My husband is treating me as a hore. I was married to him before and got devorced and remarid him again.however; I am not in love with him but love him.He is trying to use his money as a weapon. He thinks that I have to have sex with him everytime to get money from him. unfortunatly, I am not interested in having sex with him or I am not interested in having sex with him just to et the money. This hurts! I don't have a job at this time and i need the money what shall I do? who do I n eed to talk to concerning these matter? I need to kick his *** out of my aprtment?? since he is sharing my apartement?? pls help me
2006-09-29 21:14:23 · 20 answers · asked by rita23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Whoa, please read what you have written. I am sure you know the answer truly you wouldn't need someone else to answer that for you.
2006-09-29 21:18:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You knew what he was like when you married him; due to the fact that you'd been married to him once before. Even though you still love him doesn't mean that you have to be married to him. He is not treating you with the respect that you deserve & should demand. In the past did you try marriage counceling? If you decide to stay with this guy I'd advise you get some help. If not, you're better on your own. You have to be able to love yourself before you can love anyone else.
If your needing money so badly why don't you get a job or find some way to support yourself.
2006-09-30 05:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by motherfourchildren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage means mutual love, dependance and sacrifice for the partner. You married him second time, that means someway you are liking him. I am afraid you are trying to extract from your marriage without contibuting your part to the relationship. As a wife it is your responsibility to satisfy his sexual urge. If he is using his money to get sex from you, that is because you are not offering him a basic service needed from a wife in a marital relationship. He is ready to give money but you are not ready to offer him sex means that you have to improve your contribution to the relationship. Try to develop love for him as it wins people more than anything else.. Offer him sex that he desperately needs. You have to think and work on making your marital relationship a success, even at the cost of making some sacrifice. Problem in a relationship arises when a party/parties to it try to extract benefit without giving much thought as to their contribution to the relationship. I am sorry if I am sounding harsh. Divorce is not a solution. It is likely you may land in a similar problem in your next relationship if you do not remedy your attitude towards your partner. Do your part and thus motivate him to do his part. That is how a relationship gets strengthened over time.
2006-09-30 04:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't got a job, at this time, how can you kick out the bread winner?
When you get to a place where you are able to stand on your own two feet, tell him you are ready to make a change. In other words, he will need to move out of your apartment and you will need to pay your own bills.
Some therapy would probably be a good idea. It sounds like you are weak and under your husband's control.
2006-09-30 04:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have a problem, you are in denial. If you don't want to, you don't have to. Call a divorce lawyer, and get half. There was a reason you guys got divorced the first time. Live, and learn from your mistakes. Whores; just Fu... Prostitutes get paid. You can answer your own question, if you search your own heart, and mind. Slow down and do you.
2006-09-30 04:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by Byron B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not normal.
If you are short on money, focus your effort on the options out there that you consider worthwhile. You might let him know it would help for him to pay part of the rent so that you are able to afford it? Apply for work, ask around, and attempt to reduce expenses.
2006-09-30 04:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by Robert B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have never remarried that jerk. Kick his *** to the curb. No amount of money is worth losing your self-esteem over girl. I went thru a similiar situation. Get out and live your life happy and have piece of mind and self worth again. You can do it.
2006-09-30 04:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by Shortydeb 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what you have to do. And, hell naw it is not normal for a man to treat his wife like a whore. But women sometimes act like whores to get things from men. Get a job and kick his sorry *** to the curb. Be a woman!
2006-09-30 04:21:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i fail to understand why do people consider marriage as a license to have sex and why is sex everything for people,first comes love and respect for each other and then the sex......no one can force you to indulge in something you are not interested in...
you need to get a job for your self first and then seek professional help to get him out of your house and life!!good luck!!
2006-09-30 04:21:01 · answer #9 · answered by country_girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you don't have a job...
and he's paying the rent...
then it's his apartment honey.
just because your name is on the lease dosent make it yours.
either be a hore...
or be a strong independent woman.
but stop trying to be a victim. &uck'em for the money and shut up... or get a job and shut up. but either way... _ _ _ _ _ _
2006-09-30 04:24:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a fu*king job and fend for yourself and quit complaining. You make the rest of the female population look stupid!
2006-09-30 04:25:07 · answer #11 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋