i will be 48 in a few weeks, a grandma. a few months back i recently got in touch with a man i was engaged to in high school we had the usual high school romance. . scared to death he wants me to come visit, its been over 25years. he cant come here because he is in school at the moment, and i have a lot more free time. iam back and forth on what to do. alot different talking on the phone, than in person. iam i being silly or should i just go?
2006-09-30 01:38:32 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you do not have any young children to worry with, just go this is your time... i am sure you have lived your life always doing what other people have wanted you to do, if not now, when will it be your turn.... have fun, you never know where this might go, if nothing else it can be one of those things you did way back when... if you are concerned about seeing him after all this time, just remember he has aged too, and usually men outside of hollywood dont age near as well as women, just try not to be too nervous... and good luck to the both of yall, this may be your next chapter, turn the page..... woo hoo
2006-09-30 01:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by browneyedmomof3 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was in the same boat last Christmas. I am 41 and my high school sweetheart contacted my mom. We live 900 mile apart, but HIS parents live near me. We talked on the phone almost every nite for 2 weeks. I know he was head over heels in love w/ me in school and I thought he was great too. Anyway, we ended up getting together for an afternoon. He had ben married and divorced and has 3 kids. When I saw him I felt nothing whatsoever. He looked almost the same-maybe a little gray, a bit more weight, but no feelings of whatever rushed thru my head. In fact, I was getting a bit annoyed with him after about the first hour or so. He was like a puppy dog on my heels. My entire family was thrilled that we had met again etc. I finally told my mom that everyone is thrilled but ME. But the point of this whole story is this........YOU WONT KNOW UNTIL YOU GO! So go and find out! Good luck to you and have fun!
2006-09-30 01:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! You should !! Its always like going back to your childhood when you both sit together and brood over the past. Certain things which were not understood at that time becomes very clear. You will feel a child at heart and so also he. Enjoy, find pleasure on the turn of fortune to make you both meet after so long.... you will cherish every moment because your thoughts will be the same except for the sexual desires!!
2006-09-30 01:45:16 · answer #3 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good idea NOT to go alone. Having said that, if you want to go, you should tell someone.
Visit him? Erm... 25 years is a long time. I suggest you meet him in a small cafe. That way if you find you have nothing in common with him anymore, at least you met him. You can make your excuses with him and go. If you still get on well, then a cafe is a good place too, you can stay longer.
I question his motives. Why does he want to meet you suddenly, after all these years?
Sometimes it is better to treasure the memories and then let go.
what about the two of you meeting half-way? School is closed during the weekends, depending on the subjects one studies. .
2006-09-30 01:44:52 · answer #4 · answered by Balaboo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you say scared do you mean in the physical sense, or social scared. There is a big difference!
Go, but make plans to stay in a hotel, and keep it short. Even one overnight. Ot make it a weekend and bring a friend. Make sure you know the tourists hot spots so you can propose activites.
Plan on having fun, it is a visit and nothing else.
2006-09-30 01:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should just go for it! You will never know if you dont go. Whats the worst that could happen? I think you will have a great time and even if it doesnt turn to romance you will rekindle a friendship and have an adventure. Have fun :-)
2006-09-30 01:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by dbaywildgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your gut. If you decide to go, stay at a Hotel, not with him. Get a feel for what is what. Twenty-five years is a long time and people do change. Nothing like seeing for yourself as to the real situation. Good luck!
2006-09-30 01:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by new_kid82 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aren't you lucky ... 48 and a grandma? Follow your heart and don't regret. Life is short and if you think he will make you happy .. why hesitate? Also think if it is going to another one night stand that will break your heart. If yes, forget about the whole issue.
2006-09-30 22:50:55 · answer #8 · answered by j t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go, if nothing else, it would be nice to remember old times. You are both different peole now and have a lot of catching up to do. Have fun!
2006-09-30 01:42:22 · answer #9 · answered by housemouse62451 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. I recently got back in touch with my whirlwind highschool romance after many years. Trust me, the sex is still great.
2006-09-30 01:41:06 · answer #10 · answered by The Lobe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋