who agrees? i thinnk it is absolutely terrible when i see a child walking around in raggedy clothes?

Question

i am not vain. and do not judge based on appearances but it just makes me so angry.

if you love your child should you not take better care of them

you know--im not rich i make decent money

but let me tell you i take pride in buying my girl pretty clothes

id rather spend my money on her

kids are judgemental mostly
and if another kid is pretty and dressed nice theyll be nice to that kid

to evrythnnx

i agree with the person who said dont have kids if you cant take care of them and if you pregnant give the child a better life by lettin someone else raise at least till you get on your feet

theres no reason to put your kid through that even if you have to live in those conditions

and theres is no reason to not wipe the dirt off their faces

they dont have to be filthy

to bettie

no im not you should some of the kids i have dealt with in my profession--and the parents generally dont care and are dressed nice themselves

i am very unselfish my daughter often dresses nicer than i do being a parent is about making sacrifices for your children
why subject them to a life of humility that can be avoided
parents at last resort can always go to a church for help they will never be turned down

i think you are being argumentitive and if i had said the sky is blue you would have it was purple

Answer 1

I hate to see kids that aren't clean. I hate to see kids who's teeth aren't being taken care of. I hate to see kids barefoot. I hate to see kids wearing old clothes when their parents are wearing new ones..

What I hate MORE is people who can't comprehend that not everyone in our country has the means to buy their children new ones.

Yes- parenting is about being unselfish- that's why keeping food on the table and a roof over your child's head should always be more important to you than what so-and-so is going to say about how YOU dress your kids.

And the comment about "giving children to more capable people" is just pure ignorance. If you love your child and can provide what they NEED- you're perfectly capable- even moreso than others who base a child's worth on their wardrobe.

When my oldest daughter was first born, her father backed out of her life. I was left a young single mother who had to work for everything we had. I would have loved to have bought her brand new clothes and toys and spoiled her, but it was down to doing that or keeping a roof over her head. Sometimes parents are just doing the best they can. Most of my daughter's clothes were hand-me-downs from friends and family. A new outfit costs eight dollars at Wal-mart, but that was eight dollars she and I didn't have. I wore my own clothes until they were falling apart. Poverty is not just something that happens in Africa or Asia.. it's right here in OUR country, as well.

I hate to see a child wearing old clothes, not because I think the parents are doing it an injustice, but because SOCIETY is.

Answer 2

I think you're getting a bit over excited here.

"why subject them to a life of humility that can be avoided"

The only person who seems to be bothered by children wearing not-so-good or plain raggedy clothes is you, and a few other stupid, judgemental people on here.

If you have children you should realise how often they mess them up and rip them and get dirty.
Unless you're seeing that child constantly and think they are living in poor conditions without any proper clothes then you have no right to make such a judgement.

Some people just don't value a perfectly dressed up little kid. That's up to them. Clothes are just something to wear to some people, and not some really important decorative thing.

" i think you are being argumentitive and if i had said the sky is blue you would have it was purple "

I think you should stop trying to justify what you said and get people to agree with you, they obviously don't.

Answer 3

It isn't a matter that they aren't being taken care of. Some people have to get their shildrens clothes from the salvo and other places like that. Some even go around on garbage day and look for things thrown away. Does this make them unfit parents? Maybe the system is falling them? Ever think of it that way.

Most of these children you see come from poverty beyond what we can understand. They get food stamps but can you feed your family on 150-200 dollars a month? And if you have public assistance they only cover basic needs. shelter, food, heat, water. That is it. I went down recently to get help for two months. I have 4 people in my family they paid my rent $475 and gave me $134 to pay my electric/gas bill $95 and my water bill $23. What was left was supossed to go to diapers, wipes and other essentials needs for the month.

So these children you are taling about, I'm sure that their parents are doing what they know and living in survival mode. When my children out grow their clothes I take them and donate them to the churches and shelters where they can get the clothes for free and not have to pay for them from the salvo.

It isn't about how much we love our children. If you don't have an education you can't get a good job anymore. You also can't raise a family on minimum wage either. And the system don't help other than keeping your shelter going.

We have a system but it needs to be fixed and the way things are going now changes won't be made and of course the children suffer.

If you want to see decent clothes on these children donate where it counts.

Answer 4

It does bother me to some degree. When I see the parents in great clothing and the child is not. However, there are other factors...children get messy and you can't go around changing their clothes all day. Also, I work in an inner city school, and it is not that the parents do not care, they can not afford it or they may not be able to make it to the laundry mat all the time because they do not have a car.

Answer 5

I agree, as a child my mother did not take care of us very well. We were very poor and often went around in too short pants, shoes with holes and in general looking poor and dirty. I often got picked on and sometimes beat-up by kids in school when I was pretty little. When I got older I kind of figured out how to make the most of what I had and keep clean and neat, even with my limited options. Why couldn't my mother do the same? Poor doesn't have to mean raggedy/dirty. It was humiliating.
Now, with my own child, even though I don't have tons of money, I will NOT allow her to dress in dirty or too small or ripped raggedy clothes. Unless of course it's those jeans she spent all her saved up allowance on that CAME with the built in holes! Extra for the holes!

Answer 6

I dont buy my son name brand clothes except what I find on clearance. He is 3 have you ever seen what a 3 year old or any kid for that matter can do to an outfit in a matter of a couple hours, I buy him one pair of adidas shoes for shcool and a pair of nice shoes , then at tax time I let him pick on one pair of shoes, and I hit up clearance racks all over town, thats how I shop. And evey march when I get an extra $1000 from my income taxes like everone with children should I spend it on my child. Thats the best thing to do I'm a full time student I dont work and my bf pays all the bills but I still manage to shop smart and I buy things bigger than needed so when he out grows stuff I have a closet full of clothes ready for him. My kid has nice clothes but he doesnt always look good. When he goes to the babysitter I put him in play clothes and sometimes I have crap to do when I pick him up so he goes out in public wearing play clothes god forbid. And my son also likes to dress himself so I let him.
And he has a favorite pair of rain boots he likes to wear everwhere so I guess I'm a bad parent cuz my kid looks like a dirtball some times.. NO I Dont think so, my kid neve goes with out anything at all. I just let him express himself by dressing the way he want every once in a while. I dont want to inhibit his growth by being a materialistic person which is what is goin to happen to your child if you dont let her express herself and be her own person. Telling her how to dress and what to wear and not leting her decide for herself is not good, if she is a todler she is big enough to make decisions. and at the same time you are teaching her to be vain.

Answer 7

It drives me nuts when I see that. The parents that let their kids can't say that those are the only clothes they can aford because it's not!!!! You can go to walmart and buy something off the clerance rack for less than 5 dollars. You can go to a garage sale and buy nice clothes that look new for super cheap. Heck I even went to a consignment shop last summer and bought my 2 year old a Tommy Hilfigur jean shirt and a white tommy dressy tanktop. Both items still had the orginal tags on them and I only paid 5 bucks for the outfit. Now come on. If a parent can't afford to spend that on a child then they should NOT be having children.

Answer 8

I think some of you are not reading the questions well. She says "raggedy" clothes. To me that means worn thin, 20+ years old, and falling apart. Yes I hate to see kids in those clothes when you can get new or almost new clothes for nothing or for free. If parents put a little effort into it at all they could have decent clothes for their kids. A brand new outfit at Wal-Mart or K-Mart costs under $8.

Answer 9

I agree with all of the above answers. I often give clothing away to children I feel are in need as I take care of everything my children have and they are like "new" and in much better condition than the clothing already on the other child. I often give away coats. I hate it when the cold/wet weather comes and I see a child that doesn't own a coat not that he just decided not to wear one.

Answer 10

Nothing pisses me off more than when I see some kid in crappy clothes, or not wearing a coat or shoes. It seems like whenever I see a situation like that the parent is dressed in nice clothes and managed to put a coat and shoes on themselves. UGH! It ticks me off so bad!

If I dont have much money and its down to me and my kids needing shoes then guess who is going to be going around in their old shoes...ME!

Then I'll see these kids who are wearing clothes from the early 80s, like you can tell they were from the 80's, and I am still confused at 1.) Where the hell they bought clothes that old and ugly. and 2.) Why in the hell would they want their kid in some dorky old faded and holey clothes!!!