Since i can remember i never got out of my house, i mean my parents never took me anywhere cuz we were really poor, u know how parents take their kids to the park or to do something fun... well my parents never did, we moved around and the only friends i had were lost, now im 19 and i just finished college, i skiped some years since i had nothing to do but to study... well anywho this is why i need help... i have no friends at all and i never go out, my parents passed away couple years back and till right now i realised that im not needed here, i mean i wish i would feel wanted or needed, i have a good job and a big house but whats all the riches when u dont have anyn one to share your failures with?
2006-09-29 19:17:44 · 16 answers · asked by Oscar 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i would like some advice...
my email its ( blue2587@comcast.net )
my yahoo messanger is shady_subject_2k
2006-09-29 19:20:35 · update #1
Wow! I totally understand. My parents never took me anywhere when I was a kid either. I realized that all my friends were just using me for personal gain so I tried an experiment. I found I was always the one calling to see if they wanted to hang out or have fun etc. So I decided I would wait to hear from them. Well guess what, save one, have not heard from a single one. My parents are still alive, but my father and I don't get along. My mom and I do, but she's stuck in the middle. But I totally get what you're saying. I don't want to go hang out at the bars, but really I don't know where else to hang out! Email me if you wanna chat.
2006-09-29 19:25:10 · answer #1 · answered by its me! 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Find a group or activity that you enjoy, one that involves other people, even if TO BEGIN WITH it is online, and start interacting with other people. Some cities also have social clubs. No matter what you think right now, you are needed. There is a purpose to you being here. You however are going to have to get out there and try some stuff and get active in meeting other people. It may be hard to begin with but I guarantee it will get easier.
2006-09-30 02:24:50 · answer #2 · answered by lokimadhouse 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you are dwelling on your past too much. I am sorry to hear about your folks but there comes is a time to move on. If you have a good job and a house you have more than a lot of people. Try to redirect your energy and make a list of goals to reach. Even if it is as simple as cleaning out the garage you are engaging in constructive behavior. I have to go work out.....
2006-09-30 02:29:29 · answer #3 · answered by tadpoleslider 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Man, do you sound sad. No girl wants a sad sack. You need to find a hobby and then surround yourself with people who love what you love. You need to be happy with yourself before anyone can be happy with you. I found that out about 10 years ago and now I couldn't be happier. People like to be around happy people. Good Luck!!!
2006-09-30 02:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by Grammy M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow.....ok the only way to start metting ppl and friends is to get out of the house and go places. You can meet ppl at your job, share intrest. Go to church thats a good way to meet ppl, go to clubs, bars, bowling, neihbors, fishing. Think about your intrestes and trying sprouting out to places that intrest you, you will find ppl that have the same intrest as you do. Good luck!
2006-09-30 02:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by wonder woo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey Oscar, I can just say there is no place for finding your wishes but inside you. Be happy and kind with people around and you will find a lot of true friends after a while.Don't forget selfconfidence.!!
2006-09-30 02:23:56 · answer #6 · answered by alfaversion 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Short answer: develop hobbies, join in social and hobby clubs you like. DO something that you enjoy, along the way you will meet people of like-mind.
Do not sit and do nothing and complain about how unhappy you are!
2006-09-30 02:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by Peter_F 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Travel... it's a good way to meet people and to get to places. It's time to stop blaming the parents (bless their souls).... not going anywhere was when you couldn't afford it- now you can! Come to Hawaii... people are very friendly here.
2006-09-30 02:23:24 · answer #8 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Really?
Are you ready to rate this as the Best Answer?
Okay..2 words...
Get Involved!
Start a new talent...take lessons from someone...go to church and go to Singles Group activities...play sports for the city...volunteer your time in a kitchen or something.
HAVE PURPOSE!
Make your life COUNT!
Good Luck Babe! :)
2006-09-30 02:21:22 · answer #9 · answered by Ponderpink 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why talk about your failures.....think of only happy things n life will treat you well... go out n find ...don't sit down with the pc n mourn......even god can't help if you don't put in the effort.....you are just wasting yr life......thinking of wasted things
2006-09-30 02:25:47 · answer #10 · answered by Ynot78 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋