I've cheated on my girlfriend with this girl I met at a church function. I am a very devout Christian guy and live by God's words. My girlfriend is not a religious person but I have learned to accept her and her failings and she has learn to forgive me. This is only the first time with this girl I met and I plan to end it soon. It was really unintentional this time with this girl as we had so much in common and so devout in our Christian beliefs.
I hope my girlfriend will find it in her heart to understand this time round as she has been so forgiving and compassionate before. I think I have influenced her and our holy father Jesus Christ is slowly opening her heart.
Because I am Christian I am very honest and pure, I don't want to lie to her but I don't want to hurt her either. These mistakes happen. Jesus would understand. Should I tell my girlfriend?
2006-09-29 14:57:09 · 19 answers · asked by Skyeboi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wickedfunny_66 your words are wicked. Jesus burned to death for people like you. Read my other questions they will show you how devout I am.
Also, the girls flirt with me and not the other way around. I've never decieved anyone in the other question about not already having a girlfriend. I merely left it out, that's not a crime.
2006-09-29 15:18:40 · update #1
I really don't think you have anything to be sorry for. I understand where you're coming from. I like having someone that feels the same way I do. That's probably what you were looking for; even though you love your girlfriend, that doesn't mean you're completely happy in the relationship. You have to think that this might come up again sooner or later. I would break up with her, probably be with the religious girl, if not someone else. Jesus understands, follow what you feel instictively would make you the happiest.
2006-09-29 15:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by Ciavana 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Boy, you are in some serious denial about your so-called Christian beliefs. If you're a devout Christian, I'll take a heathen anyday. How can you get on a high horse about religion and cheat on your girlfriend and then have the ridiculous notion that it's her fault because you and this other **** are so much more religious! What a JOKE! This is NOT CHRIST-LIKE behavior. Christianity should influence the way you live your life for the positive. Don't use it as an excuse by thinking you're somehow forgiven automatically for your selfish lies and betrayal! What a self-righteous a-hole you are! You need to take your "honest" a-- up to your girlfriend and tell her the truth so she can dump you and get an honest and trustworthy boyfriend who respects her and her non-beliefs. And don't you DARE BLAME HER. This is your fault alone. Cheating is never the other person's fault. It is a conscious decision made by the cheater. Blaming the innocent other is rationization.
2006-09-29 15:32:42 · answer #2 · answered by Stevie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a christian too, and I can understand ur moment of weakness, (anyboy who has negative comments, knows that themselves, has sinned a time or two!).
I think you should tell her, but if she leaves you, respect her decision becase she does have that right.
However honestly, I've been in a relationship with my man and he is a christian. I really think that people who are trying to live a saved, christian life should be together. My relationship has grown and is strong because we often read the bible together and when things are going bad or I am tempted to sin he always says a verse out of the bible that kind of sets me straight.
Perhaps you should b more considerate of the other girls feelings and not just have sex with her and want no type of relationship. Maybe you should try to start something with the christian woman
But whatever you do I hope it works out for you.
2006-09-29 15:10:26 · answer #3 · answered by lamikashi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So many lies! Why would you tell lies anyway? Why would you live a lie? These mistakes don't just happen. You are a devout Christian. So you say, but if you were you would know that you are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers.
The lies that we must muddle through on Yahoo answers.
How about getting a life? Yes, and also an Eternal Life!
2006-09-30 20:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Skyboi...... dont you have anything better to do then write contradicting questions. Yesterday I answered one saying you cant get a girlfriend because of your religious beliefs and today you have cheated on your girlfriend.
Either way you dont sound religious, you just sound like a person that is using what limited information he has about the bible and trying to get sympathy from the people that answer your questions.
Not being religious myself I don't really know "Gods" words but I am sure there isnt a passage in the bible that says its okay to go and have sex with someone other then your wife.
Jesus will not understand what you have done and he will not forgive you. You will burn in hell for eternity for the lies you keep thrusting apon the unsuspecting Yahoo! Answer readers. hahahahahahahaha..........
2006-09-29 15:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by wickedly_funny66 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why are you even bringing in the "Christian" element..you've proven yourself that doesn't mean anything ...they sin too...they make mistakes too..and they have to learn TOO..that some mistakes you make here on earth can't be taken back...you blew it with that relationship. Tell her - tell her you're sorry and she'll either forgive you or not. As a Christian I'm sure you know that only Christ loves you un-conditionally - He'll forgive you -but you can't expect her too...she's not Jesus. He was perfect.
She isn't and neither are you.
I'm a Christian...and if a man cheats on me...I'm done with him. Some can forgive...but not forget...doesn't restore the trust.
2006-09-29 15:01:58 · answer #6 · answered by svmainus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There´s no benefit to anybody in telling her, till she is probable to be certain besides. Honesty isn´t the main intense component here. the significant component is retaining your dating going easily. forget approximately approximately THE stupid FOOLS who're telling you to tell your lady. this might purely reason untold misery. there's certainly no clarification for us to tell our fanatics each and every little thing we do or sense: we´d rigidity one yet another loopy that way. She might only be disenchanted and could the two unload you or your dating will become corrupted with suspicion. people who're saying which you don´t love your lady dont comprehend male sexuality, which prospers on novelty and transgression. So only settle for that your **** have been given the extra desirable of you and shop your bally mouth close, old chap. And in case you sense the would desire to admit then get your self a great enormous bottle of Scotch and contact somebody who lives a ways away which you have faith.
2016-10-18 05:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? YEA, you should tell her. You should've told her BEFORE you did it. Either way, she's gone. I've cheated, and been cheated on. Getting my heart broken hurts, but huring someone else is the worse feeling in the world. Next time you think about it, think of how it'll affect her. She'll be scared to share herself with anyone else now. My prayers are with ya, dought it'll do much good though-Good luck
2006-09-29 15:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by St. Louis Rams Chick 1976 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't know what Jesus you are referring to but Yeshua was hanged on a cross and died of a broken heart for ppl like you and I. You need true repentance in order to be a child of his. If your Jesus was burned, then you need to realize that you and I worship different Christ's.
Few there be that find the way that leadeth unto life.
Stop seeking a woman and start seeking the true Christ. he may be calling to you.
2006-10-01 08:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by keanweaner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should be honest with your girl friend and tell her the truth but you should also know that being a christian and into jesus christ that you have to be with your equal pray and ask god to show you if this other girl who is your equal by beleiving and loving jesus christ as you do is the right one for you god might be trying to tell you something about the girl that you cheated with on your girlfriend she might be your equal in jesus christ and your future wife good luck
2006-09-29 15:06:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋