he really liked me and asked me out 2 years ago and i dint want to go out with him then cos id just come out of a really bad relationship and my dad had died so it was a hard time. i kind of strung him along for a while before i told him i didnt want to go out with him and i spent the night with him
then last year, i was out partying with a friend and we ended up having a threesome with the guy and he was ok with it for a while but then he stopped talking to me. the last time i spoke to him he basically told me that i was too sexually open and i had experienced alot of things and he didnt like it.
he's told his friends that he's still in love with me but at this point is there any point in trying to make it work with him. i feel like i messes it up.
2006-09-30 02:14:11 · 17 answers · asked by poppettes 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly just tell you are are still available for him. At that point it is up to him to decide if her would like to move forward with you or not
2006-09-30 02:16:47 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mess it up any more than he did. Tell him how you really feel and then take some time to yourself. Don't contact him or accept his calls for a couple weeks or more, until you have thought things through. Perhaps he is looking for excuses to keep you hanging on, just in case. Perhaps you are doing the same. Think about it. Do you really think it COULD work between you? A threesome could be considered just an experiment, and you can tell him so-- he was involved in it too, afterall. Probably shouldn't have done it with him, but that's over now and there's nothing you can do to change it anyway. It might be that you can't be together, but maybe after a few weeks, you can talk the important things through and see what you come up with.
2006-09-30 02:21:42 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were wrong from the start. You NEVER string someone along, that's a sick and cruel thing. My Dad died too, but I didn't use his death as an excuse to be a jerk. GROW UP !!! So, you had a threesome too? Do you think he respects you now? Come on with it. You are just getting what you deserve !!! What goes around comes around. You deserve to hurt !!
2006-09-30 02:18:28 · answer #3 · answered by Pretty Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's his problem. Don't take on his issues. He was there...he did it, but he doesn't see you tripping about it. He's using that as an excuse. He's not worthy of you.
You didn't mess anything up...he's tryna give you a guilt trip cuz he allowed himself to share you with a friend....let him go....
If he was secure...that whole threesome thing would have been about having sexual fun....and he should know you're all about him.... this is going into 2007....exploration doesn't make you a bad person....
2006-09-30 02:19:42 · answer #4 · answered by zeta121 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pffff. He sounds like a douche to me. He's criticizing you for being in a threesome that he himself was a part of? Dork.
Try to make up with him sure, but don't be apologetic, if he cn't accept you fully with no equivocations then don't get back with him. You have done nothing wrong, so don't act like it.
2006-09-30 02:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by The Lobe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you had a 3some doesnt make you super sexually open sounds like you only did it one time, but keep in mind that your behavior does leave an impression on others.
2006-09-30 02:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it up. Threesomes kill relationships. No man wants memories of his woman with another man.
2006-09-30 02:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by DR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don try to do anything fake...be what u always were to him like.
just keep ur self true to whatever u r doing.talk to him as usual but keep the shy feeling ang guilty feeling in ur tone(keep the real tones).
and leave the rest to him.try not to act too open to hm.
2006-09-30 02:21:56 · answer #8 · answered by tonima 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes,you have definately messed it up and it would be better if you just forget about this guy,be-cos he has seen too much of you and hasn't approved of it....
he wouldn't be able to keep up to you,even if you guys get together,chances of which are very low!!
so just move on in life n get someone who would respect you equally,good luck!!
2006-09-30 02:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, the thing is have a heart to heart talk with him and tell him your feelings, if it fails then am afraid you have to go on with your life without him
all the best.
2006-09-30 02:29:47 · answer #10 · answered by akrofi5000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋