I am a retired man,62 years old and a non-smoker since 1975. I can't stand to be around them,because they cause my throat and chest to hurt. I help a friend in his business,but he smokes constantly. It's non-stop smoking for him. I told him how it affects me,but he doesn't believe me. Some days I am with him in his truck all day long,and I am really in pain even with the window rolled down.Other days we are in his office where it's just as bad. He really needs me to help him,but I can't stand much more. He has the right to smoke in his own place,and I feel bad about quitting. Any suggestions?
2006-09-30 03:35:00 · 10 answers · asked by sumrtanman 5 in Health ➔ Other - Health
ok im 11 years old but i got my mom to stop a little bit ago.she wants me to help her around the house all the time i dont mind doin it but she smoked. so i said i wont help her if she doesnt quit and she did. so dont help him if he smokes and he will relize he needs you and he will quit.
2006-09-30 03:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, he does not need your help that bad. He is being selfish, and he does not care that you are offering your services. As a smoker, I always respect my non-smoking friends. When they come over, I go outside or in another room. When we go out to eat we sit in the non-smoking and when we are in my car...I may smoke one, but I ask if they mind. If not, I will smoke outside my car. This is my bad habit and I should not make someone else that I car about pay for it. He could compromise with you, he is the one that needs the help.
2006-09-30 03:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by littlebit17 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to smoke, and I wouldn't quit until I realized that I needed to do it for myself. SOME smokers are the same way - they won't quit until they realize it for themselves. This is a tough situation, and I really feel for you. Maybe to get the message through, you could start driving your own vehicle so you don't have to ride in the car with him. When he asks why you're driving, tell him. He might get the point, then.
2006-09-30 03:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by Sam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE THERE BY CHOICE. I feel sorry for your friend who has a problem, but you have a choice.
Cutting thru all the emotional this and that, you just need to tell him you won't be helping him any more in his business or otherwise, starting tomorrow. THEN STOP TALKING.
If he asks why, tell him. Unfortunately, cancer and emphysema cure smoking very effectively. But you don't have to be a victim too, UNLESS YOU CHOOSE TO BE.
2006-09-30 03:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please my dear friend,Tell your friend you will not help him if he does not control he,s smoking around you,Tell him its not worth your health to be he,s friend,And that your being a friend to him and HELPING him with he,s Darn Buisness Is Litterly putting you in phsical PAIN!if he is a real friend,He,ll respect youe wishes and if he,s not,he will not,And if thats the case,He really is not a True friend and is just using you to help he,s business!And you my friend Sound like a very nice person and you desere better friends than that!Do you Know How dangerous that is to you if your getting chest pains!Please,Think about you!You will be no good to anybody if your dead!Good luck,Hollywood
2006-09-30 03:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by hollywood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if you could meet at your own place for it is non smoking place and if he wants one ask him to go out side, and if you cant stand it any more ask him to find other help, this is to hard on you , if he cant stop, and really needs the help from you, both of yous should compermize
2006-09-30 03:45:12 · answer #6 · answered by mateli6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am with the first answer, if he wants you to stay employed he should respect your health. If you have problems when he smokes, you shouldn't be around him. When he calls to ask why, make sure you tell him!
2006-09-30 03:38:18 · answer #7 · answered by Mother of 5/Madre de 5 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he needs you to help him badly enough, he would quit if you told him it was affecting your health to breathe in smoke so much.
2006-09-30 03:36:29 · answer #8 · answered by bibliophile31 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is just a question of health and death. You said he really needs you. Well if he does he doesn't show it by not caring about your request. You should stop helping him.
My uncle had lung surgery one year ago.
Please take my advise
2006-09-30 03:43:08 · answer #9 · answered by lm050254 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he obviously does not care about his health. tell him straight you cannot help him as you do like smoking anymore and gave it up becuase of your health. you know its addictive but your lungs are weak, if he does not take notice, don,t bover with him.
2006-09-30 03:38:29 · answer #10 · answered by guysmithdenise 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋