whats a good spanking positon to spank a child in?

Question

over the knee maybee my child should be spanked but what positon

Answer 1

Best over the knee/lap. There bottom should be placed kind of over the side where there is full support for the tush from one of your legs (sorry best I can explain this, I hope you get the picture) If you have never done it before you will figure it out in time.

For children 5 or older spankings should be planed, for example they should be told what they did wrong, that they earned a spanking, and to think about it in there room for a few minutes. This way everyone is calm, after taking pants down, make them lean over your lap, and explain that if they cover there bottom or roll off your lap the spanking starts over. Don't be overly cruel here, only start the spanking over if they are really fighting you on it. I have actually never done this, the warning always works.

For children under 5, spankings need to be done on the spot, or as quick as possible due to there shorter attention span.

Good Luck

Answer 2

First of all, you should NEVER spank out of anger... The spanking should be done in love. If you are teaching the child discipline, you should have some discipline yourself.

If a spanking is deemed, talk to the child first and tell them why you will be giving him/her a spanking. Set a limit for how many swats (3 or 4) he/she will receive and leave it at that. After the tears, again talk to them about what happened and ask the child what will be done differently next time.

Give the child a hug and tell them you love them before you leave the room. Allow the child to sit in the room awhile if he or she wants to think about things.

I believe there are other forms of discipline, but spanking IS one - yet not one to be over used.

A naked bottom on the bed works just fine. The spanking shouldn't be done in public, mostly if the child will be baring his bottom.

First and most... don't do it out of anger. Please! We are here to teach our children love - even through a spanking.

Answer 3

Any way you see fit. My parents found that the most effective way was to just grab me or my sis by the arm and spank us where we stood. Don't listen to all these bleeding-hearts who don't believe in spanking. Children who are spanked don't learn that it's ok to hit when they are mad, they learn that every action has a consequence, and that doing something they were told not to do resulted in a slightly painful but ultimately harmless action.
The reason there are so many brats running around nowadays is because not enough parents are spanking/slapping their children.
Remember-there's an extremely broad line between discipline and abuse-discipline is getting spanked, your hands smacked, or your mouth slapped as the result of misbehaving-abuse happens when a child is hit totally unprovoked(like when a drunk parent comes home and punches their child/spouse).

Answer 4

i totally believe in spanking a child for discipline. i was spanked as a child (not alot) and i didnt grow up believing it was ok to "hit when your angry". my parents put us over their knees and used their hands. no belts or rulers or anything like that. just hands. personally i believe thats part of whats wrong with kids today. they arent getting the right discipline at home because their parents dont believe in spanking. putting them in a chair for a half an hour does no good. throughout all of history, kids were disciplined by being spanked. then the end of the 20th century hits and all of a sudden its considered child abuse. ironic thats about the time kids good behavior in general started to decline. it certainly makes me wonder...

Answer 5

When my brother and I were young and we needed some adjusting, my dad would never forget when we got home how many times he said "that's one" or "you want another one?". When we got home we would put on quit a scene to show that we were in no shape to be paddled but have already learned our lesson. He would go to the refrigerator to retreive the paddle that was stored on top of it as he said " Go to your room and ASSUME THE POSITION". This meant to be waiting in our bedroom, leaning face down on the bed with our butt up in the air. usually we made such a scene that by the time he swung he was laughing to hard to do much damage but he always got his point across. Although I feel that my 12 year old is too old to be paddled any more, this was quite effective for him as well. Now I find I get better results by explaining my disappointment and punishing him according to the crime instead of the cure all *** whooping.

Answer 6

Over the knee, with pants UP. Use your bare hand so that you know how hard you are striking. If it hurts your hand, it is too hard. The point is to get a message across, not to hurt your child.

Don't listen to the nay-sayers. Ask yourself: would you rather slap your child on the hand, or have your child get a third degree burn on a hot stove? They get the message from the slap: the stove HURTS, don't touch it. WITHOUT lasting damage.

Answer 7

It's best to spank a child on his/her hand rather than on the "behind," because that can be humiliating for the child. Always use your hand rather than an object so that you'll have a better idea of how hard you're spanking. Be sure to explain calmly to the child what they did to deserve a spanking so that they'll make the connection (bad behavior leads to punishment); otherwise, they're liable to assume you're just angry for no reason.

It also depends on how old your child is. I think the best position is to sit your child against something--a wall, on a chair, etc., so that they're facing you and can pay attention better. Also, they're less likely to wriggle away. For a smaller child, you can sit them in your lap (leaning against you), so that you'll be able to handle them better (if they're trying to crawl away, for example). You can also put an older child in your lap, but they'll be heavier. To keep them in your lap, hold on to both of their wrists. The wrists are less slippery than fingers, and you risk crushing their little fingers accidentally if you grab onto those. Just stay calm the whole time, because kids respond much better to that than to a loud/out-of-control adult. Hope that helps!

Answer 8

You should sit down and put him/her over your thighs and give him/her an old fashioned spanking on the bottom.

Answer 9

your child should never be spanked becasue spanking could easily turn into abuse unintentionally

Answer 10

on your lap
or maybe you should think of a different way of discipline, theres lots of options other than spanking