I treat a woman like a woman....open doors...take her to dinner...complement her on her looks...ect... It seems everyone is drawn to good looking creeps that are interested in one things and then they get hurt. What am I doing wrong. (Dr. Phil...let someone else answer this time)
2006-09-29 13:14:17 · 28 answers · asked by david 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Many women will not end up falling for a guy that treats them as they should be treated for weird reasons. We all WANT a guy who will treat us well and open doors and give us cmpliments ECT... but for some reason, when a guy does all that stuff right from the outset, its a turn off.
Girls like excitement - the most exciting part of a relationship is the chase. The whole "thrill of the chase" thing. Pretty much, if there is no thrill, there will be no chase either because she wont be interested. Be spontaneous and keep her guessing.
She DOES want those things that you listed, but you dont have to do all that stuff right away. many girls will mistrust that and feel like you are trying to make them fall for you or manipulate them into sleeping with you. A girl wants those things from someone that she TRUSTS... the best time to start doing them for her is once you are already dating - before then, keep it sponatneous and keep her guessing.
Even if she doesnt think you are trying to get her into bed, she will probably think that you are already whipped if you are that nice from the beginning and she will slam you into the "Friend" category faster than you can blink. When a girl is still trying to decide if she is interested in you, its a turn-off to her if she thinks you are already head over heels for her. Where as, if you were to keep her guessing as to whether or not you are truely interested in her, she will end up thinking about you a lot more and trying to figure you out... and you will become much more appealing to her because it will be a mystery that she wants to solve.
Anyways, i hope the insight into the confusing and contradicting mind of women helps you out.
Oh - the last biggy is confidence. the right amount of confidence can make an average guy completely irrisitable!
Good luck!
2006-09-29 13:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by Jewlbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 03:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is missing, forget about your looks average guys find girls all the time. Personal hygiene, halitosis, temper, jealously, money. Be honest with yourself if no one else. Could be you pick the same type girl every time. Maybe you are really afraid of a true relationship and are using your looks as a crutch. I t just seems like this is to simple. Don't blame the Bad Guy Myth, maybe Dr. Phil can help let him answer.
2006-09-29 13:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by mygreensilhouette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, we're funny creatures sometimes. Maybe it shows that you're trying too hard. That kinda creeps us out, because it makes us think that you're a stalker or something. Or it could be that you're dealing with a slightly immature crowd. If you deal with women who are into the bad boy image, then a guy like you would never get anywhere relationship-wise with them. Try seeking out more mature women who have had it with the whole bad boy thing.
2006-09-29 13:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by dorky_goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first reason is that you are nice...For some reason women like "bad boys" The second is that you don't have a woman. Woman don't want anyone that nobody else wants. So if you get urself a girl, they will start to come out of the woodworks.
2006-09-29 13:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by Sharee B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont sweat it. You will find a girl who appreciates the thoughtful things that you do. But I do have one question. Are you a bad kisser? Cuz that will run a woman off very quickly. Ask some of the women you have kissed and if you are try to remedy that.
2006-09-29 13:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by randella_24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think anyone who doesnt know you can give you a quick answer to that question. but i say, it is probably boils down to one thing, which is the same for anything in life ... confidence!
you neet to be confident. you see, the reason, wjy women go for the "bad guy" sometimes is because if nothing else he appears to be confident. there isnt anything wrong with trying to please or show respect to a woman as long as you are confident in yourself. to learn more about confidence you can go to beasuccessmagent.com send me an email and i will be happy to send you a FREE cd on confidence.
good luck.
2006-09-29 13:25:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww you seem like such a nice guy, but of course us women want the a**holes who treat us like crap unfortunately...well my advice is to just stop looking for love. love will come to you when it does, don't rush because if you rush you will more than likely end up with a woman who will use you and you don't want that. so just take it one day at a time and let love find its way to you. Good Luck!!!
2006-09-29 13:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by lovelye513 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try more flattery and be confident and able to make a decision. They do not always need to be pampered although they do some. Show that you can stand up and do things that need to be done. The looking does not have near as much as you think to do with it.
2006-09-29 13:22:34 · answer #9 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like the perfect guy.Women tend to go for the 'bad' boy.A bit of rough,more excitement.That is why women are always on here asking for advice about relationships.They keep picking the wrong men.
2006-09-29 13:17:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋