Doctors crossing lines..what would YOU do if you were me??

Question

I don’t know about you, but when I hear the word “Doctor”, I feel comfort and trust within me. Having many doctors and nurses in my immediate and extended family has taught me this trust. For years and years, I have had this innate trust in me. It was shattered yesterday……when the doctor I’ve been going to for more than two years, tried to take advantage of me. At the moment, my first instinct was to just run away and protect myself, but now that I look back, I wonder what else I could have done back then, and what I can do now.

Being in a country that doesn’t attribute too much importance to women’s rights, I know within my heart that there isn’t much I can do. Even if I try to seek justice, I might never get it. If I do, it shall come at TOO big a cost. The cost being- “spoiling my family’s name” in “society” and as a result being ostracized and excluded from the “good, respected” people. Furthermore, there’s the fear of being alienated within my own family. So what must I do?? Fo

Details.... well, he tried to touch me and kiss me!!! I dont think i'm over-reacting.

Im from India..that explains my mistrust in authorities and society.but some of these suggetions are GREAT, Thanx for your support.

Answer 1

I wish I knew from which country you are, so I could help you find support with a local group or office that deals with stories like yours.

If possible, change to an other doctor and don't go back to this creep.

If you have to stay with this doctor and you wish to keep this out of the family, do you have a friend whom you can totally trust?

If you do have a friend whom you trust, I suggest that you bring that friend at your next visit to the doctor. Just to show him that you are NOT ALONE. Bringing your friend into the room with you, will be a clear signal to your doctor that you have informed this friend (and that you might inform other people as well).

And you can revenge him if you like, but only after you changed to a new doctor: make many photocopies with his full name and address and write that he is a doctor without sense of moral, who takes advantage of female patients (trust me, if he did this to you, he surely did or will do this to other girls).

Now spread these photocopies in public toilets like at schools, resaurants, cinemas, sportclubs, etc. These are places where no one can see you putting these photocopies up the wall........

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I know this is probably not the answer you're looking for, and is not the best moral thing to do... but I believe that if it will cause damage within your family I would not consider speaking out about it. That is, if you are close to the members of your family. I would try discussing it with an elder if you think you can. I know it will be hard, but at least this way you will know how they feel about it and will give you more prospective on whether or not to really do something about it! Good Luck!

Answer 4

First, you must trust your gut. Do NOT sacrifice your well being and emotional stability for the "convenience" of others even family. But the burden of proof at this point is on you, so if you could some how get physical proof ( hidden camera confession, or taped phone conversation with an admittance) but u would have to play the game. But u must do what u must, you know what to do. But just for the record your family should "have" your back, not stab u in it.

Answer 5

I think,u should follow ur heart. What r u you thinking right now? Do what you think feels right.Do not fear the consequences for you did nothing wrong. Seek justice so that you will be at peace with yourself. Do not pent up the feelings inside. Speak to ur mother about this and tell the authorities. you MUST report him because he must face the consequences of what he did. And u know what,u should have slapped him there and then too.

Answer 6

what country? but I guess it all comes down to what really matters to you, making yourself heard and standing up for yourself, or just quietly changing doctors to avoid the problem and all the drama that you say will come with reporting the doctor. If you do decide to change doctors or even stay with the same one, ask for a nurse to come in the room at the same time, if you can. Then that should eliminate the problem.
PS....I love the fart and burp idea!!!! Definite man deterrent!

Answer 7

THis is a tough situation.. you could've done something when you were there....but now i think it's a little too late, b/c you don't have proof... you could try going there again and see if he will try it one more time... but take someone with you and make them stay outside.... and maybe take a tape recorder and record what he tells you and so on...
BUt talk to your family about it and see what they say...
and try to trust again b/c not all doctors are this way...and i mean if it has been two yrs you been seein this doctor why would he do this now? maybe he had a fight with his wife or something whoknows...
maybe youshould investigate..

Answer 8

I understand that you can't say anything, but there
has got to be a way for him to get caught. Can't you
call some authority & report him w/ out giving your
name or give a fake name. He should not be in practice if he thinks he can hit on whomever he likes !
Sorry to hear about this & find a new Dr. to go to.

Answer 9

Wow... That's a serious problem. You should confront the Doctor, and let him know that what he did was wrong. You could also let your family know what he did. Although, you should try and keep the community out of this. The public can be very critical of situations like this.

~ O-Dawg

Answer 10

There has GOT to be more than one Dr. in your country...find another one right away, and do not have any more communication with the Dr. that took advantage of you. Seek counseling, if needed.