We went out to eat at least twice every day and went out to bar at least twice a week.This has been going on for six months. When I asked her about it she says she is used to having the guy always pay. In all that time she never offered to help pay or even offer to buy me one drink and she has lots of money. Never cooked a meal either. Do you think I am being used? I feel like I am being used. She was even waiting for me to pay for my birthday dinner until I asked her if she was going to pay. This is a 36 yr old woman not some schoolgirl. She makes alot of money I on the otherhand make an average salary.
2006-09-29 16:55:12 · 22 answers · asked by philbo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also buy her flowers all the time.
2006-09-29 17:12:00 · update #1
She never has any food in her house so if we dont go out we dont eat.
2006-09-29 17:13:35 · update #2
This has nothing to do with who asks who we are always together and when it is time to eat we go out.
2006-09-29 17:17:18 · update #3
She likes your wallet. She should at least offer, that woman has no class and no manners. How do you think she's able to keep all of the money she makes?
2006-09-29 16:58:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! Making you pay for your own Birthday dinner? That's just way over the top. When someone suggests to take a person out to dinner for that persons Birthday, the person who suggests it should be the one to pay for the Birthday dinner. Obviously this woman is rude and spoiled. Unless you feel that you can sit her down and talk to her about this, break it off with her. I will admit in my relationship with my boyfriend, he is always the one to pay, but that's by choice and it can make me mad sometimes. I would like to feel like an equal part in the relationship and it makes me feel like a spoiled little brat. I appreciate his sincerity when he's paying for this or that, but he can understand that I'm independent and I wanna help too. I am not ashamed to pay half of something. When we go out to a fancy dinner or something, he is always the one to pick up the check, he'll tell me NO, but I always insist on paying for the tip, he doesn't like it, but he doesn't want to get me going neither, haha. 36 yrs. old and needs to still grow up. When there is a relationship at stake, both need to be equal and compromise. If you can't talk it out with her, break it off, you can find someone way better than that and that person can treat you so much better.
2006-09-29 17:23:59 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Sweetness572♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but I have read ur story and i think that u r definately being used. I 'd say dump her but I guess if u could you would have by now anyway. I , personaly wouldn't even be turned on by her even on the slightest suspicion that she might be in for the money. Suggestion: Dump her in the worst and most humiliating way, in front of people by exposing her manipulation. Tell her that this is 2006, and that if you wanted to pay to be with someone, it is hillarious of her to even think that you would ever choose her, and also tell her that u r together only because u thought she came 4 free!
2006-09-29 17:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by cyberqpd 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound good. You've been dating 6 months and even brought up the money thing and she STILL DOESN"T PAY. Not good. I always offerred when my bf and I started dating; he never let me except the occasional starbucks; he earns + I'm a student. If you're not splitting it, the one w/ money pays. Now, I don't feel the need to offer, but we're practically engaged. There shouldn't be any concern about whose paying at that point.
AKA - fight it out or dump her outright; u need a confrontation
2006-09-29 17:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by nn p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's 36, she's probably been babied for too long and doesn't know that things cost money to people. She probably blows all her cash on stupid crap like hats and shoes, while you have to pay for the important things like bills and food. Who in the F*CK made this stupid rule of "The guy is supposed to pay?" Does that mean "The girl is supposed to put out?"
2006-09-29 17:01:49 · answer #5 · answered by zelgadiss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not continue relation with her if it is just temporary arrangement. I would continue if and only if I feel real love.
I do not know your age but the women is 36 years and by now she should know the economics of individual. If she is just using you to pay for her it is in your best intrest to discontinue relation of eating you may have other relation if she does not object.
2006-09-29 17:04:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in these modern days this woman that you are with is just plain rude and yes she is using you. Most modern women usually pay for some of the activities and dates. This woman is rude. She made you pay for your own birthday dinner? Stupid, just plain stupid. Dump her.
-Jax6213
2006-09-29 16:59:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok well your birthday dinner is a bit much. actually the rule is whoever brings up going should be the one to pay. unless said otherwise. but general if you don't want to pay just say you can't go cuz your broke and she'll probably offer to pay.
2006-09-29 16:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by xxxlostsocalgirlxxx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say this is a no brainer dump her and quick!!!! i am a female 41yrs old. i would never dream of doing any of these things. i have seen alot of women like this and trust me now that you have started this with her you have created a monster! she is obviously spoiled. before i was married to my husband i would pay half and alot of times he wouldn't let me but i always offered. by her acting this way and expects it i wouldn't plan a future with her or you better plan on either being in debt or filthy rich. best of luck to you .you sound like a decent man move on before its to late.
2006-09-29 17:03:28 · answer #9 · answered by lnay69 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump that old b'itch, she seems mean; sounds like she is using u; doesnt care about u and what u think.........she should have atleast paid for the birthday dinner without hesitation.
Please brother, leave her for ur own good.
2006-09-29 16:59:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋