i really hate my dad he is so messed up and perverted. my mom was gonna leave him but then he started doing "better" and appeared to HER that he was "trying" so he acts better around my mom and brother but to me he acts the same. when i was 8 i walked down to the basement and saw him "touching" himself. and i called my mom who was picking up my brother from basketball at the time and she was upset but now if i bring that up shes just like well that was in the past and he is doing better (but i odnt think he is). he sleeps in the guest room which is across the hall from my room. i was lying in bed and i saw him get out of bed take his underwear off and put on a new pair. right in front of the door. which was open. its just disturbing things like these. i tell my mom and she just gets mad cause i didnt say somehting like dad shut the door! or something like that instead of bringing it to her in the morning. i just hate him so much. wut do i do and i guess this sounds mean but i wanna....
2006-09-29 15:46:44 · 8 answers · asked by christine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
get revenge or do something to make my mom realize how freaky he is. i want them to get a divorce so i dont have to deal with my dad anymore. is there any way to get my dad to do something bad in front of my mom so that she realizes what ive been trying to tell her!?
2006-09-29 15:47:56 · update #1
yeah i knew people would give me answers like that. im not making this up. he is childish and immature and i haaaate living with him. he scares me and disturbs me and makes me sick. ew. i hate it so much. dont tell me to grow up or stop being childish. if you think that dont tell me k? cause i kno theres ppl who think that. but i asked the question for help not for people to crizicize me. kthanks
2006-09-29 15:58:38 · update #2
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I disagree with the others. If dad is in a quest room there is already something that your mom is uncomfortable about.I strongly suggest that you talk to another adult about this. Maybe grandparents, an aunt ,uncle or even a school counciler, sounds like to me your dad is a pervert and might need help. "
THANK YOU!
2006-09-29 16:01:38 · update #3
yeah. they dont sleep in the same room. sometimes my dad does sleep in "their" room but usually when he does that my mom goes to the guest room because he snores. and he does snoor really badly but still...
it like bothers me the most because i feel like my dad is a pervert and he just wants sex from my mom and he doesnt even love her...
2006-09-29 16:04:01 · update #4
I disagree with the others. If dad is in a quest room there is already something that your mom is uncomfortable about.I strongly suggest that you talk to another adult about this. Maybe grandparents, an aunt ,uncle or even a school counciler, sounds like to me your dad is a pervert and might need help.
2006-09-29 16:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly my parents have slept in different rooms for a long time. They both have back problems and have had operations and both need different levels of comfort from their mattresses. Snoring badly is another reason that parents sleep in seperate beds.
Secondly.... did your dad do these things intentionally knowing that you were looking or did you 'accidently' see him. Its only a problem if he is only doing these things when he knows you will walk past the room. Tell your dad to keep his door closed if he is dressing or if you feel uncomfortable saying this to him make a noise before walking past his door, cough or start to sing.
What ever problems your parents may or may not have has nothing to do with you. Let them work it out between themselves. Don't try and cause problems that may not even be there.. Your dad is allowed to change his underwear in his own home without you making an issue about it and he is even allowed to masturbate. OH SHOCK HORROR... one day you will be his age and your husband will probably do the same and you wont think its gross.
So again... unless he is doing it intentionally .... let it go....
2006-09-29 16:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by wickedly_funny66 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is all really true, tell a counselor at school. Sometimes a parent has a hard time getting a clear view of another parent. Remember, though, it must be true. It will make your life harder, not easier, if it isn't the truth.
2006-09-29 15:56:40 · answer #3 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try growing up first. This sounds like a little kid who is mad at a parent making up stories.
2006-09-29 15:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mom to put a lock on your door. I think that would make you more comfortable.
2006-09-29 20:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by bttrswt1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So why didn't you just tell him to shut the door? Carrying tales is childish.
2006-09-29 19:05:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She already realizes what you are telling her. So what if he changed clothes? He didn't know you were there. Why does it matter anyway?
2006-09-30 15:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jsut don't pay him any mind as long as you're not the one he's touching
2006-09-29 15:55:12 · answer #8 · answered by Make Love Not War! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋