Okay... Im 20 and sexual active. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and something... I was wondering why he never relaxs and just lets go during sex....
2006-09-29 18:38:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe hes under alot of stress about what he wants to do for his future or feeling insecure with himself and this relationship with you because of dealing with change with his body and growing more into a lost man. In a mans mind early 20tys is still in a boys stage and can fear what life is going to bring him. Just give it time sweetie and see what happens your still young and there are other fish in the sea. Stress does effect sex lives. good luck to you
2006-09-29 18:59:45 · answer #1 · answered by becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't give a lot of information here to give an accurate answer. Are you saying he is like a robot and just has sex and gets off, or are you saying he has too many inhibitions? . it may be even after a year or so he is shy, some men are about sex and been naked. maybe he feels under pressure to perform so is concentrating too hard. maybe spend some more time on foreplay to get him to totally feel relaxed before intercourse takes place. reassure him that you are not scoring his every move out of 10 and that its about loving each other and feeling that closeness that intercourse should bring,
2006-09-29 18:43:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be a lot of reasons. Have you talked to him about it? Maybe he is just uptight about sex. Maybe he had a bad experience before.Another reason could be where or when you are doing it...by that I mean is there a chance you could be caught or interupted. Maybe he just never learned to relax during sex. Maybe it is performance anxiety. Maybe he is affraid you will think he is a sex freak. Maybe, maybe, maybe. The fact is there could be a lot of reasons. Talk it over and see if it makes sense. Best of luck.
2006-09-29 18:44:12 · answer #3 · answered by Mav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hope that after a year, you wouldn't have to ask such a question. Obviously the two of you are not communicating, and that's exactly what you need to be doing. Ask him what's up and tell him your concerns and desires. You've got nothing to lose and everything to gain!
2006-09-29 18:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by Shellbus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do, is practice what you are wanting from him, enough that he feels comfortable. Keep asking him things he likes and get straight answers. eventually it will be easy for him to let his thoughts be known.
2006-09-29 18:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by Aaron S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to teach him to, also tell him that you are enjoying it, maybe he is worried about nnot pleasing you
2006-09-29 18:40:44 · answer #6 · answered by LIL' DEVIL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him
2006-09-29 18:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by amstar021 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
probably worried about not pleasing you
2006-09-29 18:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is nervous b/c he isnt sure how its really done.
2006-09-29 18:40:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may too hot for him~
2006-09-29 18:41:49 · answer #10 · answered by Pessimist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋