2006-09-29 17:19:21 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's not me it's my sister
2006-09-29 17:31:34 · update #1
grieve, heal, start again, look forward not back, but don't forget the lessons from the person who was abusive
2006-09-29 17:21:39 · answer #1 · answered by aussiegeezer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a counselor or a good friend to help you through this time. When you say move on, take that word literally, move on to a different kind of person. So many people are attracted to the same kind of person and find themselves in the same relationship, but a different face.
Before starting to see someone else, find yourself. Get in touch with who you are deep down. Some times in abusive relationships we lose touch with ourselves, but it's there. Just take time to know you again.
When I got out of an abusive relationship and had lost myself, who I was I took the time to get to know me again, some times even if I had to feel the pain, I allowed it because it was in me. Just don't deny yourself of recognizing them.
2006-09-29 17:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by Massagecare4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You move on. Of course there will always be a part of you that will be an emotional wreck, because of the abuse, but you have to learn to get past that. You need to concentrate on YOU! Going to therapy would be great. You need to raise your self esteem and learn to love yourself again. Make yourself come first and make yourself be important. It's all about YOU. Someone very close to me was abused horribly in her marriage and it took guts to just leave. She was afraid to be alone and what he might do. She surrounded herself with good friends and good family. She had a great support system. She learned to accept what happened in the past and accepted that it was time to move on. Her moving on made her open up more possibilities and opportunities for herself. She learned to love herself with the help of therapy. When she gained her confidence, she was a woman that couldn't be stopped. She strived for any and everything. You will be able to get to that place with a great support system, soon everything will fall into place. GL sweetie, I hope you come out on the other side with grace and pride on your side.
2006-09-29 17:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Sweetness572♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to settle it once and for all in your heart that the one who abused you was mean and did everything in his means to make you feel small and unloved and unhappy,
From there, you will find strength to slowly get your life back together again by surrounding yourself with friends and family.. people who have your best interests at heart. You'll feel the love.
You must want to move on with every fibre in ur being
2006-09-29 17:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you need to go to counseling and get yourself together. You should also seek some self esteem courses, make sure your life is together job, home, money wise and then attempt to move on to someone else. If you try to move on before you have yourself together, it is likely to fail. Abuse leaves scars much deeper then the surface!
Good luck and good job on getting out of it!
2006-09-29 17:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by babydoll121070 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time before getting into another relationship. Spend lots of time with friends & go out & have lots of fun. Try not to think about it. Even try travelling, that's a great way to help move on
2006-09-29 17:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by Girl O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run Run And Do not Ever Look Back. Or You Can Hang On To A Sick Abusive Person!!! Get Some HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-29 17:25:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well with it being an abusive relationship you should get yourself together before trying to move on if they wanted to beat on you that means that they didnt love you all that much and didnt really care if you loved this person think about that and think about how much better of you are with out this person i hope all the good luck to you
2006-09-29 17:23:36 · answer #8 · answered by tawni T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Optimisim....life is still fine ...fine because you have been saved from a bad relationship to live another wonderful one...i mean you have given another chance to live and prosper...sweety all what you have to do is LEARN from the PAST...let your old mistakes Guide you to a better future relationship...if you have been always the donor in the past LEARN to be the acceptor in the future relationship.....
2006-09-29 17:26:54 · answer #9 · answered by sweet cherry78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do exactly that.... move on. and it will get hard cause you love the person who abuses you. but it is the right descion! everyone is entitled to be happy! however do not jump immediately into another relationship, give yourself sometime to heal.
take care
2006-09-29 17:24:50 · answer #10 · answered by DUSTY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not easily i had one of those it's been 6 years and it still interferes with my life lot's of counseling will help and a good man.i also had to take antidepresants for about a year but i don't take them anymore sometimes you might need help by using meds doesn't mean you have to take them forever.i'm sorry you went thru the abuse from a jerk being connected with other woman who understand is also helpful good luck and stay away from him!
2006-09-29 17:24:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋