I just broke up with my boyfriend of about a year and I am kind hurt. I know it was coming because we stopped talking for like two weeks. I told him that it was going to be hard for me to broke up with him because i had so much love for him. My heart wasn't in it no more and neither was his. I guess when that time came for us to break up I was nervous and I did not realize how hard it was going to be. It was a big step for me and I know something good will come out of it but I'm hurt. It feels weird not talking to him everyday,hearing his voice. I know there's a better person out there for me. This is all what love is about, right? What do you think about my situation?
2006-09-29 15:17:24 · 12 answers · asked by Brianna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well the thing is, he told his friend to tell me that it was over. I think that's why I'm so hurt because I put my all into the relationship trying to keep it together and then he started acting like he didn't want to be with me so I gave up! You can't hold on to something or someone that wants to go,right? I fought for it too long, I could not do it by myself(a one person relationship?). I always tried to fit him in through what ever I was going through so it hurts to know that he must have not cared about me like I did for him becasue he could not even really talk to me when I called which meant I must not have been that important in my eyes.
2006-09-29 15:39:02 · update #1
The good part about it is that you realized that you couldn't and shouldn't be with him, that you were truthful with yourself and him about what was really going. You listened to your heart as well as used your mind to make this decision, and that is not an easy thing to do, so kudos!
Sometimes people will know that they cannot be together but fear being alone more so, that they will stay in the dead end relationship for years and waste each others time. Be proud that you were mature enough to realize that it had to end. You've done something that many people can never do in a lifetime.
It's completely normal for you to miss him the way you do. You just need to distinguish whether you miss him because of the fact that you are now a bit lonely or because you really miss HIM. You were accustomed to having him as a constant companion for a year. You always had him to talk to, turn to, listen to you, and be with, it was like a routine, and when that routine ends, it feels strange. It's just going to take some getting used to that's all. I know right now it seems easier said than done, but with some time you will. Try to preoccupy yourself with other activities, things that will fill the void of not having him there. If once you fill up that void and you feel better about the situation, then you know you just miss having someone or something to fill your time. If you do all these other things and you can still think of nothing but him, then you know that you really miss HIM and you might need to reevaluate your decision.
Unfortunately, these hardships are an integral part of living life and growing up, and making these hard decisions are what will assist you in making better decisions later on in life. Good luck with whatever is is that you do :)
2006-09-29 15:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by qtee425 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh, I read your beads. You can try beng friends with him, but if you don't like him and he doesn't like you, what can you do? Eat some ice cream, give yourself a makeover, find a new activity, talk to people you don't usually talk to and make small talk. Write down all your feelings on a peice of paper, and reflect. Spend some more time with your family, and so on. There's not much you can do, but if you didn't break up with him, you could never date and flirt with all the other guys in the world.
2006-09-29 15:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brianna,
There had to be a reason for you to feel that he wasn't right for you. You did the right/mature thing by breaking up, rather than leading him on. Time is a great healer. And hopefully soon, somebody will come into your life that will be worthy of a young woman like you. You have a lot of living ahead of you. So don't compromise on who you're going to live it with!!
Best of Luck to you.
Repoman
2006-09-29 15:24:41 · answer #3 · answered by RepoMan18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The operative be conscious is boyfriend. it rather is a boy who hasn't matured right into a guy. genuine adult men do not verbally abuse women. some stay as boys all their life. Do your self a prefer early in life and are available across a genuine guy. they are accessible.
2016-10-15 08:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard at first. You will get over it. The right man is out there some where.
2006-09-29 15:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then you didn't love him,if you did you would have found a way to keep him.You were in love with the ideal of being in a relationship.
2006-09-29 15:22:22 · answer #6 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not what LOVE is about, it's what BREAKING UP is about, it gets easier, good girl for moving on from something thats not working.
2006-09-29 15:19:57 · answer #7 · answered by lyndles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same situation,broke up with ma girl coz it was not right, not that we did not luv each other no more.hang in there.
2006-09-29 15:20:21 · answer #8 · answered by mykall306 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you still like him but dont relise it but but you will get over it one day
2006-09-29 15:24:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't feel bad i'm always there
2006-09-29 15:19:40 · answer #10 · answered by SdM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋