WHY? Why? It hurts so bad..?

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I don't know what to do....?

I talked to my ex finally and he doesn’t want to get back with me, he told me there wasn’t any chance we’d get back together ever again, and he thought I understood it was just sex and he agrees we shouldn’t have sex anymore. I told him we couldn’t talk anymore either, and I am so sad and devastated. I really don’t know what to with myself right now. I am so hurt by him. I don’t want to say he lead me on but how could he move on so fast? Our relationship ended 2 weeks ago and he already says he’s back to normal and can date other people. To be honest I don’t know why he doesn’t love me and he says he doesn’t want to hurt my feelings. I guess it’s hard when im crying over the phone, but still I wish he’d be honest instead of beating around the bush. Why do I love him so much if he doesn’t love me in return? How can I allow myself these feelings when they are not returned? I don’t know what to do to move on and I feel I may never get over him. I might be able to finally function normally, but I’ll never get over him. He says he loved me at one time in our relationship but I think he’s lying. How could he and be fine now? He says his love for me was different. Why does he hurt me so bad? I told him we can’t talk anymore and he said ok that’s fine. He said I’m good in bed and I said maybe we can just be friends and talk occasionally but not sleep with each other, and he said no. Apparently he just wanted sex. He said if he wasn’t benefiting from hearing about me then why would he talk to me? Why is he such an asshole? I am so traumatized and I don’t know when I’ll trust again. We’ve broken up so many times and I’ve fallen into a deep depression many times, but right now I am beside myself with sadness. .I know its for real now and all I can see now is a future without him and it seems so depressing to know I’ll have to move on only because HE didn’t want ME. It wouldn’t be that way if he had just wanted me and not been so difficult. Who does he think he is anyway? He will never find another girl like me, he won’t get a girl as beautiful as me to love him this much. Why do you guys let a good thing go? *tears* * tears* *tears streaming down my cheek*.

Answer 1

think you should read what u've just written n let your own words speak to you.
It's pretty clear from that u do recognise what kind of person he is and how much suffering you r in now.
The more you read the above, the more you will begin to accept things.
Don't look back and think about the What-Ifs... there's no point and he is a lousy person. Stinky. Foul. Heartless. Selfish.

Answer 2

OK, I'm going to try and answer this the best I can because you had so many questions.
First of all he isn't beating around the bush. He told you he dosn't want you. As much as you loved him though, do you really want to be with someone who said he was just using you? Has no feelings for you? Has no respect for you? Because when he said he just wanted sex, he was saying all those things. I agree with you that he was lying when he said he once loved you but even that dosn't matter. He dosn't love you now. That's probably why he could move on so fast. And he'll probably find someone else to have sex with for awhile and when he gets tired of her, he'll move on again. in the mean time let me tell you this: It might take you years to get over him. I had a girlfriendd who I was with for 3 monthes and it took me years to get over her. What finally helped me was I met a girl who became a really good friend and we started doing things together. I'm not going to tell you to forget about him because you probably won't for a long time but eventually you will find someone else. It might come sooner than you think or it might take a long time. But when you do meet someone make sure there's alot more than just sex. A good way to do that is to tell him as far as sex goes, you want to take it slow. wait at least a couple monthes before you have your first time and if he can't wait that loong then he dosn't love you either. That's what my girlfriend did and we are going to be together forever. good luck!

Answer 3

I think you already have all the answers.
Read what you wrote:
Apparently he just wanted sex.
he thought I understood it was just sex
says he loved me at one time in our relationship but I think he’s lying
he doesn’t love me
he’s back to normal and can date other people
We’ve broken up so many times
I've fallen into a deep depression many times

The only thing you can do is move on with your life, and start getting busy with other things (not men!) until you gain the insight needed to choose better boyfriends.

Answer 4

I kno exactly what you are talking about. All that is all the love you thought you had for him and he just up and leave you. He was a DOG from the beggining but you will get oer it. It mght take so long nights to cry about it but you will find someone else and forget about him let that thing go it no the end of the world trust me. The only reason he kept comin back to you was because he could but 2 can play that game and you remeber that (KEEP YA HEAD UP)

Answer 5

WOW!!, I am going through the exact same thing you are right at this moment with a girl, that is kinda strange. And nobody seems to know exactly how you feel, well I do because I have been in a very deep depression for 2 months now and I have not been eating and have had to go to the hospital I got so bad. It makes you wonder how your ex could possibly do that to you and make you feel that bad and not even feel bad about what they have done. I have been wondering that for a while and I realized it was me that did that to myself. In otherwords you need to be the strong and powerfull one, not your ex. It is very hard trust me. But you need to get out of that depression and stop letting your ex walk all over you and control you (thats what he wants). You be the strong one and let him be the weak one. Do not even let him know you still want him and care for him, walk all over him, control him. Act like you are completly over him and let him know he will never have another chance with you. Even start hanging with another guy will help.
What I am trying to say is he has you in a hole that you have to did yourself out of. You reverse the situation and make him be in the hole. He will not treat you like that anymore. Do not let him bring you down, be STRONG!! If you would like my number to talk email me. Trust me I know how you feel.

Answer 6

you said it yourself he's an asshole my exgirlfriend that I lived with for 10 years kicked me out about 5 or 6 months ago I did not think I would ever be happy again either. but if you think about it how good was your relationship if you say he did not return the love do your best to just forget about him and move on it takes a little while and for sure try to let him think you are just fine and happy without him you will find somebody better who will return your love and thats alot better than what it sounds like he does good luck my relationship was the same I was the one that didnt get any love in return it sucks and it hurts but you just gotta think how much better if your love is giving back to you as much as you give

Answer 7

baby, listen been there done that best thing for you to do is start dating right now..!!!! i tried waiting, for 2 years she used sex to keep me waiting, finally i went out with someone and then it was to late,she wanted me back but i had already gotten a taste of the other side and i liked it..!!!! like they say it takes some else to get over the other, try it trust me dont wait on him its a waste of time

Answer 8

ye, i dont have enough concentration to read all that, but give it time. No joke, time is the best remedy. Do what you normally do, go out with other people, and you'll be aight.

Answer 9

well go back to normal too just IM me

Answer 10

stop crying...

give me some of his hair...

i know something about voodoism..(jok)

he is a jerk to let u go..

its his loss not urs...