My g/f told me in a text that she felt suffocated by my love. I think she treats me like a door mat .
Is it possible to suffocate someone with love if you only see them once or twice a week . If I halved the amount of time I see her I dont think it would technically be called a relationship.
Anyway I have told her that we need to talk after I finish work tonight.
I dont want to dump her but I will.
2006-09-30 01:50:29 · 29 answers · asked by Fox Hunter 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah it sounds like YOU deserve someone better... if you only get to see your b/f or g/f once or twice a week, you appreciate every second you get with them, if she treats you like a door mat that once or twice a week its not worth it and you should move on and find someone who will let you love them and love you back just the same!!!
maybe ask her WHY she feels suffocated, maybe shes just not an affectionate person.. either way good luck and follow your gut instinct ;-)
2006-09-30 01:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by im just me.. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Other than seeing her twice a week what else are you doing? Sending her surprise gifts on the hour? Texting her every five minutes with declarations of passion? Lurking in the shadows outside her home at night?
I didn't think so, so I guess you aren't suffocating her, but she does feel stifled to some degree by something that is going on between the two of you. That's what you need to find out.
If you think she's treating you like a doormat then get up off the floor and wipe away her footprints. That means being a little less 'nice' and having a bit more bite to you. You don't have to become a bastard but chances are she'll have more respect for you.
If you don't want to dump her, then don't give her an ultimatum you'll regret. If you really have had enough, then leave with a smile on your face, knowing that someone, somewhere will appreciate you for being you.
2006-09-30 03:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A text msg can be so dangerous just like email
People have started wars over less.
Sounds like this relationship isn't working for you but don't use the text as an excuse or a reason to dump her first, unless you 100% know exactly what she meant you'll be better off finding what she meant it to mean.
If it's repairable.and not working out, just tell her the real straight forward reasons why it isn't and maybe you can work it out Otherwise best keep it simple and don't use excuses, just let her know that the relationship as a whole didn't work. Remember, that what you hate, the next guy could find a real attraction, people are strange like that !!?!
2006-09-30 02:28:02 · answer #3 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering that there are people who spend every day with each other and would never say that they are suffocating, maybe your girlfriend has or wants to have another boyfriend(s).
Then again I really don't know what your situation is from just a bit of writing. Who knows? Maybe you don't let her do anything.
Anyway, breaking up sounds good.
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2016-11-25 03:50:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're right; if you're truly in love with someone, you don't feel "suffocated" by him. On the contrary, you want to be with him/her the whole time! So, what is she saying? To see her for only half an hour so as to feel free? Tell her to get real!
2006-09-30 02:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by maggie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to not jump to conclusions here and jump in feet first and dump her! You need to talk to her and find out why she feels suffocated! People can feel suffocated for different reasons when within a relationship you need to ask her and find out whats her reason!
2006-09-30 02:05:13 · answer #7 · answered by Glitterstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude she doesn't want to be with you. She wants whatever it is that you give to her apart from love and I've a suspicion she is now getting that from someone else because she is even giving up the twice a week thing. Money? run around after her? take her wherever, whenever she needs? You are right honey.. you are a doormat.
2006-09-30 02:18:24 · answer #8 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, what does she mean by suffocating? And what does she want from your relationship? Try asking her.
But be prepared to be told it's over. It doesn't sound good. In fact, it sounds as though there's someone else.
2006-09-30 03:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think, if she feels like that, she's not really mature enough to be in a relationship. But if you love her you should try to tolerate the fact that she may feel a different way.
Perhaps, instead of breaking up with her, you should try to work things out. But definitely talk to her.
2006-09-30 02:27:13 · answer #10 · answered by Hannah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋