I really find it hard to believe that people can't change that part of them. I have cheated in past relationships and wouldn't even consider doing it in my current one. I do not believe in this saying. There are people who are just committment phobes or have a compulsion to stray. There are also people who learn from their mistakes. Why is everyone so quick to judge those who have cheated?
2006-09-30 04:23:00 · 40 answers · asked by Rachael 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you find the person that means the most to you and love is with out condition, you won't cheat.
Cheating isn't a way of life it's a life style and styles change.
2006-09-30 04:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by Katherine G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a good question and I don't think there is an easy answer, but let me give it a try. I think once a cheater always a cheater UNLESS there has been an horrible consequence for cheating. If someone (man or woman) cheats and there is no consequence for that, then I think they will always do it even if they have a good spouse. Cheaters are greedy by nature and feel they deserve whatever they want.
2006-09-30 04:27:50 · answer #2 · answered by Roger S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. Sometimes we're put in situations and cheating is just a result of bad decision making. It's not hereditary! Usually people who cheat aren't happy and are at wits end, not justifying these actions, but we've all been in some sort of relationship and you just know when it's over even if it hasn't been verbally communicated. Is it still cheating when ones heart isn't loyal to loving you and giving you the support and emotional, physical attention that is demanded (!) in any committed relationship, causing you to seek this attention else where, even though you're being cheated of these obligations? Makes you think hu!
2006-09-30 04:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by Marisa Lizette 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are exceptions to every rule or situation, but yes I believe for the most part that once you have cheated you will eventually do it again. Because there is something going on in the mind of a cheater whether it be insecurities, the thrill of it, or the constant need for a new experience that will drive that person to be unfaithful. Only they can make the choice not to do it and rectify any of those demons within them that cause them to do so. But in all my experiences in life most leopards do not change their spots all that quickly if at all.
2006-09-30 04:28:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it depends on your mind-set when you were cheating.
As far as I'm concerned, when i cheated, i was doing it out of bitterness and just not caring about the relationship i was in...also i did this when i was younger.
In my current relationship i wouldn't because i would not want to jeopardize what i i have with my partner...
I think the ones who cheat even in their adult life have a less likely hood to stop...but i think if it was just a phase during the teenage years, then yes, the person can definitely turn around.
Regardless, i think everyone deserves a chance to be taken seriously when they have decided that are going to change.
2006-09-30 04:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by Patience 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
evryone judges by a persons past. though i do belive also that a person can change after they really look at the relationship they have and think about what they will loose if they have any feelings for the person. though the stereo type would like to think that once you cheat you will always cheat. if you cheat and look at how you feel about the person you cheated on then you could see if the feelings are strong enough to have the desire but not act on them. i think everyone cheats either by actions or thoughts.
2006-09-30 04:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I,ve been with a hell of a lot of women over the last 26yrs
even had 4 in 1 day.
BUT 1 day i decided to give it a try & be faithful to just 1 girl.
Not for her but to prove to myself that i could be a nice person & not a C_ _ k.
Well i was faithfull for 9 yrs till my marrage failed.
I met a fantastic girl 4 yrs ago & we are to be married next December.
I wrote the book on cheating!! BUT i sure as hell have rewritten it since, i,d NEVER cheat on this diamond that i,ve found.
2006-09-30 04:37:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
no i dont believe once a cheater always a cheater. and the answer to your question to why people judge is because of life experience. most people that cheat usally always cheat. there are those few exceptions. you just happen to be one of those. good for you.
2006-09-30 04:27:59 · answer #8 · answered by HEATHER O 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well b.c they haven't been in ur shoes honey. I can't say once a cheater always a cheater. Some people just like to cheat on there spouses... But that don't always mean once u do it u always do it.....
2006-09-30 04:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by Kimberly 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe once a cheater, always a cheater because theres proof. I know people who have done it over and over again even after given second chances.
2006-09-30 04:31:08 · answer #10 · answered by nichelle b 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋