So many kids in this world arenot taught to behave and act properly.
2006-09-29 13:29:25 · 16 answers · asked by Monika B 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You have to discipline your kids. Without boundaries and limits your kid will end up either totally withdrawn from the world suffering from loneliness, not fitting in, and being too afraid to really try anything even the good things. Or they end up in all sorts of trouble; gangs the law maybe even dead. The truth is that children thrive in a structured environment. They are the happiest when they know right from wrong.
2006-09-29 17:31:04 · answer #1 · answered by Lesley C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Reading all the answers here is very interesting.
Its a question of action and consequence.
I dont believe in beating a child but my kids have definately had a smack on there butts from time to time.
As for time out that can be good as can withholding priviledges and possession but in others it is a waste of time.
Violence begets violence? Get a grip... there are killers and abusers out there who heve never been in an enviroment of violence. In fact in some cases the opposite...heard of the menedez brothers mmmm?
action and consequence.
Once in a temper my 6 year old son pushed his 4 year old brother down some stairs not being maliscious but not understanding what the consequences are. He got a good whack on his butt for that after all even if they are ok if he did it at 18 he gets arrested.
Their punishments and the severity depend on the action.
If you threaten a punishment go through with it otherwise they know your telling crap and wont listen.
Hugging them and fussing afterwards gives mixed messages and defeats the purpose of a punishment.
Kids are NOT stupid. They quickly learn how to lie and get what they want. They are not being bad or evil just kids.
2006-09-29 23:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by dragonaotearoa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DO and have been disciplining our child since he became about 2 years old (it's pointless to do it before then -- they will not understand!...you just keep them out of harm's way and care for them). HOWEVER: I have never hit my child (he's 16 and very well-behaved and respectful). Hitting is not only barbaric and damaging, but one of the major causes for the violence we see in children today...NOT TV or videos or lack of discipline!
NO discipline is bad, but that doesn't mean hitting a child is EVER good! (including spanking...it hurts!). Would you correct an adult's negative behavior by whacking him or her? NO. WHy not? Because you're either afraid of getting the snot beat out of you, or shot, or getting arrested for assault and battery!
So why do to your own kids what you wouldn't consider doing to a stranger? It's moronic. Children should have as many rights as adults do not to be hurt!
There are many effective methods of discipline, which work well at different ages. Time out is one of the first and best. Simply removing a child from a dangerous or negative situation (such as fighting), works best witih toddlers.
As kids get older and can understand consequences, they can have priveleges revoked, like TV and toys, or be sent to their room.
Teens often say, "Hey, that's where I wanna be anyway! MY stuff is all there!". With teens, you can confiscate their "toys" too, (video games, iPods, TV's, cell-phones), limit or remove phone priveleges and visits from or to friends, if they refuse to obey the rules.
Also, be realistic with your rules. Any parent seeking absolute control over their child has a REAL problem and needs help! Kids WILL test limits. Choose your battles. My kid dyed his hair black and it looks absurd. So what? Am I going to waste my time on THAT? No. I'll save my energy for other problems, like when he doesn't do shoolwork.
Consistency, compassion and INFORMATION are your best tools for keeping kids in line and teaching them responsibility and the fact that negative behavior has consequences, in the family as well as in life.
If you hit, you only teach violence and fear.
2006-09-29 14:09:12 · answer #3 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do believe in dsapling a child. But I don't believe in spanking them. Some people spank their children and get to carry away and hurt them emotional and physical. I think one of the best disaplining is put them in a corner or take some of their privelage away. Like if they want to go to movie then grounded them and tell them why you are doing it and be good to the child. Show them you love them and you are trying to teach them from right and wrong.
2006-09-29 14:05:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes, discipline is very important but people today can't distinguish between discipline and abuse which is why kids run amock and the world is turning into a worse and worse place. I'd live on a desert island if I could.
2006-09-29 13:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by NikC 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but discipline comes in appropriate and inappropriate forms... I do not believe in spanking a child... I do believe in time-out, removal of privileges and communication....
Violence begets violence....
Children learn what they live.... A long time ago I was given a piece of parenting advise that has always stuck with me... "Never do or say something to your child you don't want to see done or said to your grandchild" It gave me a new perspective my children will parent their children the way I parent them....
2006-09-29 18:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in discipline, NOT bullying or any type of abuse (physical,emotional, mental). I think children can get a good whack on the bum every now & then, also time outs for reasonable times(1 min for every year of age) , but anything more than that I believe is abuse.
2006-09-29 14:12:03 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca V 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Let me give you my own opinion.I have 2 children, My first born is now 15 years old. This girl is mouthy, ruthless,defiant and hateful.
Why???? I did discipline my daughter by spanking her. After she went to school she learned " If you get a whippin , you can call 911." Thats when the government took our control away from the parents, and thats when the children gained controll over the parents. By threatening 911 before a whippen. It made parents afraid of feeling like if the social services came to their home, it made them feel like failure as a parent. My daughter controlled me for 10 years when I told her NO, she would keep on till I gave in to her. I brought her the things she wanted( spoiled her just to shut her up. after she got into her teens, she really got bad. She started talking to adults like they were dirt under her feet But, If a kid at school was going to beat her up, she was afraid to go to school. Why, because she know's if an adult hits her they may go to jail. and she knows that if someone is under the age of 18 years old knocks the hell out of her she hasn't got a leg to stand on. But, anyways. I should have continued to spank her because, I went to JAIL about a month ago... because we were argueing and she was telling me what she was and wasn't going to do and how I was going to do what she said. The POLICE was called and after 10 years of this abuse from her, I was angry and was gettin LIPPY with the law. I went to jail for disorderly conduct. I told the police I felt like I was robbed my rights of raising my child with a good ole fashion * ss wippin ,that always taught me about respecting others. I should have spanked her many , many times and went to court for it. And plead my case because, I WENT TO JAIL ANYWAY because of anger build up. As for my daughter and I, she lives with a relative now( mutual agreement between us, not the court.) By the way, Iam blaming myself too, because I should have as a parent , went on with the disipline and not worried about the law because, there is a difference in a butt-wippin and actual physical abuse!!!
2006-09-29 15:20:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe in disapline. But as for spanking, I beleive it's a last resort if you've tried other things first.
2006-09-29 13:36:05 · answer #9 · answered by jayzee 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Yes I believe if more parents did then therre wouldn't be as much crazy **** going on in the world
2006-09-29 13:34:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋