She's wondering where she went wrong, as she raised me a strict catholic.
Should I keep pretending to make her happy? Hypocrisy wouldn't be new to religion anyway, what's one more person?
2006-09-29 20:15:18 · 25 answers · asked by Jmyooooh 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Smiling at your question......I respect your mother's choice, but she should respect yours!
Walk your path!
2006-09-29 20:22:46 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
You say you are atheist, I say you are agnostic. Why? Well, being atheist means you believe God doesn't exist. Agnostic mean you do not know whether or not God exist (and maybe you don't care). If you were to say God doesn't exists the obvious next question would be why? Becuase you've never seen God? Or heard God's voice? Does not having personally had contact with something mean it must not exist? But surely you would agree that you don't know everything, and that somewhere outside of what you know and have experienced there is the possibility that a spiritual being exists. Not saying it's an absolute, but it is possible.
To say that there is no God requires absolute knowledge. Knowledge of not only our 4 known and understood dimensions but all the higher dimensions as well. That would be impossible for a 3 dimensional creature such as yourself. If you had absolute knowledge then you would be God. To say that there is a God only requires personal experience or an understanding that the design in creation warrants a designer. Ultimately there really can only be 2 types of people, believers and agnostics. Those who have seen first hand or can see evidence that God exists and those who believe that God might not exist, but can never really be sure that this is so.
Maybe your mom would feel better if she knew you were agnostic, since she can at least believe there is hope for you yet.
2006-09-30 03:46:48 · answer #2 · answered by Drea 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I guess you shouldn't pretend that you are making your mum happy because it'll hurt her feelings more. Just be who you are maybe talk to your mum about this and let her accept who you really are and tell her that she didn't went wrong with anything to raise you (though I have a friend that is an atheist too and we had a fight since we have different beliefs in terms of religion, but now it's all right with me) ; )
2006-09-30 03:22:18 · answer #3 · answered by cheese 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why is she heartbroken exactly? Is she afraid you're going to hell or is she ashamed for her catholic friends?. Maybe you can just talk about her reasons to be heartbroken. It may relieve her a bit. She can't convert you anymore into being a catholic than you can convert her into being an atheist, so maybe you can talk about it and agree to disagree. Please don't pretend, way to many people do that already and it will probably catch up with you in the end. You're being an atheist is nothing to be ashamed of and maybe your mother should be proud that she's raised her girl to be an independently thinking women.
2006-09-30 03:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by chocolatebunny 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
YOu need to follow your heart on this one. If you choose to be truthful you need to recognise the fact that mothers all over the world suffer disappointment with the choices that their children make and some would be a much larger cross to bear. Mothers find out their kids are gay or into drugs. Some have committed murder or robbery, so what you are guilty of is really just a life choice. Are you going to listen if the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with is not the one your mother would choose. Or if she says your children have to be brought up a certain way. If you are under age then I guess you should go along with what she wants till you are of age, but then it is up to you as you have your own life to live.
2006-09-30 03:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by auburn 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no...your mother will accept it eventually. just bring up the good things about Atheisum. she may not agree with you but it may bring her some peace. I was raised Catholic too. although i still beleieve in god I also follow a lot of Wiccan beleifs as well. for my husband is Wiccan. my mom really diddnt like it much...you know how a lot of Christians think that its evil...well i educated her on it a little and now she feels a little more at ease.
2006-09-30 03:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by eightieschick70 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No. You owe her honesty. It will hurt, only till she learns you can be a happy atheist.
BTW, what went wrong is that she raised you a 'strict' Catholic. Strictness is no good here.
2006-09-30 03:26:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm agnostic and was raised methodist. My mom doesn't like it, but oh well. She knows that I'm still a good person, and that I treat others as I want to be treated. Just because I don't take stories in the bible literally doesn't mean I'm the devil.
2006-09-30 03:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I had the same problem, but I'm absolutely convinced in what I believe, and finally told my mother to stop badgering me about the issue unless she wants to hear my very strong opinion.
I last went to a church the Sunday before I moved out of my parent's house and will never go again. She has to deal with this and realize that this doesn't mean you are a bad person, but one who actually thinks about your actions. Most catholics just go to church and go through the motions because that is what they have been raised to do. That is wrong.
The church is just a money-making organization which attempts to control its patrons / customers through intimidating them with things like the threat of going to hell.
2006-09-30 03:20:42 · answer #9 · answered by Sanmigsean 6 · 9⤊ 1⤋
I think you should be very proud to atheist and to be clever enough to find out there is no real god/religion, as far as your mom, just say you're disappointed with her and make HER feel bad.
2006-09-30 03:29:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My mother reacted the exact same way when I told her yesterday. She said she thinks I'll change my mind when I have kids, but I highly doubt that. She doesn't know how firmly I've created my beliefs. The thing is, my mother is the only person I am physically unable to debate with. I think all great mothers have that quality. They turn your mind into mush when you are about to debate them and you can't remember the facts to back your arguments. But I just won't talk to her about it anymore. I don't think you should pretend, just don't talk about it.
2006-09-30 03:20:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 2⤋