my boyfriend has just gone to uni not o far away and we are still together. and i was talkin about goin to stay with him for a weekend and he said he woild like to and stuff but then he said "i feel like im here now and i dont wanna be reminded of home i just wanna get on with it"" but now where does that leave me? shall i say anythin or just leave it?? advice?? please!
2006-09-30 05:19:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sweetie, sure you can say what bothers you to him, if he really loves you he would understand. and he would be a fool to let someone that cares so much bout him go!
2006-09-30 08:57:11 · answer #1 · answered by DJAdrian 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't allow someone else to control your feelings, sorry I know it sounds harsh; you are brooding over the decision - made by someone else - on how to spend your weekend.
Fine, accept it! You cannot change how someone thinks or behaves. Now, how do you want to spend YOUR weekend! Brooding, crying, watching East Enders, Yahoo Q/R, whatever ; Decide for YOU and do it!
Be and feel how you decide - and be responsible for that!
Responsibility gives you freedom!
I wish you a lovely W/E and a very happy life!
Cos
2006-09-30 12:27:46 · answer #2 · answered by Cos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy wants to get on with his studies.
You will just distract him, leading to poor coursework and results.
Don't worry.
If you really can't handle it, enroll on a course at the same Uni.. probably too late for this year though.
2006-09-30 12:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by SuperWales 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it for a few days then tell him you want to go see him. if he don't want you to go then maybe you should have a total break from each other. surely you can email or phone him while he's away. If he's not far away then he can come home for the odd weekend. good luck.
2006-09-30 12:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him up and ask him what he meant by not wanting to be reminded of home, I think you ll find you are already dumped as far as he's concerned but he hasn't got the nuts to tell you. sounds like a little jerk to me, your better off without the loser..
2006-09-30 12:29:02 · answer #5 · answered by Thornsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me that he is burning his bridges and could possibly dump you. He doesn't want any ties with home and explore all possibilities with his uni and he obviously doesn't want you as part of his plans or he would have wanted you to there to see him. He wants the single life so he be with as many women as he can so if it was me I would dump him before he does it to you, you get closure and can start afresh.
2006-09-30 12:25:16 · answer #6 · answered by GaryUKB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry chick but it sounds like he doesn't want to be with you. My boyfriend went to uni last year and he couldn't wait for me to visit so I could meet all his friends and he made regular trips home to see me too!
2006-09-30 12:31:30 · answer #7 · answered by Rach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly thinks you messin around with someone else. Clear the air and decide whether a long distance relationship will work. I would think that it generally doesn't.
2006-09-30 12:24:38 · answer #8 · answered by bavwill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants to mess about to me. Ask him outright how he feels and if you don't get a straight answer, dump him.
2006-09-30 12:27:21 · answer #9 · answered by paradisefound1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the nerd.
2006-09-30 12:23:37 · answer #10 · answered by Earwigo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋