure you both still have strong feelings for each other, but after already breaking up once its quite likely that it will happen again.sorry
2006-09-30 07:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if a person says they dont wanna be wit u, there's nothin more u can do, u needed time, and now she needs the same thing, if u two were the real thing, if you guys love is strong enuff, you all will be back together in no time. if not then it jus wasnt meant to be, giver her time, maybe her wall will be knocked down. Good luck
2006-09-30 05:57:00 · answer #3 · answered by Here2Help 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 04:03:08 · answer #4 · answered by hemmingway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her, after you give her some time. Talk to her , no one can answer this as truthfully as she can. If she gives you another reply that she does not want to be with you , then you may be facing a decision to move on. Sometimes we can learn from our past mistakes and heartbreaks. Good luck !
2006-09-30 05:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by fly4130_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once and for all, you need to see if the two of you can get it together. EXpress yourself to her, and see where she is coming from, now if she says that it is over, you have to except that. and move on with your life.If she will not talk to you over the phone, then send her a card, explaining how you feel about her. if nothing happens, you need to give her her space.
2006-09-30 05:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her be and be grateful that you had that time with her - the experience will make you a better guy for your next partner.
2006-09-30 07:11:04 · answer #7 · answered by HonestTom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋