Maybe I'm not very creative, but I always think I must be missing something when girls say this because in my mind the way you use it is pretty straight-forward. Am I wrong, ladies?
2006-09-29 15:11:34 · 21 answers · asked by Eric H 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Creativity isnt necessary for a good love making session. Even if you roll play you are still only going to have sex in one of a few positions. One suggested watching a porn tape for inspiration... have you actually ever watched a porn movie???? They are so bad they could put a person into a coma.... If you watch the first 10 minutes of a porn movie you have seen all the positions that an average person will do in a life time (although not all will do a*nal--- ouch) There are only a few different positions that a 'normal' person can do. The majority of the Karma Sutra is only for contortionists, no normal person could be placed in some of those positions.
As long as you spend time doing what you are doing and your girl comes back for more you are doing the right thing.
That actual saying--- Its not the size, but how you use it--- is a way to make a male that thinks he has a small penis feel better about himself. In many ways it is true. I have been with a few men with rather large manhoods and the sex was bad bad bad.. because all they thought they had to do was thrust for ages and it would be enough to get a girl going, they wrongly believe that all girls want is a large d*ick.
Don't stress that what you are doing is boring... I am sure you are doing what 98% of the worlds population is doing.
2006-09-29 15:25:24 · answer #1 · answered by wickedly_funny66 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls mean "how you use it" more as an easy way of saying "how you interpret what I want and modify your behavior to match my needs". In otherwords, different girls prefer different things..different speeds, different places, different patterns...I don't want to get too graphic here but you get the picture. If you are truly an honest and considerate lover then no, size doen't matter (given an average ratio. There is a point at which size does matter and no matter how considerate you are it isn't going to make one bit of difference. Most people, however, don't ever have to worry about that).
2006-09-29 22:16:24 · answer #2 · answered by A.R. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's all about the whole experience, wth the peaceful afterglow afterwards where you feel no regrets and don't feel like you're a total loser. It's about more than using one quick part, getting in and out and treating her like a sex toy. Being treated like that by an especially large thing is kind of worse in some ways. You want her to feel loved and cared for, be in tune with her feelings, feel that magic connection. If girls wanted to get off quickly, they'd do it themselves. It's how you do it.
2006-09-29 22:19:08 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just had this discussion with my friend. We decided that men who are well endowed feel that just because they are large, they don't have to try as hard. The phrase "the motion in the ocean" is pretty on target. He's got to be creative as well. Or, read some sex manuals together
2006-09-29 22:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by Lioness 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's doesn't literally mean "how you use it". we're talking about your techniques. keep in mind that you will not be great in bed to everyone because people like different things. however, if you learn all those things, which is possible, you'll be know as a great lover. overall, be compassionate and "sense" what she wants. there is nothing more annoying than a guy that treats you like you're just a hole for his enjoyment.
2006-09-29 22:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no, you are assuming the phrase means in ways to penetrate, yes, there are other ways to penetrate, but if a man can stimulate his woman with enough foreplay, she could orgasm if you stuck the size of a pencil up there.
2006-09-29 22:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
whoaaaaa I haven't heard this one because I think its def. the size that counts. I read in a book once that if you do a lot of but crutches throughout the day and learning how to stroke it will help you out. Learn to groove boo cause thats where you can get the stroke from so you can hit it from side to side don't jus stay in one place.
2006-09-29 22:15:05 · answer #7 · answered by lovely_ms_t 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ARE YOU STUPID? Try using a condom that has large rubber twirls on it. Maybe one that is flourecent orange. Try using just the tip of your member when your intimate with a woman.Go to your local library and read,read,read
2006-09-29 22:16:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's all in the motion(fast,slow,teasing) of how you use it. Plus all of the creative positions.
2006-09-29 22:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by unicornfarie1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must be boring, get some books and read how to do it. I'm not going into any details for your pleasure.
2006-09-29 22:13:52 · answer #10 · answered by joy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋