So, I know this is kind of an odd question, but I was wondering if you can have a Mormon wedding at the Temple and then have a other wedding for those who would'nt be able to attend a wedding in the Temple. I'm not a Mormon per say, but I have a strong desire to join the church once I've moved out of my parents house. The reason I'm waiting to convert is because my mom tod me that once I'm out of the house I can make that decision, so for now, I'm stuck with my icky Baptist Church...lol. I'm in a very serious relationship with my best friend, boyfriend, and the best guy I've ever met. He's the one who inspired me to look into the LDS church. I absolutly love him, his family, his friends, goals and beliefs, and he knows I'm wanting to become a Mormon once I'm 18. We both want to have a wedding in the Temple but my family wont be able to attend because they're not Mormon. So can I have another wedding after having one in the Temple so the rest of my family can attend?
2006-09-29 13:50:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Ok, just to let everyone know I'm only 16 and I'm not engaged. I'm just a girl who can't convert to Mormonism till I'm out of the house and am in a serious relationship with a Mormon boy. I'm planning on converting as soon as possible, transfering to BYU (Brigham Young University (in Utah)) and hopefully going on a mission unless I am asked be eternally married to the perfect Mormon boy for me (hopefully the one I'm with now. most likely...) I do know about what it takes to be able to enter the Temple and be eternally married and how important it is. I just need suggestions on what I should do so I can find a way to include my family (in which they are not Mormon) in this huge event in my life. I'm not going to get married anytime soon. First, I have to get out of high school so I can finally become a mormon. lol
2006-10-01 15:17:02 · update #1
Very happy for you that you're happy in the relationship that you're in. I just wanted to make that clear so that you didn't dismiss what I say next; I really hope you don't get married right after you turn 18. I understand that you love him and know you want to spend the rest of your life with him. If you're going to spend the rest of your life with him though, what's the rush? I really hope you hold off for a little while after you move out of your parents house and in with him. Now as far as the weddings, it'd all be up to the Temple and Church. They're both just ceremonys so there's no 'legal' reason why you can't have one and then the other. Ideally though.. you could maybe have an outside wedding that could possibly involve both of your families beliefs. Or if you're converting, just yours and your soon to be husbands. So.. you 'can' have two weddings, I hope you can work things out that you only have to have one though.
2006-09-29 13:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sure why not? Having a temple wedding is very high honor and I would definitely not pass up the opportunity to do so. Just make sure you and your fiance' talk with the bishop before starting your plans. I don't know how much you know about Mormon Temple weddings, but you have to be temple-worthy not just be a church member.
As for the second "wedding" I would make it less formal. You wouldnt really need an officiant since you'll already be married but perhaps you can still have a wedding party if you want. Have your bridesmaids and groomsmen walk down the aisle in front of you and then you and your husband enter together. You can say do a reading or two about love and family, and then ask all your guests to join you celebrating your commitment to each other at the reception.
Its definitely not the traditional way to go, but it can be done. Also, www.customweddingsolutions.com sells a special wedding album for Mormon Temple Weddings. You might want to check it out.
Congratulations on your upcoming marriage. The Mormon Church is a wonderful loving community. I'm sure you wil l truly find peace.
2006-09-29 14:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy-of-Twins 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
There has been some really good advice given...just wanted to add my two cents.
You could have a ring ceremony and have someone explain the temple marriage...that was a very good suggestion, the best I think. I would not try to have two weddings, because your temple sealing will be the only one that really matters. You can exchange rings though after outside or at the church or where ever because there is actually not any part in the temple wedding where you exchange rings, they actually have you move away from the altar and do it if you want. So you could save that part for your family to see...
Good luck...and also, you might have a long engagement because I think you have to wait a year or so after you have been baptized to go to the temple...you might want to check on that incase you are planning to get married right away.
2006-09-30 07:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband joined the church after we first started dating. When we married my family and friends could go to the temple but his parents could not. Even though they were super supportive I didn't want to start a relationship with my in-laws with them not being able to attend the wedding. The church does not want those who marry in Temple to exchange vows. It is like not believing the Temple vows are important- when in reality they are more important. What you can do is have a ring exchange. Have someone talk about what happened in the Temple that day and how your love can now last into eternity. Exchange rings without exchanging vows. I hope that helps. Good luck with your investigation of the church. I know its' been the best thing in my life!
2006-09-29 13:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by gizbit76 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You don't understand about the temple and the significance of it. The minority of Mormons are able to gain access to the temple. It is about 8-10% and as a new convert, you would not be eliglble to go.
You have to be married in a church first and then a temple marriage afterwards _if you qualify._
Dont give up on the Baptist church. It is not "icky". I got saved in one and have been a part of one for many years. The Baptist church is not a perfect church and has some problems.
I looked at the Mormon church and concluded from what I read in the Bible that Joseph Smith is a false prophet and we are commanded in the Bible not to listen to what he says. The LDS Church disagrees with the Bible on the nature of God, Salvation and other major teachings of the church.
Don't sell your birthright for a bowl of soup like Esau did! Love on earth is good, but salvation forever is more important!
2006-10-01 02:09:31 · answer #5 · answered by Buzz s 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
There would be no reason to have a civil wedding after a temple wedding. If you belive the teaching of the church, The temple wedding will be all you need. If you get married civily after your temple wedding. It will not be in a mormon church and would show that you do not truley believe in the religion.
2006-10-03 03:38:18 · answer #6 · answered by Darren c 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
LDS faithful believe civil marriages are dissolved at death if they are not later solemnized with a sealing, but that a couple who has been sealed in the temple will be married beyond physical death if they remain righteous. An illustrative difference in the marriage ceremony performed in LDS temples is the replacement of the words "until death do us part" with "for time and all eternity".
You can have civil ceremony wedding only, because i do not think that baptists will marry couple belonging to different faith.
You both will be Mormons. As a matter of facts Mormons might allow you to marry first in civil ceremony and later solemnize it with a sealing.
2006-09-29 14:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good question.
In my case, I joined the church in High School, served a mission and then got married in the Temple. My family could not attend, so we also performed a ring ceremony, primarily so they could feel part of the whole experience. It was simple, beautiful and enough to please my family.
You will need to have been an active, worthy member of the church for one year before entering the Temple. This will give you time to prepare yourself spiritually.
Good luck. If you have any other questions, send me an e-mail.
2006-10-01 09:01:23 · answer #8 · answered by whapingmon 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you can maybe have a wedding celebration afterwards. I don't think two weddings would be appropriate. Perhaps a family reception for everyone not attending the wedding.
2006-09-29 14:46:59 · answer #9 · answered by LaLa 78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't throw away what God has given you for a Mormon. Mormonism is a Satanic occultic cult and is against Christianity. I know because I was raised in it, my family has been in it since 1853 with Brigham Young. I lived in a Godless Mormon household and it is hell to be separated from God the way Mormons are. Look at the way they decorate their temples with pentagrams instead of the cross, and look at their obsession with contact with the dead and spiritualism which God condemns because it is demonic. Mormons believe they are trying to earn their way back to God and that is not right. When you are a Christian, God is with you here and now. Do not give that up for a Mormon boy and his family. Find another Christian church that can help you with your spiritual needs.
2006-09-29 17:33:39 · answer #10 · answered by kirstycristy 3 · 2⤊ 7⤋