If at 17 your parents gave you the chioce of a deadbeat boyfriend with no future?

Question

is 24 ,sit and laughs when you do stupid things like cutting yourself and getting blind drunk would you choose your loving caring family or him.

Answer 1

Well, since you are discribing him like a parent would discribe a boyfriend they didn't like (and for good reason!) I will assume that you are a parent. I hate to say it but girls at 17 are pritty dumb and think every guy has potental to become something great. (I know, I was that way.) It wasn't until I was 19 or 20 that I figured out that some guys will NEVER make something out of their lives and will try to drag me down. A year later I figured out that a girl can't change a guy AT ALL and she better just find someone with a future and wants what she wants in life.

The best thing you can do, as a parent, is ask your daughter and her boyfriend to discribe the future they each want (him frist). And when he discribes his life make sure to point out that he never mentioned her in it, meaning that he doen't want to be with her forever, just until something better comes along.

Answer 2

Because you are 17 the boyfriend (no matter how stupid he is or isn't) who is 7 years older than you is too old for you.

You obviously know that cutting yourself is something that isn't the wisest thing, so why not see a counselor to address that problem.

If your parents are "giving you the choice" it isn't clear to me what the heck is going on with that. Did they say, "Its him or us"? I think you start by choosing the family, but then - seriously - think about seeing someone who can help you sort out the cutting thing and the thing about the boyfriend.

Answer 3

It sounds to me like you didn't even need to ask the question. Your description of this guy sort of answered it for you. And here's how. If you were going to choose your boyfriend, he would have been the loving and caring one, not the dead beat with no future. It's sort of a no-brainer honey. You're young yet...end this and chalk it up as a learning experience. Then be glad you were so wise at such a young age. I see women twice your age all the time who still don't "get it". Your parent's raised you well, now return the favor and drop this guy like a bad habit!

Answer 4

sweety you need your family's support not that of someone who stands by and laughs at you when you are obviously hurting to create pain upon yourself like that. You need to be open and honest with you family and let them know what is going on so you can find a counselor to help you deal with the issue at hand in a constructive manner not a destructive manner... good luck

Answer 5

Sometimes others get involved when they should let you choose who to love after all it is your life! Now you are older and if you are really unhappy with him then you are old enough to start making the right decisions for yourself!

Answer 6

You sound like the parent in this situation. Never give your kid a "my way or the highway" choice. They'll choose the highway every time, and you'll be stuck posting questions like this on yahoo.

Answer 7

This is a tough one...... FAMILY FIRST. He is a deadbeat, drop him, if you don't he will do it for you in time and then family could be hard to get back in good with

Answer 8

if you care about yourself at all, please dont choose him. what can he offer you? i am sure if you really think about it, you will see that hes not worth you messing up your life. i mean come on, you yourself said that hes a deadbeat with no future

Answer 9

HMMM, let me think... dump him back in the hole that you found him and bury him. Then I would really think about seeing a psychologist. This should have been a no brainer.

Answer 10

Man,that's a tough one!