Best Way To Deal With Depression/Lonlieness?

Question

Just looking for some ways to occupy my time.. aside from things like going out on days like today.. I'm at a new highschool and friends are seldom, and the ones i have don't invite me out. Weekends tend to get really depressing and i'm getting tired of it. My girlfriend left me 6 weeks ago and shes already with one of my other friends, so you can imagine what that's like.. especially when she sais she's with him/over me than she was the entire time we were together =] <3 thats love.

Thanks for any help.. Jasio <--

Sorry - she's HAPPIER with him, etc.etc.

Answer 1

I can see how this situation can make you very depressed. I have been there and you must believe when I tell you that things will get better for you. You're at a new school with very few friends and your girl-friend left you for another. Give people some more time to get to know you. Be friendly to others and you will make new friends. I know how hard it is to lose a girl friend. It is very painful. But all guys have been rejected at one time or another, and you will recover. Just don't put yourself down. It's her loss, not yours. It's her problem, not yours. Cheer up my friend, you are still young with many adventures ahead of you, and with many new friends to make. Life is like a roller coaster, with its ups and downs. You've had your down time, now get ready for the ride up.

Answer 2

Don't let her get you down. Chicks like that aren't worth the mental anguish they cause. If she cant treat you with respect, then just forget about her because even if things change down the line there's no guarentee she'll respect you then...or anyone else.

Sorry you had to experience an immature brat for a girlfriend, but that happens in high school. It's just one of those things where people give you crap to hide their own insecurities.

Just be nice to everyone and treat them how you want to be treated. If people give you crap about being different, explain to them that the culture in your new school is a lot different to where you're from.

Try looking for friends to hang out with in your neighbourhood. Neighbourhood friends are often a lot more relaxed because you're not forced into that school environment everyone hates. You'll also have something in common with them straight away - the area you call home.

You could also get a weekend job somewhere that employs people your age. Working can be a good way to raise cash and making friends outside of school.

You could also take up something like skating or surfing or astophysics :P to pass the time. Broadening these interests will give you something in common with other people at school. If your school has different clubs for things, then join one.

If things get really bad then demand your parents change you to a new school when the new year or semester starts.

Answer 3

Have you taken up a new skill? Take Karate, Indoor Rock Climbing, Painting, Pottery . . . anything you can afford that interests you.
Even a cooking class.
OR
Get a job where you'll meet lots of people.
OR
Volunteer somewhere like at a shelter or food bank and you will feel like an invaluable asset to so many people that you will forget about your lonliness because you may realize you are at least healthy and not abused (hopefully).
AND
Remind yourself repeadedly that this part of your life will pass and will NOT define you for the rest of your life.
Good luck.

Answer 4

You can go to therapy at great expense for years, with no gain. Or you can take meds the rest of your life.

Also, you can find the Avoidant Personality group on Yahoo. There are many people like you there.

But, there is a miraculous thing I discovered when we discovered my son is Avoidant. Go to www.emofree.com then download the free manual and read it. If it makes any sense to you, try to get your hands on the $60 plus S&H for the videos.

If you can't, then you have no choice but to try to do it from the manual. It is not easy. My son tried that with modest luck. After I got him the videos, he discovered part of the problem was how hard to tap and how fast. Answer: hard but don't make bruises, and around 3 times per second.

EFT is like acupuncture with no needles, just tapping. Craig, the creator of the videos. says they went to a vets hospital and made permanent cures of vets who had been in the hospital for decades with PTSD IN ONE DAY.

It can be a lot of work with no expert. The other day, he did it on a fellow class mate in med school, and in less than two minutes, the student who had been a nervous wreck over the test that was coming was totally relaxed and did well on the test.

Craig said he worked on this because as an engineer when he had a problem he fixed it. He was disgusted when he learned psychologists and psychiatrists do pretty much nothing for patients.

It can work once you learn how, for almost any stress or anxiety attack.

Answer 5

Hey Jasio - YOU need to invite some people out and initiate some social connections. Have you thought about asking another girl out? Another thing that is really good for depression is exercise - any physical exercise will raise your spirits. The less time you spend thinking about your former girlfriend, the better. You need to get that into perspective and look for someone else. Get on the phone and start calling some girls. I bet there are a dozen that would be thrilled if you called them. Keep telling yourself that this is temporary and it's going to get better - trust me on that one. It WILL get better. Just take good care of yourself! You sound like a nice guy and I hope that you can find some happiness in your life. I hope it happens very, very soon! Good luck to you!

Answer 6

No matter what your age, being the new kid in town is hard. I found that doing things within my interests was the best way to get through the tough times. Wether you like art or football, there's always places you can go, and things you can do to take your mind off things. And chances are, you'll meet new people with the same interests whom you'll keep as friends for life.

Answer 7

You need to get out and find some social activites and find a new group of friends to interact with. Remember, if you are truly showing signs of depression, this can be a turn off for some people who are uncomfortable around such behavior and would describe you as a party pooper. Be aware of how you affect others. Maybe counseling will help you to examine your feelings and explore your options. Try it.

Answer 8

It might sound cold and difficult 2 show but try not 2 let her C U pining 4 her. Don't know how old U r, but I'm guessing Ur young that's all U need just try N feel life.Ur a guy(I think) so it should be easier 2 just say " Hey let's go ... "2 some1. Or just go Ur self I went 2 movies by my self often I'd meet some1 new N refreshingly Diff. so try it just B wise of who U pick N what U do.

Answer 9

There is a saying that my dad always mentioned to me, "Son there are a lot fish in the sea." That would be applicable here as well. Try not to dwell on things like that there a lot of people to discover you just need to fish in a different location. Do what you enjoy like your hobbies if you have any and family always helps when there pretty much is nothing else. Its always worked for me to cut the edge off so wouldn't dwell to much on it it should help you regain your focus.

Answer 10

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