Am I being insensitive or is he being a jerk?

Question

My boyfriend of almost 2 years has an ex who is a little crazy. She's an alchoholic and depressant. They have kids together. He asks me to leave if she is bringing the kids by. Says she will go nuts if she sees my car there - though she knows we are together. He says she won't come inside, but the sight of my car will send her off the deep end. I say it's ridiculous. I think she should come to terms w/ our relationship. He has problems w/ marriage, and I think it all boils down to her and his concern for HER. I feel like I am being put on the backburner. Is that selfish of me? He says he's only concerned for her well-being bc of the kids. What do you think? Oh, btw....we broke up for a week a few months ago and they had a "rendevous". Maybe I am paranoid?

Answer 1

if you have ANY reason that hes cheating, and that he favors his ex over you, then get outta the relationship. i know that's probably hard to think about, but you deserve better. No your not being paranoid, or insensitive!

Answer 2

No he's yours now and she needs to deal with it. If she didn't come by because your car is there then he could take her to court to get custody to see the kids. Truthfully I wouldn't leave them alone together even if he's trustworthy a man given the oppertunity probably will take it!! Good Luck!!

Answer 3

you are not paranoid, just human. maybe you should tell him that he has to leave because an ex of yours is coming over and he wouldnt like it if he was there, dosent sound so good coming from the other direction does it?

Answer 4

nope your not paranoid and his fling is still on (with her) ... he's playing both sides here ... get out now before psycho woman hurts you

Answer 5

yes you are