What can I do for my 10 year old sister that is being picked on in school??

Question

I am her older and only sister. I feel awful that a couple of boys are teasing her calling her ugly, nerdy and weird. My sister is just like any other 10 year old girl. What can I do to boost up her confidence or at least make her happier? Because she told my mom that she is sad and heartbroken. I live far from her, but I am visiting next week for a couple of weeks with my boyfriend.

Answer 1

take some time to sit and talk to her let her know about how the true inner beauty of a woman eventually shows thro even the prettiest girl she knows if she does not have inner beauty will start looking ugly one day and her inner beauty will shine the older she gets also let her know that boys a creeps and butt heads no matter how old they get show her pictures of you at her age or someone else in the family that looked bad when they were her age let her know that most of us go threw at time in our lives when we are not that great looking but that she has her own beauty she just needs to find it pick out a feature of hers and explane how perfect it is for her and how pretty it is let her know that her looks will develope into a face that is uniqely hers and as long as she has a beautiful heart that beauty will show threw and the boys that are picking on her will probably one day be fat bald and going no where in life and that they no nuthin to listen to her big sister things always get better oh and enlist your boyfriends help get him to start treating her special and telling her how good she looks will make her feel on top of the world that her sisters boyfriend thinks she is something special good luck wish i had had a sister like you

Answer 2

Talk to the school principal and teacher!!!!
Also get her involved into an activity that can help her build up some self-steam. For example, some karate or atekwondo clasees. So next time those boys pick on her, she kicks their a--.

Also let her know that the way she is makes her to be a great person. She's not nerdy, she's just a girl who's very smart, and she'll be someone every one will talk about someday. Tell her she's special. And she's not ugly, it's just that the kids are near sighted, tell her she's so beautiful inside and out.
Also if it's under your possibilities, ask your mom to take care her to a psychologist.

Now apart from that, find something to do with her that weekend, take her to a fair, have some sister-to-sister time.

Now if you feel you can get your boyfriend involved, ask him to tell her how beautiful and smart she is. Tell him to tell her something that'll make her feel special.

Answer 3

Your mom should go to the school and talk with the principal immediately with a "bullying" complaint. Maybe when you visit you can insist that this happen and accompany her.
Make sure that your sister knows the names of the children or can at least identify them with the name of the teacher they have or the location of where she was when they bullied her.
This usually is enough.
You can also pick her up after school and be SEEN by the prospective bullies. This is sometimes a deterrent. I had a 10 year old that was being bullied on the bus. We did the above and then his older brothers began to stand at the bus stop waiting for him. The bullying stopped.
Buy her a lil trinket like a necklace and tell her that whenever she touches it that you want her to know that she is special and loved very much by her big sister.
I wish I had such a caring big sister like you. I had only brothers.
Good Luck!

Answer 4

Go on the internet and look up some of these super models and pics. of when they where young. They where also picked on called names and look at them now. Big sister taking little sis out on a make-over would be something she will remember for a long time. Being 10 is hard remember when you where? Find a way to make her feel special and teach her to walk away, most of the time bullies do what has been done to them, but also have mom get the school envolved you don't want things to get out of hand. I know this from experience and having a few children of my own, I went through this with my son last year being picked on and pushed around by boys in school. He is 13 very tall for his age and very skinny, but extemely athetic and the other boys don't like that. Not to mention he also takes up for the underdog everytime. School is hard enough without bullies around hope she finds her way.

Answer 5

Talk to her about taking up karate.Does she have a best friend?Does the best friend help your sister?Don't go to the principal(I saw such an advice so far) because it's useless and may only make things worse.And that's none of your business,it's your parents' business to do it if your sister decides she needs this.Let her feel 'the best' while you are there.Make a party.If she knows your boyfriend and they get on well with each-other,let them have some time alone(so she will see there are good boys either).I remember when I was 15.I thought everyone else is better and I wasn't.Then I went to the house of my cousin and her boyfriend.They were 20 and 25 at the time.He was the best guy I had seen then and we got on well with each-other very well.I could share with my cousin and her boyfriend everything and they always understood me.They repeated me all the time "You are the best!" and "You are so nice(kind, sweat, polite,etc.)After that I knew I'm the best! I knew that children at school would be stupid all their lives(if they were so stupid then to get at me) and I was blessed to be the best:)I think that may help your sister either.And don't forget the karate;)

Answer 6

That just really sucks! Kids can be so cruel! If I were your mother, I would go to the school, and demand that something be done to put these bullies in their place! I live in Indiana, and there are now laws in place that speak to this very problem. Children have a right, not to be subjected to this kind of behavior, while they are in school. As far as what you can do, just be there for her! Keep in contact more. Show her ways she may improve her outward appearance, so she can have more self esteem. Get her into a club, or organization, that can boost her confidence. Brownies or girl scouts would be great! As far as how to react to the bullies, she should kill them with kindness. Hopefully, when they figure out their tactics don't bother her anymore, they'll move on.

Answer 7

I come from a family of five and all of us at one time or another had to endure the teasing or cruelty of others in our grade school environment. Reassure her EVERYONE gets picked on, even if she doesn't know it. Reassure her that "sticks and stones can break your bones, BUT words can never hurt me," even though words do hurt. My Mom often reminded us to 'consider the source' of the people picking on us. I learned to see that usually the people picking on me were not people I would have as friends, and also that bullies pick on lots of people because they are insecure and basically cowards. Turn the other cheek and ignore it best you can. If they don't get a reaction out of her, it's no fun for them , and eventually they will pick on someone new.
Also remind her that no one at age 18 is still hurting from stuff back in grade school.Tell her she's beautiful, smart, classy, and a real lady that can rise above this. Tell her this often without having to have a crisis to have you say it to her and she'll believe YOU think she's Great!!

Answer 8

Take her out for a little makeover. Buy her some new clothes. No make-up she is too young. Just let her know that the boys will come around. All little boys that age are mean. At least they talk to her some. Even if it is just to make fun of her. My daughter's father was and still is mean to me. Just let her know that she is special. No matter what other people think or say.

Answer 9

This sort of situation makes me so sad and angry, bullying can be so soul destroying for the victim. She is fortunate to have a big sister who cares so much for her
Your mum should be the one to be doing something about it, has she approached the school, do you have anti bullying practices in place at your schools?
Maybe you could just happen to "appear" when your sister is in the usual places that this nastiness occurs, and let these losers know that she does have backup.

As you don't live near her all the time, please encourage the rest of your family who are with her, to act on her behalf and get tough with the school and the parents of these thugs, and in the meantime, spend as much time with her as you can, have fun with her, to help take her mind off her problems..

Answer 10

Boy, you've gotten some excellent advice! I just wanted to say that the mom needs to initiate a conference and get them to make this stop. I was just told that schools should have an anti-buly policy. It needs to be addressed, otherwise how will she learn how to stick up for herself?
As for you big sis! It is great you have the opportunity to spend with her. enjoy your time with her and make it special, sorry you live so far away, but you guys will treasure your time together.
good luck