Im a teen and my mom has a problem with me going to boys houses. She doesnt understand that Im growing up and all I want 2 do is spend time with my boyfriend. She wont allow it to happen. If I do see him he has to come here and sit down. To me that will get boring. Plus, I want privacy but she will think Im 2 young 4 privacy with a male. How can I persuade her decision. She is ruining my relationship cause we cant see each other. How can i persuade her and make a compromise?
2006-09-29 12:50:20 · 17 answers · asked by Tryna_Make_It 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Im 15 years old to let you know
2006-09-29 13:01:07 · update #1
Have her and your boyfriend go out to lunch. Is his intentions honorable? And your age? I think it might be boring at home too,if your mom is right there in your face! Can you go and hang in the backyard? Can you guys watch a movie in the living room and ask your mom for a little privacy? And if you do anything,USE PROTECTION!
2006-09-29 12:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by bigbro.rm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom means well. She understands, all too well, that you ARE growing up and that you want to spend time with your boyfriend. What she's really afraid of is that you will have sex with the boy and end up pregnant or with an STD.
She may trust YOU to make the right decisions, but she may not trust the boy; he could force you or pressure you into doing something you're not ready for, or in the heat of the moment do something stupid like forget to use a condom.
You need to be honest with your mom about what sort of "privacy" and physical contact you want with your boyfriend. Then see if you set up a compromise. For example, if you can honestly promise not to have sex until you're 18, then you will allowed to go out with him anywhere until curfew. Or, you are allowed to see him "alone togeher" in only public places. Or whatever. BE HONEST with her and yourself.
good luck!
2006-09-29 20:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And how long have you been making out with your boyfriend? I raised a couple of 15 year old girls...one of which was VERY wild! I know the stupid decisions most 15 year old girls are capable of making!
You live in your mother's house, completely supported by the money your mother makes. Until you either move out on your own, or start paying half the bills (for services you consume) you have no rights for privacy in your mother's house.
As to her not letting you go to his place or somewhere else for privacy with him...most teenage boys are just a mass of barely controlled hormones. No matter how "nice" your boyfriend may be, about the only thing he is thinking of is getting inside those panties of yours! If this is not something you want, you shouldn't be giving him opportunities to try.
Please remember to exercise birth control and STD protection at all times. If you are like most teenage girls these days, you are regularly "going down" on your boyfriend for his pleasure. Please remember that getting STD infections in your mouth is a common complaint in teenagers--and very painful. Most of them can still be cured with the right antibiotics, but do you REALLY want to tell a doctor just how you ended up with Gonorrhoea on your tongue?
2006-09-29 20:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your bf bails on you because you cant go to his house and get naked, then maybe your mom was on the right track and the bf just wanted to get in your panties ... if he is a sincere and true bf, he will stick it out and grumbling or not, he would be worthwhile
she isn;t ruining anything, she is protecting you from making an inappropriate choice at this point in your life. the fact that she allows your bf to come to your house is the compromise ... what you really want is for her to capitulate and let you have your way.
You forget your mom was a teen once too and knows what goes on at boys houses. if he wont come there, then he just wants sex
2006-09-29 20:15:46 · answer #4 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how old you are, But I can see where yuor mom is going with this. You should try to understand where yuor mom is coming from. In this day and age our world revolves around sex.You cannot persuade me that you and your bf do not have bad intentions in ne way others wise that would be a complete lie. And whether you are ready to explore your sexual endeavors it will happen soon if yur mom doesnt keep yabs on you
2006-09-29 20:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by finest0804 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there something you are doing that you can't do in front of your Mom and that is why you need so much "privacy"?? If your Mom's concern for your welfare is "ruining" your relationship, I would say it's not much of a relationship. Boyfriends come and go, but Mom will always love you!!
2006-09-29 22:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by elliot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT blame yourself or your mam. blame all the teens who have had a baby. the youngest from about 10 or 11, if this boy truley likes you he wont mind at all that your in your house he will just be glad to be with you,
you cant persuade your mom about her decision, you can only prove to her that you CAN be trusted, also if your b/f does get bored then he was only after one thing, & it wasnt saying hi to your mom,
2006-09-29 20:00:53 · answer #7 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom may have good reason, I hate to say (for you). I was just told this in my adult years, and it took me a long time to accept it. Teen boys have testosterone coursing through their veins. They may care for you a great deal and have no ulterior motives, but, just the site of you may get them all "hot and bothered". You both may do something you didn't think you would...I know, it sucks...how 'bout meeting him @ Tim Hortons or with a group of friends? That way, your mom won't be breathing down your neck, and your friends will be there as a "safety"...let me know your thoughts, and how it turns out!
2006-09-29 20:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by joaniebaloney5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The purpose of chaparoning is so you can develop interests together without it turning into sex. Sex will not help you learn about a guy better, it only teaches you to give in to his demands. Use the time to plan a future, maybe. You could turn that into a game. Maybe plan a business or work on homework together. In other words build a life. Good luck.
2006-09-29 20:01:36 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe your mum is trying to keep you safe because maybe she dont know your boyfriends mother so maybe she is scared somthing is going to happen and maybe you all could go shopping together one day to get to know eachother then maybe she will let oyu go to your boyfriends place a few times a week
mums can be over protected and i dont know for sure but you might be the only one or maybe she is just that somthing happened to one of your sisters or brother that you dont know about and thats might be the reason why
somthing mightve happened to your mother even maybe you should sit down and talk to her and see how things work out
2006-09-29 20:12:04 · answer #10 · answered by .♥♥♥♥ lechat_thecat .♥♥♥♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋