Huge fear of death?

Question

I have recently turned 20, and my feelings on death seem to be just now settling in. I don't really know how to describe it other than a fear so bad that I don't want to sleep (due to the horrendous nightmares) I burst into tears if i think about anything to do with losing someone, how it feels to die, what my last thought would be, and how i will go, are all thoughts (and then some) that won't get out of my head. I don't know how to deal with it, even in happy times, i start to get sad because i know they will not last, and therefor ruining the happy moment. How do I take my mind off of this? I really would like to enjoy life while I'm still young. any suggestions? Has anyone else gone through something similar, and what'd you do?

Answer 1

I am 29 and i did the same thing . I used to worry so much about me dying or someone close to me. Twice i was near death too so don't know if this started it or not. Then i just one day realized that I'm not worrying about it anymore like i used too. I can't explain why cause i don't know why. So hopefully this will happen soon with you also.

Answer 2

This really wasn't a question, but yes having a fear of a painful death is normal. I was a combat medic in Iran for a tour and I had a huge fear of getting shot and bleeding to death, intense nightmares and everything, then one day I got shot in the shoulder and I realized it wasn't that bad. I mostly had just over dramatized the pain in my head. Felt a lot like a bee sting, but at high speeds. It's nothing to be ashamed of or anything like that so don't worry.

Answer 3

death is no more than apeaceful falling asleep so whats to fear. How many times were you woke up from a real restful, pleasurable sleep and hated the person or thing that woke you, knowing there was no way of getting back there? Also once your dead nothing or nobody can hurt or bother you again, so stop worring about what ain't and enjoy what is. The real secret to the fountain of youth is lack of worry. The best way to eliminate worry is to look at the problem, figure out what you can do about it, do it and forget about it as all else is beyond your control.

Answer 4

I think you have some type of a sickness. See a doctor. On the other hand, death is a natural. We WILL ALL gonna face or one day. Believe me, there was times I felt I shouldn't sleep too, because I wonder what if I never wake up. But, I guess you should get close to your religious believes to comfort you and think that you will go to a better place if you die. Just convince yourself that.

But see a doctor, I forgot what it is called, but having fears of death, and feeling sadness, etc is some type of sickness.

Answer 5

I'm 22 and I'm a nurse. I deal with death and dying on a consistent basis, and our age group has the hardest time dealing with it. Being around it has helped me and also being a Christian has helped because I know what life will be like when I die. I wish I could tell you that you'll grow out of it but that's not necessarily true, so go to a psych doc and find out where it all stems and if you understand death you'll realize that it's not so bad, it's just another part of life.

Answer 6

I was always kind of a worry wart then at about your age the fear of death kicked in and from there my anxiety just exploded. I've had counseling and been on meds which was all helpful to me and I highly recommend it if you feel your anxiety widening. The fear of death is a natural one b/c it is something you really have little control over unless you are doing reckless things. You have to come to grips with the fact it is out of your control and it is a part of life. To be quite honest with you I was able to push it out of my mind with counseling and meds but it wasn't until my mother died that I finally let it go. I know it sounds weird but it was like well at least someone I love is on the other side.

Answer 7

You sound like you are going through depression. You might want to seek professional counseling to alleviate your stress factor. People have varied opinions on death but personally I am not afraid and never have been. It's inevitable for everyone. I do absolutely HATE it when a child dies at the hands of another person but other than that my frame of mind is death is a part of life and you cannot avoid it so don't worry about it.

Answer 8

There are probably plenty of people that you've influenced or touched deeply, (for the better) Haven't you had a stranger give you some kind of advice or just say something that changes your perspective on things.Those kind of things LIVE ON this life and you live on as they get passed on from generation to generation. So its not over when it's over. that's the good thing.

But yeah, it seems unfair to do all that's expected of us then just die. To that i say "Wow, this is a bunch of crap!"

All one can do live savor every day like it was your last. And look forward to being reunited with loved ones.

Answer 9

Just don't worry about it to much, everyone dies sometime.. most people die peacfully in there sleep.. it just happens nothing to really worry about.. you still have life to live.. just live it and be happy that you still have it.. many people younger then you have died.. they never got to live a full life like.. you are allowed to right now.. so don't waste you life worrying about death, when the time comes it comes.. just try liveing the life you to the fullest.. worry about death when you like 70.. not now.. your still to young to worry about it this badly.. you still have your whole life to live.. don't weight your life down by adding the fear that you could die tomorrow.. just live you life that its your last day every day.. and do the same for others..

Answer 10

You need to find a way to accept it. No matter what people say, or what drugs your on to take your mind off of it that wont change the fact it's going to happen. Just imagine how much it would suck to live to the point to where you cant even stand or wash yourself anymore and your forced to wear diapers because you no longer have control of your bowels.