Im 21 and have been sexual active for sometime now... I have been with my boyfriend for a year and something now. I was wondering... How can I get over being so shy when it comes to getting naked around him. He loves me and tells me Im sexy and he loves every inch of me. But I still run and cover up ect. .. Also, could this lead to me not claimaxing during sex?
2006-09-29 19:21:59 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well it seems like its kind of an acquired taste more than anything, i mean it's not like even if you love someone you can just undress in 2 seconds unless your a little tipsy or something, give it time and don't fret you'll be fine
2006-09-29 19:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by zhilgy_4_13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are just a little insecure about how you perceive other people think you look. You are probably your own worst critic and are being too hard on yourself. If your boyfriends loves the way you look then run with it and get naked! Try skinny dipping with him or something. You'll get over being shy with time. If you dwell on this issue it could mess up a good orgasm. Be confident, you look good! Good luck.
2006-09-30 02:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by Fort Worth, TX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! You have to be Totally relaxed and you can't do that when all you can think about is how you look.
Why are you so uncomfortable with your body? Get in shape if you need to...or hang out naked for a whole day, by yourself. Be comfortable with your body...accept it...
Or maybe you feel ashamed because you are not married and you grew up knowing/learning that you should be before having sex.
In closing...2 words
Birth Control
With Love, Ponderpink :)
2006-09-30 02:26:54 · answer #3 · answered by Ponderpink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be able to feel comfortable about yourself. Try dimming the lights so low to build your confidence and then slowly brighten the lights. Sit and talk about it with him and get his feelings and experiment a piece of clothing off at a time. You have to feel comfortable around your mate even in the nude, and yes that could have an affect on you climaxing during sex because u r so nervous about being nude it over rides everything else, Good Luck
2006-09-30 02:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to open up a little and let him see you. This could lead to you not having orgasms and relationships. My suggestion is to look at yourself in the mirror naked and admire your own sexuality. When you do this often you will not mind being naked when he is around.
2006-09-30 02:26:40 · answer #5 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Friend,
I dont know why you r shy of getting naked in front of your lover.Lett me tell you that being shy is not bad in girls , infact girls should b a little shy but ultimately it is better to get naked in front of ur lover as he can give u more enjoyment only if u r naked and allow him to do whatever he wants to do with u.But b cautious until u get married with him use condoms for sex.
Yours
Ravi
2006-09-30 02:31:07 · answer #6 · answered by ravinder b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. You need not go out of the way to be naked in front of him. When time comes you will easily shed ur clothes. And if he really loves you, then u being naked or not; will not bother him. He will accept you as you are!
2006-09-30 02:33:14 · answer #7 · answered by enLightened1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at times
2006-09-30 02:25:38 · answer #8 · answered by 185 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
low self esteem is a main factor, if you have that then it takes some getting over. also if you yourself are not happy with your body you convince yourself that your man cant be either, women always find fault with something about themselves, their bum is to big or their boobs are too small.your man is with you so he obviously likes you and all your so called faults you think are there,no one male or female has the perfect body OK, it doesn't exist unless you have been photoshoped to death or you pay thousands of pounds to get it done, so don't beat yourself up OK, he loves you for who you are not who you think you should be,
2006-09-30 02:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're uncomfortable with your boyfreind seeing your body..it's because you're not comfortable with it. You might want to check into that feeling. We all have times like that, I don't think you're unusual, it's pretty normal at a young age, however if it keeps up you might want to really look into why you feel that way....ARE you uncomfortable with your body and why? that's a place to start..
Good Luck 21
2006-09-30 02:36:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋