Ever have your heart ripped out and smeared on the ground...?

Question

like a paste? Tell me of devastation and how you survived.

Answer 1

By realizing that my physical and emotional devastation ultimately serves a purpose that is positive. I learned that the worst things that happen to me in the short run, are usually the best things that could happen to me in the long run. You can find that out too, by reading "Rational Spirituality" on the Dhaxem website, and tally the knowledge of the Concept against what you feel in your heart.

If you need help over and above that, drop me a line. Best wishes.

Answer 2

This is the biggest reason we are advised to not play around with sex and be sincere when we date. And it is the least one
mentioned. The fact that love can destroy us emotionally.To
the point we might never trust or love again.
After my first heartbreak. It was three years before a slept with
another woman. And many more years before I was able to
be open to love.
But it doesn't have to be that way. I'm 50 now, and I realize
that not everyone is compatible. When a relationship fails, we
think we failed. But we need more than physical attraction
or the desire for someone, for a relationship to work. We need
to have the same interests. Want to do the same things. Have at
least similar beliefs.
Believe in yourself, and others will believe in you too.

Answer 3

Yeah. Time heals all wounds.

And it helped that the sudden unexpected wife called me to complain that her husband was still in love with me. At that point, I felt very lucky to have not married a man who could be so cruel.

Depending on how smeared you are, it might take a month or a few years. For me, it was about 6 months, but would have been much longer had it not been for that phone call.

Answer 4

Sounds as if you've had a very rude awakening indeed. I've had breakups that left me feeling like broken glass inside.

I survived, because I developed a useful coping mechanism that gave me something to help me out of despair.

I advise you to look for something you can turn into a coping mechanism, some activity that reinforces your self - esteem and allows you to restore your ability to function in the world.

What you do is entirely up to yourself. I'm not going to point to something and say "Do this" because the meaning you need must come from you, not from me.

Otherwise, you just have to leave it to time to dull the pain.

Answer 5

Shortly after my ex-fiance left me because I refused to convert to his religion...I found out he'd been cheating on me. And not a little cheating. We found at least eight girls who'd been with him while we were together, including friends of mine, including at least two minors.

How I survived? I got tougher, and I got a lot less naive. I also refused to let it spoil me on relationships, but I took some time off--about two and a half years, no dating. And then when I least expected it..the right one came along, and we've been together for near two years.

Answer 6

the first boy i ever was in love with ripped it out and smeared it on the ground. typical tragic love story. guy cheats on girl...etc etc. but what goes around, comes around. got it right back at his face.

Answer 7

figuratively speaking , yes. i don't know how i survived it but it took me awhile to pull myself together again.i couldn't eat mcuh less chew or swollow food during that period. i just sleep it away. i was like dead man walking during the day. i'm so glad i'm out of it now.

Answer 8

Yeah something like that. Then I realized that I deserved someone better, and that it isn't the end of the world.

Answer 9

you have no choice but to survive..surviving is inevitable
..How it hurts !!!! it all depends on the persons morality...
some hurt more than others ..some just shrug there shoulders and get on with life....lol

Answer 10

Yeah.. it's rough. Just keep your mind off of her as much as possible... when you catch yourself thinking of her, think "I'm thinking of her again" and try to put your mind on something else.