I lost my identity when I lost custody because I was with an abusive man .How do I forgive myself and move on ? I cant feel anything but sorrow. I hate myself!!
2006-09-30 05:25:51 · 8 answers · asked by tenaj elleby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Get healthy and prove that you can offer a safe healthy environment for your children.
Do the work and don't set about feeling sorry for yourself.
Apparently your situation was serious enough that your children had to be taken out of the environment you were living in.
No man is worth that. Low self esteem is robbing you of a joy filled life. Get some help and start doing for others and stop being so focused on yourself.
Think of what your children have had to endure. You sacrificed your children to stay in that relationship. You can't change that, but starting now you can change you.
Curling up in a corner in a fetal position will not get you're children back.
There are many state programs that help women in your circumstance. I guess it depends on if you were the victim of the abuse or you were allowing this man to abuse your children.
I wish you all the best...
2006-09-30 05:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by easinclair 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up. Things will work themselves out. I have been in ur shoes. And still am in a way. But dont' give up your kids are counting on you to make there life right again. Just b/c u have lost custody now doesn't mean u can't ever get them back. There are things u can do measures u can take to work towards getting them back. I've been through all the pain ur going through right now. I beat myself up over it all the time. But I will tell u it doesn't make it any better at all. You need to stand tall and start to do what needs to be done to get ur kids back. Don't give up ever. Your kids need you more than they need anyone in this world. Ur there mom they'll never have another....
2006-09-30 05:40:59 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya thats tough but ask god for forgiveness and move on in life and try to be a better person do good to others and take the long tough road but never give up in life.
2006-09-30 05:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by pirateron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you lost them for a reason,and you know that reason,and you pick the pieces up and pray to god, and do better for yourself and the kids,as time goes on, you will be back with them,faith,you have to work on yourself, before you you deal with the kids, make yourself better person.and the rest will follow,don't hate your self for this, what if something happen to your kids will being with this man, and you could not see them anymore unless you went to heaven and seen them, you thank god for this and there safety it is best this way for now. work on you, your not a bad person because of this.have faith. build yourself up, and when you see the kids again you will be better and show them the right way, be strong, hold your head up
2006-09-30 05:38:39 · answer #4 · answered by Tina Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek professional therapy.
2006-09-30 05:30:10 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear girl, look around, help others, try to do more good, volunteer, maybe donate blood, smile at people more miserable that others don't smile at, start a hobby , start a helping club....
2006-09-30 05:31:25 · answer #6 · answered by Freddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to remeber that the hurt will pass and talk with the lord about it
2006-09-30 05:29:58 · answer #7 · answered by star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who has custody of the children?? you go on,, life rolls on, go to church,,talk to God,,
2006-09-30 05:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋