why is it such a crime to spank unruly children in public?

Question

am in no way referring to abuse, Just a good butt warming when it is needed the most!!

Answer 1

Liberals don't have any sense of what's appropriate and what's not. For example, they'll call that abuse, but are all for the killing of the pre-born. They need to all be put into mental hospitals.

Answer 2

For the same reason that it would be such a crime if the police were allowed to kick your butt if you jay walked. In other words, if they (the police) felt that you were too young (mentally) to understand how dangerous it is to jay walk, and decided you needed a good butt warming to remind you that your behavior is unacceptable, would you agree with them?

There are more acceptable approaches to dealing with unacceptable behavior. In your case, a ticket that punishes you by way of relieving you of some of your money. In the case of your child, letting him know that if he doesn't behave there will be consequences such as no desert after dinner, no watching TV, no riding his bike, etc., etc. You pick whatever you think will be effective based on what you know to be important to him.

I think that the more you think about this, the more you realize that violence (your spanking your kid, or the police kicking your butt) is not the best thing to do, and it teaches the victims that violence is acceptable and therefore something they should feel free to do themselves later.

Some day you will be older, a senior citizen, and you might, because of health reasons, find yourself soiling your underwear because you can't make it to the bathroom in time. Would you want your then grownup kids to give your frail body a punishing spanking because they viewed your soiling your underwear as unacceptable? What goes around comes around. What you teach your kids through your behavior may some day come back to bite you. My advice is be good to your kids. Think before you act, so that hopefully, when you get old and frail, they too will think before they act.

Answer 3

because some people view spanking as a type of negative punishment that affects the child's pyschological status and may cause the child to become more responsive with violence and have a retaliation type attitude that follows him through life, and he will eventually think in terms of solving problems by violence

And i agree with wandermind above, spanking doesn't work against children, because you are responding in a physical way towards the child. You should respond in an emotional way and understand things from the child's perspective.

And as for that person who quoted that liberals should see a mental institute, abortion and child punishment are two different scenarios that you can't compare as being equal. Abortion is a not a health issue, it's a 1st amendment issue on individual rights, and the baby is still part of the woman and not proven to be alive until being fully developed. Child punishment is a health issue focusing on children's growth.

Answer 4

Spanking or disciplining children in public is in poor taste because it humiliates the child-- which will give him a bad memory that will sort of outlast whatever benefit was gained by disciplining him at that particular moment. Also you run the risk of angering anyone who sees you spank the kid because a lot of people don't believe in spanking AT ALL. (Unless they are paying a hoe to do it to them.)

If your kid acts bad in a public place, tell him loudly-- so people can hear-- that if he keeps it up, he runs the risk of incurring a spanking. Explain how he's being bad so that everyone in hearing distance will realize that you are not just lashing out because you are, say, drunk or just an angry and ignorant person.

If the bad behavior persists in spite of your warning, take the child to a private area-- such as the bathroom or your car, or someplace besides the public area where he's being bad-- and discipline him there. (I hope that it would not come to that, however.)

If I see someone swat their kid on the butt a couple of times in public, I think nothing of it even if the kid screams bloody murder. If I see someone slap their kid in the face or jerk him around by his arm, then I start watching that person and may feel compelled to call the police.

Answer 5

I don't think it is. I know some people do but I think b/c it is embrassing. I would rather me or someone else be embrassed in public, then have a 5yr old screaming at me in the store b/c they want something and I said no. SOME people think hitting=abuse. Abuse is an attempt to control the behaviour of another person (in this case a child). It is a MISUSE of power which uses the bonds of intimacy, trust and dependency to make the victim vulnerable. I don't think your misusing your power as a parent to displince your child when you spank them. I don't think it's the ONLY way to displince but when all else fails. It's like people putting Tabasco sauce on their kids tongues when they curse (what's the point of that)

Answer 6

You call it "butt warming," others call it abuse. Your child is a living thing. You have no idea of the harm you can cause by physical abuse. Especially someone that depends on you and trusts you. If they're a brat, then you screwed up somewhere along the line by saying "yes" too many times. It's never too late to start. Just start saying no, but tell them you love them just the same.

Answer 7

I understand the concept of corporal punishment, and will even go so far as to say there may be some isolated instances where it could be effective; however, I have never met anyone who was disciplined that way as a child who didn't feel that their parents went overboard at times...it is important to use a form of discipline through which you can effectively communicate a lesson to your child, without allowing your emotional response to become the focus.

Answer 8

Some people view spanking as child abuse and view parents who spank their children in public as bad parents.

Answer 9

As a spanish child, I was spanked, a lot, and HARD. Yeah, it hurt a HELL of a lot, but it also made me who I am. I'm not saying that I will beat my kids, but if needed, a quick slap on the butt will be given. I haven't turned out bad, in fact I learned to respect people, be polite, and to behave all because of it.

I've seen lots of kids at my work that are SO out of line I wish their mothers would just hit them and get it through their heads that THEY are NOT in charge! Yes, you want your kids to trust you, but you have to make it known to them that they are not equal to you when they are young (by that I mean that they cannot make rules and break them when they please and such).

Answer 10

I guess it makes people uncomfortable? They probably assume if you are OK with hitting in public that you really let loose at home. It is just better for everyone if you just leave the store or public area and bring the chld home. By the time you get to the car and in the car seat the behavior has probably improved and all will be well.

Answer 11

Well. in some ways, it's not a bad thing. But other people might think its like child abuse. If the kids deserve it, then it shouldn't matter. I mean, who on earth would let their son or daughter run around pulling things off shelves and letting them do whatever they want? It's not bad, it's not child abuse; its teaching kids right from wrong. If you have to do it in public, then go ahead. Honestly, people who think its bad should mind their own buisness.