My son is 8 Yrs old and is asking about sex?

Question

at what age should I tell him about sex? and how and what should I say? he has heard in school and accidentally seen thing on tv, I just dont know what to tell him. Help me Please

Answer 1

Tell him sex was a thing invented by God for two MARRIED people to show their love for each other and to spend private time together. That it is best enjoyed when married to the one you love.

Answer 2

Now is a good age. Answer his questions truthfully. Don't be embarrassed. A book is a good idea. Be sure to teach him about responsibility. He needs to learn that there are serious consequences to sex. Giving him a good understanding of sex and morality could go a long way to keeping him from becoming a teenage father.
Go only a bit beyond his questions with your answers, but if he asks something, don't tell him that he's too young for the answer or he may stop asking.
Good luck with a tricky subject.

Answer 3

ask why he wants to know and what information he thinks he knows about sex. Once you know that information, you can correct any information that is incorrect. Then I would tell him the basics with the language that he uses. Don't use to much technical terms just yet. Remember he is only 8 and has a lot of learning to do yet.

And get a few books so that you are prepared to answer any questions that he might have and what type of language to use with him. One of those books might be for him so that he can keep in his room and read it when he is interested in doing so.

Answer 4

You can tell him the truth without going into the gorey detail about how sex happens. Instead of scaring and scarring him with all this "god will punish you if you don't wait til you're married" BS, tell him that sex is better between grown people who love each other.

Kids will start asking about sex at various stages of life. My eldest asked at age four what sex was, because she heard the older kids talking about it at daycare. We told her it was hugging and kissing without clothes on, and only for mommies and daddies to do with each other - no one else. That satisfied the questions for the time.

It is NOT going to encourage him to run out and jump the next girl he sees if you describe the reproduction cycle to him. He is old enough that he can understand it without taking an actual interest in enacting it.

As he gets older, also discuss the changes in his body and how they are normal, including "self love", as well as telling him that girls' bodies are changing too and how. Discuss birth control at that time.

It could be he has very specific questions due to what someone's older sibling said- it's better to dispell the sex myths now.

There are some very good, age specific books out there - some lovely ones that have in-vitro cameras that show the baby's development with each month. I know my kids were fascinated byt he growth of a baby, but as they got a bit older, totally disgusted with HOW a baby has to come about. And That was all good by me.

By teaching him, answering his questions honestly and without added religious BS or biases, he will be better informed and less likely to go out trying to find out about the "mysteries" of girls and getting himself in trouble.

Tons of research out there - kids who are taught about sex and reproduction and diseases are actually LESS likely to engage in early sex than those who's parents treated it like a dirty thing and a nasty secret.

Answer 5

My suggestion is to tell him the truth but the very basics. Answer his questions correctly, not the way you would to your best friend. If he is wondering- he has the right to know. If he is mature enough to ask you then he is mature enough to hear- BUT ONLY THE BASICS! I think that it is wonderful that he is asking you and finding out on his own. If you answer his questions without acting embarrassed then you will have a kid who feels comfortable coming to you about this. Remember, kids are experimenting with sex as early as 11 years old- so the sooner he knows the better.

Answer 6

Answer his questions but do it age appropriately. That's a parent's job. Find a good book to help you. Unfortunately alot of kids learn about sex from their often misinformed peers. I know it's an uncomfortable subject but it's much better that they get accurate information from a parent or other reliable adult.

Answer 7

Okay if you start at an early age like 8 - 10 then it might make him want to have sex faster. I would say at about the age of 12 should you tell him. You should tell him that sex is between to people who care for and love each other, that you shouldn't have it if you don't love the person and that its also bad for you until your married. Then it will be hammered in his head he should wait until he's married to have sex.

Answer 8

My son is 8, he knows that there is sperm and egg, and which gender has which. He does not have the mechanics of how sex occurs. Best bet, find out what his questions are, and then just answer his questions - if he's like my son, at some point he'll say "that's enough mom", and then you'll know when to quit.

Answer 9

Answer his questions honestly,but don't go overboard on the answer. You want him to feel free to come to you. You don't want him asking his friends who don't know either. Let him ask the questions, try to keep it simple. I wish I had some good examples for you. You might find some parent help books at the library.

Answer 10

Tell him the truth!

I told both of my boys when they were 8. These days, you can't be too careful. Kids are getting sexually active earlier and earlier. If he's asking, he wants to know, and he will find out one way or another. Don't you want the correct info to come from you?