Heated argument between family and inlwas?

Question

I am in a bind here. My wife is visiting her family and while she's there she got into an argument with my father. It started out with good intentions but developed into heated arguments between my dad and brother on one side and my inlaws on the other.
I told my wife I think she should have/could have prevented all this from happening. Now she thinks I am taking sides with my family.
Even though they are overseas, I took immediate action as soon as I heard of this can called my inlaws to calm them down. I did the same of course with my father. I was hoping it would end at that and we'd just put it behind us and move on. BUT my wife thinks I am not doing her justice, biased to my family, biased against her, you name it!!!
What am I to do now? any suggestions are greatly appreciated.

Answer 1

Dude you are in a no win situation.you can not make everybody happy. I used to get caught like that with my ex all the time.I finaly told all of them that i am not a mediator and they should either work it out themselves or agree not to agree. Stay out of the situation all together. It sounds simple but I know it is not.she is actualy trying to control you in a way. Good Luck.

Answer 2

Oooh, you did a dumb thing. Don't ever pick a side when your wife is having an argument with someone unless it's hers. Now tell her you are sorry that you made her feel that way and you would like to hear how she feels about it an now that you are in the middle of this may be you could talk to your wife and your dad to resolve it, let her handle her parents.

Answer 3

Well, she should have not put u in that situation and SHE made it worse. Do urself a favor and dont get involved
My husband did the same thing to me and I got involved and now, he is ok with his family and they are still mad at me
So just let things go and they will come together again

Answer 4

You are S.O.L.