should I leave my family?

Question

My family is deeply religious. But I am non religious ,because i find my religion noncompatible with science and against humanity.The problem is that i love my family but they are not ready to accept my nonreligious behaviour.I feel mentally tortured when they force me to pray.please seriosly answer what should i do

I am above 18 and earned my own living. I live in diff. city as to my family.Every time I visit my family they raise the same topic about my faith and religious practice.

Answer 1

wow. i'm pretty devout to my faith but would never force my kids to pray. right now they are very young and volunteer to pray at meals and stuff, but in times that we have asked "would you like to pray for dinner" if they say no, we just ask someone else. will your parents not accept your "respectful decline" at all? if not, they should, and are taking it too far. on the other hand, if the question you're asking is a religious cover-up for being 19 and a half and still living with them but coming in at 4 a.m. stoned, then yes, you should be respectful and move out. but i don't think that's what you're saying. just tell them you love them and want to be respectful but non-participative for a while, while you search for the truth on your own. they should understand that. if they force you, it's superficial. but if they allow you to make your own search, the answers you find will be ones that came from your own spiritual longing. very best of wishes. i hope you are able to be at peace with this conflict. it sounds painful.

Answer 2

This is quite a difficult situation.
It is ur parents responsibility to keep an eye on u and keep u on the rite path so they won't say anything that will harm u.
u live seperate so dats not really that much of a problem but wen u go there jus tell them to not discuss that topic. On the other hand, u cud be tiny bit bad and pretend ur very religious infront of them only...

Answer 3

Hey do u remeber those dayz when ur family has treated u....when ur family cared abt u...when u were ill.....when u were sick...do u remember those dayz when ur own family had so many pains....?
I think they luv u too thts y they r telling u to b wid them n i think they arent wrong!
Yes i know...in sum point u r also true...u r too correct...every1 has diff nature....every1 has diff. veiws.....but remeber when u'll love sum1 n the person whom u'll b loved a lot if suppose he'll say to u tht no..u r wrong....then wht? The person u may live the whol life mite tell u tht no at dis point u r wrong...u cant b non religious.....
I think tht ur parents really luv u n they cant c u away from them.....u r really lucky to have such gud family tht cares 4 u a lot....suppose if another strict family wud have been thr ...? u knwo they wud have treated u as a prisoner at ur own home...! My dear frend i think u shudnt leave ur home just bcoz u have diff. thoughts....u shud change ur decision n join ur family again!

Answer 4

Leaving you family is probably not the first step to take when trying to work out the differences between you and them. And when they "Force you to pray" is this at gun point? Or are you just doing what you think they want you to do so you can avoid conflict? Perhaps you need to relax a bit, take a deep breath, and think of some other options before you jump ship.

Answer 5

What do you mean leave them? If you're over the age of 18 you can move out and get your own place to live and you won't be forced to pray. If you're under 18 and living in their house you have to respect their wishes. When it's time to pray, just meditate... it's not going to kill you to sit quietly for a few minutes, is it?

Answer 6

Show respect for your family's belief. This is something that you were raised with, I assume, so it won't kill you to just not say anything. They love you and truly believe that you will not be saved or go to heaven if you do not believe. Just don't be angry with them because they do it out of love for you. If you can let go of your anger towards them then you will enjoy your time with them. When they ask you about your beliefs just tell them that you respect their beliefs and you are just finding your own way because that is what they taught you to do .. be your own person who finds their own answers. Be respectful please because they have spent years agonizing over the right things to do with their child and your respect for their beliefs and how they feel about things should be a given. Find your own way darlin' but love your parents for wanting what they believe is best for you.

Answer 7

Leaving the family u love is not d solution to ur problem. After all if ur parents want u to b religious there is no harm in following their path for their happiness (ur parents happiness ) DONT B SO RIGID. Draw a line in compromising for too much religious and not following any religion.

Answer 8

You can choose your friends, but not your family. Don't cut yourself off from them. Just try to get through to them about your beliefs. If they are really that religious than they will accept you with your differences like everyone who is religious or not should.

Answer 9

Maybe you should go to church and research God before you make any decisions. You can't be so closed minded to Him. Maybe you can find a belief that incorporates both religion and science. I believe most of the science things make sense, but God still put us all here and can do wonderous things.

Answer 10

Family is very important for a person. if you truly love your family try to reasonout yourself why you don't believe in your religion and understand that those are set of rules to guide you in a good path. also try reading some basic literature on your religion to improve your understanding and come to a firm conclusion either way.
all the best