I met this woman at my workplace..We are working together.
She is 40 and i am 22.
She is madly in love with me and has told me about it many a times. Every single time i have denied her.
BUT we share very good and healthy friendship.. She is really a good BUDDY and a gr8 person to be with..
My denials not make any difference to her, i dont want to loose her as a friend either..
We have spent many nights together and TRUST me we haven’t KISSED even..
We share a good friendship and i don’t want to get into any other relation with her coz she is a married woman with two kids.. At no cost i want to break her FAMILY... Am i right the way i am being with her?
I am not being with her because of any SELFISH purpose ( not for gifts, money or any such thing )
WHAT SHOULD I DO ?
2006-09-29 17:38:31 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do keep on trying that she does spend time with her family and keep them her priority and also remind her that there cannot happen anything other than friendship between us.. I've been rude to her many a times, stayed away from her but then she being a GOOD FRIEND of mine i cannot hurt her coz then she cuts herself.. but i do keep on reminding her our LIMITS.
Other then that she being a very good friend of me even i cannot be away from her.
I've met her family even, her husband knows that we are good friends
2006-09-29 17:39:30 · update #1
This "friendship" is not even worth pursuing or having. You probably are being a good friend to her, but she is definitely not being one to you. The friendship you claim you two have is anything but good and healthy.
If you really don't want to break up her family, then stay away. She being with you and pining for you may be causing a rift already. If not yet, then soon. Stay and she'll drag you down with her.
2006-09-29 17:48:59 · answer #1 · answered by TY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't think you should be friends with this woman anymore. It is not healthy for her and by being around her, you aren't helping. She sounds like she has some personal issues to work out. How are you going to find a real girlfriend when this woman is taking up all of your time? I think you are also being selfish. Who doesn't like to have someone dote on them, but you need to think about her. You both will be better off in the long run if you don't communicate anymore.
2006-09-29 17:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by lukafoo74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was a good friend to you, she wouldn't cut herself to make you feel bad and guilty. you're in a tough spot. You are definitely right though, she is married and you are respecting that and she should too. Maybe you should tell her husband about it or tell her how she is not being a very good friend by doing that to you and if she can't respect that then you should put an end to that friendship-as hard as it will be.
2006-09-29 17:44:57 · answer #3 · answered by Da1uWanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have your priorities straight. She must understand though, that you might find someone that you really want to have a relationship with someday and that she is just a friend. As far as the cutting herself, that is not your responsibility. She is a married woman, and she has no right to make you feel as if you are trapped.
2006-09-29 17:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no other way, but to let her go. Otherwise, she will wear you down and then you will do something that you never intended on doing. Remember, she will stalk you if you sleep with her. Take my advice. I am an older woman who likes men my age because I know that is right for me. Her: she is a slut. I am not be judgemental, but stating a true fact. How many other young men has she tried to seduce. Believe me, you are not the first and won't be the last.
2006-09-29 17:44:26 · answer #5 · answered by glenda576 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are very right not to be with her. Marriage is not a good thing to get in the middle of. But if I were you, I do not think that I would be spending all that time with her even though you are just her firend, he husband and kids may begin to think differently. Just be her friend and that is all.
2006-09-29 17:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by misti c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, keep the heart and mind you have...you sound like an incredible person, one that ANY woman will cherish someday...by all means do NOT take it to the next level...far too much pain and heartache will ensue, trust me...be aware that she can go horribly sour eventually though...keep an eye on if things start going bad and think now what you'll do about that...
2006-09-29 17:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by BTDT...no thanks on the shirt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dam....well first of all it seems like you really like this person, even though she has come on too you many times you've stayed stong whitch is good but even though you both are good friends you may have to distance yourself from her because hormons run high and you can only say no so many times before one day something happens. So before that happens say your good byes and wish her a good life.....unless you really think your going to be able to say no forever and continue that good relationship.
2006-09-29 17:46:39 · answer #8 · answered by Kendall S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not a good fren to you (as u r trying to be to her) if she can't accept the boundaries you've set.
Women are weird that way- they will pursue everything they want and will not let go if there's a (delusional) bit of hope.
You spending time with her is givin her false hope.
You shld stop doing that on a regular basis for yours and her sake.
2006-09-29 17:51:52 · answer #9 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are trying to do the right thing. Just stick to you guns about not getting into sex. She is married. You could just be a fling but it might break up her marriage.
I would also suggest that you begin spending time with people closer to your own age.
2006-09-29 17:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋