A few people's comments on here got me thinking.
Ever notice how that some people are offended if an unattractive person asks them out, or otherwise indicates that he admires them, even if he is polite about it? The ugly person might be the nicest person in the world, but if he is a nerd, or overweight, or otherwise ugly, then that person is considered as pure evil for having the nerve to fall in love, and people treat him badly.
And some people seem to make threats of reporting someone for sexual harassment (a potentially career ending move for both people involved) simply because the person who was attracted to the other was ugly, or socially awkward, not because he actually did anything consciously wrong, immoral, or even all that annoying (look at some of the advice giv here on Y!A if you do not believe me).
Why do some people consider love to be offensive? If you don't like him, why not just say "no" politely and leave it at that? Any thoughts as to why people are so crue
2006-09-29 15:19:57 · 4 answers · asked by Randy G 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I will say that we are kinda genetically engineered to seek out attractive and healthy mates. It's survival of the fittest and a way for both men and women to try to ensure that their genes will live on.
However, I do think that it is cruel for people to be mean to others just because they are unattractive or socially awkward.
Honestly, my husband is socially awkward. Although he is very handsome, I'm sure that alot of women passed him up because he is socially awkward. And there was a point in time where I would have done the same thing. But I learned to reach out of my comfort zone and look deeper into him. Once I looked deeper, I found out that he was a funny, loving and intelligent man.
Look DEEP people; I'm so glad that I did!
2006-09-29 15:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by Nicole P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone ugly or otherwise undesirable asks them out, they get offended because they are thinking "Do you really think I am in your category?" Really, they are afraid that they are just as ugly. Others don't want the embarassment of being associated with such a person in any way. They are afraid of what their friends might think.
2006-09-29 22:26:46 · answer #2 · answered by Eric H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we all want to believe that we are kind and compassionate and we treat others equally. But if someone who appears unattractive in your eyes asks you out on a date and you really don't want to go out with them because of their looks - that thought challenges who you "think' you are. Thus, the anger and annoyance at the individual who asked you out in the first place.
2006-09-29 22:28:05 · answer #3 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why I stay the hell away from women my friend. I'd rather watch others destroy their lives from the sidelines than do it myself.
2006-09-29 22:26:05 · answer #4 · answered by 571234 6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋