I saw what he wrote in messages to one girl, cause I have his password. He was calling her sexy and honey and so on. I need help with this. Prayer, guidance whatever. He needs prayer too! I don't know what to do. I am lost and feel broken.
2006-09-29 17:17:53 · 26 answers · asked by lees girl 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Judith r, he's in Iraq, I am in NY! Yes he isn't getting any from me, duh! Yes he is cheating, you haven't seen the convo. WTF!
2006-09-29 17:30:36 · update #1
I am sorry you are going through troubled times.
Hugz & blessings to you and yours
)O(
2006-09-29 17:25:27 · answer #1 · answered by Epona Willow 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband I am assuming has been gone long?
Which by the way is no excuse. You need to confront this situation head on. And, at the same time be all you can to your husband, he needs you. Pray and ask your pastor for a private prayer. I will also pray for you. And pray that your husband finds friendship in good christian men over there, that would help keep him on track hopefully.
I am so sorry for what you are going through.
ok,
Dear Lord,
I ask tonite that you please guide her husband to be a good husband and do no sin against his wife. Please send strong christian men around him to guide him in a better direction. Help her find peace in her heart. Please rid the internet of all these evils lord.
Help her get through this in a calm and peaceful ways and have the words to say to him while he is gone so she can deal with this.
In Jesus name,
Amen!
Prayer is strong, and this was a quick one for this situation which can be a difficult one. But I know if you keep your faith and pray you will be fine.
Have a good nights sleep and wake rested with a clear mind before trying to reach him.
God Bless.
2006-09-29 17:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by designsbyniki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel too bad because of this. There's probably nothing going on and he is just passing the time. Trust me when I say that regardless of what you see in the news he is bored as all get out over there. Talk to him about it, let him know your concerns and he will most likely stop. I will pray for you both because I'm a Soldier too and it's the right thing to do.
2006-09-29 17:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by Hendo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is a hurtful thing to find out,and I wish i could give you a answer to fix it,but if it were me I'd have to ask him about it ,I know its scary over there and lonely too,and people will do strange things when faced with what he faces every day. I would tell him you know and want an explanation,I talk to a lot of people of myspace,some soldiers,but I'm not doing it looking for a possible relationship,I'm doing it to give moral support,maybe that's what happened, so ask him about it may just been innocent
2006-09-29 17:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by purpleaura1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prayer is all we can offer you.
You have to make the decisions on how to handle this. You will get all kinds of suggestions. Don't do anything rash. Prayer and calmly talking about it is the only suggestions I have.
You know his previous history with girls, we don't.
If this is out of character for him, then maybe you need to give it some time.
Why do you have his password? Does he know you have his password? If he doesn't know then you have a special need to approach this cautiously.
2006-09-29 17:20:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In times of stress men often feel the need to reaffirm their masculinity. One way of doing so is by flirting. It is childish and a betrayal of your trust but, let's look at the real issue here. YOUR HUSBAND IS FIGHTING FOR HIS COUNTRY!!! He can't sleep with the girl if she is stateside and he is in country. Moreover, how insignificant would this seem if he were to be killed by an IED tommorow? Pray for your husband, and count your blessings, flirting is harmless. It boosts morale and may help keep him safe.
Semper Fidelis
2006-09-29 17:25:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your pastor first of all. Calm down. Pray give the Lord to minister to you and guide you through His wisdom. Only He knows all the facts, remember satan will suggest to you that your husband is cheating. It is just a suggestion, right? He cannot make anything happen that you don't put unto submission to God.
2006-09-29 17:23:41 · answer #7 · answered by twelfntwelf3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is 7000 miles away from this woman, he isn't going to do anything but chat.Get a life! he is talking to some woman the way he'd talk to you if you weren't a prude. And if calling someone honey was a sin. then there are a whole bunch of us going to hell. get your nose out of the bible and prayers, and back into the real world and your husband. If he was getting what he wanted at home, he wouldn't be looking elsewhere, would he? Besides, if he didn't want to be married to you, he'd divorce you.
2006-09-29 17:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
He is your husband set him up, try to learn the times he chats, come up with some bogus name,
Be sexy, try to win him over again, once its over, just remember he is in Iraq, your here, when he comes home then deal with it, together, but don't let it spoil your fun. Set up chat times with him, flirt with him, do what ever you must, but get him to seduce you on line, then you wont have to worry about who he is with, you know him, hes yours, keep him.
2006-09-29 17:34:51 · answer #9 · answered by Faith Walker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Why are you spying on your husband?
2) Words are harmless. Actions are what you should be worried about. If he is in Iraq, then he will not be acting on his words.
3) You are overreacting. It could be stress over him being in Iraq. Is there a wives support group for his unit? It might help to talk to other women who are in a similar situation.
2006-09-29 17:25:16 · answer #10 · answered by Your Best Fiend 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The best way to deal with it only your level is to print out the chat transcripts, and send it to his commanding officer.
It is against Article 134, UCMJ to do that. I'm sorry but UCMJ is the only answer to give you on dealing with it at your level.
Before and after you send the information, pray for him.
2006-09-29 17:22:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋