i'm ok when i wake up, go to school/work and think about what i'd like to accomplish. or when i go out with my friend, go to the movies, read a book & so on...but when i get home, in the afternoon and in the middle of the night (if i can't fall asleep) i feel really depressed. i so miss having someone in my life and it just doesn't happen. so how do i deal with being single and feel satisfied about being alone. (please don't write about going out and dating different people 'cause you can't force yourself into falling in love.) you can fool your mind but not your heart.
thanks.
2006-09-29 14:03:38 · 12 answers · asked by Eden 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is really nothing you can do but get out there and meet someone that's good enough and can satify you mentally,emotionally and physically. Get out of the house your not gonna find someone there!!!
2006-09-29 14:06:53 · answer #1 · answered by Mycan Moneek 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know how you always no matter what make the best choice, this is like a life axiom.
Later it may not seem to be the right choice but at the moment you have made it, it was.
This is is without doubt so. Always, otherwise you would not have made the given choice.
Love is in a way a choice, because being single or being with someone is always the best for you in a given stage of your life.
You might think that right now you might be much better off being with somebody but the truth is probably you will not be if you are not with somebody already.
Circumstances are always what is best for us in any situation.
I believe we come to the earth with a personal program to accomplish.
Like a school curriculum or a fitness program.
The only difference there is no way out of it, you cannot opt out.
And this program/ challenges or whatever it is develops us. It has a peculiar timing though, sometimes it might seem we are not developing at all.
So we get depressed about it, in a way impatient trying to speed up the process.
But it just doesn't work that way.
And being patient is a true virtue, one that equals having good faith things are developing just right for you.
So to sum it up... don' despair.
What you have is the best you have got, and you should not doubt it.
Just try to be calm and serene about it. As a true sailor in life ;)
Love,
MIMI
2006-10-02 15:32:38 · answer #2 · answered by Mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in the same situation as you right now. Me and my ex broke up a lil while ago and im still not use to the fact of being alone. I hate spending my weekends being lonely thinking of how things were before. Your right you cant force yourself into love or a relationship until you are ready and it feels right. Im not really sure how you can be satisfied, maybe you need to figure out what other types of things make you happy besides a partner or a past love. If you start to feel depressed at night turn on the tv or pull out a book to keep your mind from wandering to depressing places. What type of person are you? Maybe the answer isnt about going out to find a new relationship but going out to just have fun, go out with a friend to a club or bar? or if that doesnt do it for you why not try making new friends, discover new things?
2006-09-29 14:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel hun! Right now it seems like being single isn't the greatest place to be. It's taken me three years to realise that being single CAN be a good thing, and it can also be a BAD thing. Right now, I'm just trying to focus on the positive and whenever I have my low points, I'll just shut myself into my room (and since I'm religious) and just crack open the bible for some advice. It usually works for me. Understandbly the bad part about being single is not having someone else to share your life with... but if you're not content with where you are now, then chances are that you won't feel the same way when you're in future relationship. Take this period of time to figure out who you are, and when you do finally meet Mr. Right, then everything will fall into place.
2006-09-29 14:34:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anythinggoes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so you're a bit lonely at times. I won't lecture you on waiting for the right time/right person, blah blah blah. How about signing up for a dating service or something? Or maybe you could chat online before you go to bed at night? Ever think about trying to hook up with an old flame or friend from the past you could get interested in? You know, the grass is always greener on the other side though too. I am happily married, but also think about the peace and fun of being single! Good luck to you.
2006-09-29 14:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by swirlygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so true....i have had the same problem in my life of feeling alone and lonely and it has been true that at different times in different relationships that that feeling has disappeared for a while but once the relationship has gotten over the "merging" part i still feel alone, maybe not quite as lonely but definately alone....when i am out of a relationship i feel very lonely.....and i am 51 years old...so i guess unless you can figure out a way to deal with it, it won't go away as you get older...one thing i have noticed is that lonely is not so bad after being in a couple of bad marriages where i was wishing i could be alone because lonely was much easier to deal with than feeling neglected or disrespected....this doesnt bring you much hope does it? try to find something to think about or do when you are feeling sad.....to get your mind off of it...
2006-09-29 14:11:46 · answer #6 · answered by bertha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might take a class in something that I am interested in. For me, that might be learning how to make jewelry or a class on learning about collage. It is common for people to feel lonely from time to time. There are people who are married, who are terribly lonely. Maybe you are being spared of that situation. It is important that you enjoy your time alone. If you have too much time to yourself, you could volunteer for a good cause. Volunteering is very rewarding and you will meet all kinds of good-hearted people, interested in meeting other people who are good-hearted. I hope this helps!
2006-09-29 14:09:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something you enjoy doing to keep your mind away from being depressed. Talk to people, go online and find something fun to do. Play games. Chat...
2006-09-29 14:06:29 · answer #8 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i agree if you find yourself a close friend or find someone on net to talk to you will feel better and you never know whats round the corner
2006-09-29 14:07:12 · answer #9 · answered by johnny boy rebel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to hang out with friends more. get into sports.
2006-09-29 14:05:30 · answer #10 · answered by WORLD CLASS 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋